Prevent school violence by teaching students to control negative emotions

If you cannot control yourself, negative reactions will cause unpredictable consequences. So how can you help students control negative emotions in the short term to limit school violence?

Psychology teacher shows how to behave intelligently with emotional intelligence

According to psychologists, at this time, the "victim" needs to behave intelligently, called emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is the skill of understanding one's own emotions, understanding and recognizing the emotions of others; the skill of controlling one's own emotions towards usefulness, controlling and adjusting the emotions of others. Good control of one's own emotions will help students resolve anger, create psychological balance, promote and create positive energy for themselves.

Ms. Nguyen Thi Huong, a psychological counselor at Tay Thanh High School, Ho Chi Minh City, during a seminar to guide students on emotional management skills.

Changing your actions to keep your emotions fresh is the first effective solution. According to Master Nguyen Thi Huong, a psychological counselor at Tay Thanh High School, Ho Chi Minh City, there are two types of situations that students are often affected by.

One is, the student is affected for a long time, the incident happened for 1 to 2 weeks, or longer. Two is, the immediate negative impact on the student. In the first case, the advice for students is to know how to stop negative thoughts. Turn your negative emotions into positive thoughts. Know how to change your actions, which will lead to a change in emotions. When you change to new actions, your emotions will also become fresher and more positive.

In the second situation, Master Huong advises: "When anger comes suddenly, we need ways to control anger immediately."

4 ways to control anger

1. Slow down your reaction by a beat: Take a deep breath, swallow, turn away, drink water, close your eyes, clench your fists…
2. Safe emotional outbursts: Squeeze a water bottle, the edge of a table, a window bar, a crumpled piece of paper… Any harmless object that is closest to you to release the energy of your hands onto harmless objects. You can also have a verbal outburst by saying your feelings “I am angry, I am upset, I am disappointed”, or screaming in a quiet place.
3. Imagination Explosion: Close your eyes, imagine yourself reacting, then open your eyes, smile and sigh.
4. Crying: A safety valve to release emotions, boys can cry too but don't let tears drown out reason.

We cannot change and control the impacts of life on us, but we can completely control our attitude towards those impacts. Let's learn to take advantage of angry storms to train ourselves to control our emotions, our character will mature more in the storm.

Students suggest ways to control negative emotions

During the experiential and career guidance activity at Tay Thanh High School, the teacher asked the question: "How to manage negative emotions and master friendships?". Students came up with many great solutions, helping to minimize "time bomb" situations that lead to unusual conflicts.

Emotional intelligence is the skill of understanding one's own emotions, understanding and recognizing the emotions of others; the skill of controlling one's own emotions towards usefulness, controlling and adjusting the emotions of others.

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An 11th grade female student said: "When I encounter stressful situations that are difficult to control, I often think of my family and my parents. Thanks to my parents' love, I will restrain myself as much as possible and not react violently, because otherwise I will bother my parents." According to pedagogical psychology, this is a solution to take "spiritual support".

Even small conflicts between students, if not resolved thoroughly, will "explode" over time. One student said: "I will talk to my friends directly. I will not form factions or groups on social networks because it will create bigger conflicts. When you and your friends cannot find a common voice, I will go to my teachers, school and parents. At all costs, I must resolve the conflict completely, otherwise the consequences will be unpredictable."

One solution that many students find effective is to put yourself in the other person's shoes. This will make it easier to sympathize with your friend. "We often blame others, but if you think about it carefully, sometimes we are the ones to blame," one student said.

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