Women need to receive gifts every March 8?

Sống trong cảnh dày đặc các lễ lạt để tôn vinh nhau và đặc biệt cần tặng quà, là đàn ông chúng tôi thấy mệt mỏi - Ảnh minh họa: QUANG ĐỊNH — Living in a dense scene of ceremonies to honor each other and especially needing to give gifts, as men we feel tired - Illustration: QUANG DINH

Honestly, when I was still a young man, every year on this occasion I often paid attention to choosing a gift, a bouquet of flowers or a meaningful trip for the girl I loved.

But since getting married, "all of a sudden March 8th comes out of nowhere" so I almost lose interest, if not worse, get bored with so many days to honor each other.

Then, for some reason, there has been a movement of men's day, men's day, and father's day recently. But it's not very loud or sincere, we feel that most women often post on Facebook about men's day but it's bland and feels more like a joke, teasing each other than sincere concern.

Meanwhile, try to count how many days a year women have? The time before and after Tet is a period filled with events dedicated to women.

There are days like October 20th, then March 8th. There are days that were originally meant for both men and women, but when applied to Vietnam, they are considered women's, like Valentine's Day, February 14th.

So living in a dense scene of ceremonies to honor each other, as men we feel tired. Not only me but many friends also often confide in each other like that.

We men often joke with each other that in Vietnam, we are born with all kinds of ceremonies. Born into a life of men, not all of us men have our birthdays remembered.

Honestly, we men are only passionate and enthusiastic when we are young, when we have the motivation to hunt and conquer the girl we pursue.

But when we got married, we had a different mindset. Our love for our women remained intact, but our behavior, attitude, and approach changed "to suit the situation". We cared more about reality, pursuing the goal of being a strong and secure shoulder for the whole family, especially the wife.

My wife is a teacher, my change from a passionate lover to a difficult, simple and unsophisticated husband also surprised her.

At first, my wife often compared and hinted that her friend cared for her like this and that, and every holiday, they held hands and went out together, gave flowers, bought a private car, and took beautiful pictures for her.

At those times, I told my wife that I did not despise or object to such behavior, but that not doing so did not mean that I no longer loved her. At first, my wife was angry, saying that I was being stubborn and deceitful to avoid my duty, but over time she got used to it.

Until now, we still live happily together, our family is peaceful, my wife rarely reminds her husband or worries about the atmosphere of October 20, March 8, February 14 in society.

I learned and found that humanity created historical days to remind and honor each other. But perhaps nowhere "imitates" and spreads them as quickly as in our country. Any day in the West suddenly becomes an excuse for Vietnamese people to apply and behave formally with each other.

Well, it's not just on March 8th that we love and respect our wives. For my wife, every day since we've known each other for a year or even decades, I wash dishes, go to the market, bathe the children, and do housework so she can focus on her research.

As for me, whenever my wife asks me to celebrate Men's Day or a birthday, I say there's no need for formalities. We just need to treat each other like our parents and ancestors did in the past, love and respect each other, and take care of our children until they grow up, that's the best way to honor each other.

I am not against the right to honor, love each other or show concern for each other in a specific time frame. But do not abuse it and create a burden for the whole society. Over time, it becomes a formality.

Because not everyone has the opportunity to receive flowers and gifts; not everyone gets to say loving words. Widowed women, poor workers, single people… will feel sad when they see other women like themselves being loved. That’s the subtlety.

Reader Dung Trang's sharing about the story of giving gifts to women is not necessarily an "unique" concern. On the "other side", many women still think that gifts are not needed, but having gifts will make them happier. Surely, only when there is sincerity will people give gifts, spend time making them for their other half or female friends/colleagues...

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