In early June 2025, reappearing in a program on VTV, actress Lan Phuong surprised many people with her youthful appearance. She lost 23-24kg, from 76kg to about 53kg compared to the time after giving birth.

However, behind the radiant appearance is a challenging journey. Over the past two years, the actress has experienced a range of emotions from happiness when having a child to periods of loneliness, fatigue and even depression.

"He doesn't understand my condition, I'm alone in my exhaustion"

Lan Phuong emphasized that the biggest difficulty for people with depression is that most people around them will not see or acknowledge it. In Lan Phuong's case, her family also did not recognize the unusual signs. In particular, her husband - the closest person - could not understand the situation she was going through.

Responding to VietNamNet later, Lan Phuong frankly shared: "He doesn't understand the situation I'm going through. Without understanding, there can be no true sympathy. The more I wait for words of sharing, the more disappointed I am when there is nothing, that state of dependence makes the depression worse. Therefore, I am alone in exhaustion."

Lan Phuong described her condition in more detail as feeling physically and mentally exhausted. ''Sometimes I just lay on the sofa crying, losing all motivation to work or take care of myself. I felt depressed, bored, helpless, didn't want to talk to anyone, sighed all day and cried a lot,'' the actress confided.

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Lan Phuong and her husband took their children out to play in Da Nang .

The most painful thing was when she was pregnant with her second child, due to severe morning sickness, she lost her feelings of love for her older child: "I lost my feelings of love, I couldn't play with or hug my child". But the "more terrible" thing was that when she was in that state, she still had to get up to take care of her child when she heard him cry.

She also admitted feeling lonely even in her own home: "Trying to cope alone, I was lonely in both the small house and the big house." Luckily, her younger brother gradually realized and shared.

Lan Phuong analyzed that depression has many causes, that is when "internally, the damage is inside, there is too much pressure inside and it is not resolved, it gets worse every day".

The most difficult period in Lan Phuong's journey was when her husband had to work in Da Nang. She shared with VietNamNet: "For my husband, I left all my jobs in Hanoi and brought my two children to live in Da Nang for a few months, hoping for support and sharing. But he was busy with work, so from morning to night, I was the only one taking care of my two children and trying to do what I could with my job. My depression did not improve at all."

Despite her unstable mental state, she still tries to fulfill her role as a mother: "I still take care of my children as best as possible. I breastfeed them completely and spend all my time playing with my two children."

"I have to save myself"

The decisive factor that made Lan Phuong determined to change was her concern for her children's future. She realized that her unstable mental state not only affected her but also negatively impacted the psychological development of her children.

From that realization, she began her journey to save herself with an unprecedentedly strong motivation. This was the first time in her life that Lan Phuong could persevere with a strict exercise regimen. Previously, she had tried to exercise many times but could only maintain it for about a month or less. However, the motivation from "having to save herself" helped her exercise regularly for nearly 1.5 years with a frequency of 3-4 sessions per week, combining gym and jogging.

She shared with VietNamNet about her self-healing process: "I have relied on myself for a year now. I realized I was depressed and tried to find a way to heal. When I was depressed, I learned and found joy around me to lift my spirits such as: going to the gym, jogging, the love and affection of my children... lots of joy to become stronger."

More importantly, she completely changed her eating habits to a scientific and healthy one. The nutritional knowledge that she had previously only read but could not apply, has now become an indispensable part of her daily life.

One of Lan Phuong’s most important discoveries on this journey was the realization that she didn’t really know how to love herself. Before, she always thought she loved herself, but the reality was completely different.

Through taking the time to listen and understand herself, she discovered that she did not know how to say no, especially to people in her family. Lan Phuong always tried to please everyone around her, even when she did not feel comfortable.

With her current mental and physical condition, Lan Phuong is completely ready to return to her acting career. She especially wishes to try out roles with many layers of emotions, where she can take advantage of the valuable experiences she has had.

According to Lan Phuong, the hardships and pain she has experienced will become a "treasure" that will help her bring authenticity and depth to future characters. She believes that only after experiencing strong emotions can an actor convey authenticity to the audience.

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Source: https://vietnamnet.vn/lan-phuong-da-kiet-que-the-nao-truoc-khi-thong-bao-ly-than-chong-tay-2425862.html