Stories from your past, from neglect, abuse, or parental pain… can all create patterns that influence how you behave in the present.
In her many years as a marriage and family therapist, Vienna Pharaon realized that she had never met anyone who did not have some original wound from childhood. The degree may vary, but everyone carries some pain from the past, be it from childhood or early adulthood… and these wounds will affect the way we behave in the present.
In her book Breaking the Pattern , Vienna Pharaon takes readers step by step through their journey to understand their original wounds; the causes and how these wounds affect our current lives, and even our children's lives. At the same time, she also guides readers on how to apply the root healing method to "break" the patterns caused by the original wounds.
This journey begins with a journey back to our family of origin. This is where the foundation of our beliefs, values, and identity is first formed. This is where we learn how to relate to others, ourselves, and the world around us.
Your family of origin may be okay all the time, okay sometimes, or okay rarely. But at any rate, it is far from perfect. And often, it is the story of your origin that prevents you from healing, becoming a repetitive pattern that covers up the damage inside.
After all, we all have our own hurts and struggles. Going back in time is not to criticize or hate anyone. Because during the time you were growing up, the adults in your family probably had their own wounds. Maybe to this day, they still have wounds that have not been discovered and resolved.
For that reason, Breaking the Mold by Vienna Pharaon is not intended to justify or criticize anyone, instead, her book is like a torch that guides you to create healthy, lasting changes for yourself.
In each chapter, besides analyzing and guiding you step by step to implement the radical healing method, Vienna Pharaon also presents many practical stories of the clients she has treated. You can see yourself somewhere in each story. It could be the feeling of wanting to be prioritized in the story of Isabel - a woman who was neglected by her parents, so when she grew up, she often forced her lover to spend all her time with her. It could also be the feeling of not belonging in Neil - a gay guy who was not accepted by his family, so he sought the feeling of belonging in drunken, debauched parties...
The stories in the book are like vertical slices of life around us, forcing us to look back at our past and the patterns in our lives. At the same time, it also helps us have a more tolerant and thorough view of the people around us.
Source: https://phunuvietnam.vn/hoc-cach-vuot-qua-ton-thuong-thoi-tho-au-20241027174938778.htm
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