Life always has ups and downs. When we are young, we hardly realize this problem and often feel depressed because of insignificant difficulties. In fact, from the perspective of personal development and psychological change, the most difficult and unhappy period of a person's life must be the period of about 10 years, from 45 to 55 years old. Because people in this age group, they not only have to face physical pressure but also have to face psychological pressure imposed by society.
During this stage, some people may take a light-hearted approach to work and consider some choices as unimportant, while others may carefully consider each step in their life. As people enter their 50s, life often enters a more stable phase.
The difficulties they face are not only physical and psychological challenges but also include many different issues related to social life such as maintaining social relationships, maintaining relationships with relatives and friends, and taking care of the elderly and children.
People often say "there are old people above and young people below", especially for men, who are both children, the shoulders that parents lean on, and fathers, responsible for the future of their children.
In the book “The Happiness Curve” by psychologist Jonathan Rauch, based on scientific research on the happiness level of people around the world, the happiness curve in each person’s life is U-shaped. The bottom period is from 45 to 55 years old. Around the age of 50, satisfaction will gradually increase.
Great pressure of life
The period from 40 to 50 years old belongs to middle age, which is also the most stressful time of a person. When they turn 50, their life is almost stable, it is difficult to have big changes.
People in this age group are prone to some mental problems due to career development and family life pressures. Many people suffer from anxiety, insomnia, weight loss and other problems. Because the responsibilities they need to shoulder are many and heavy.
As we grow older, we take on more responsibilities. At first, we are just children of our parents, then we become someone's spouse, employees in a company, and parents of children.
Middle-aged people need to spend time taking care of their elderly parents. At the same time, society always tells them that parental support is very important for the development of their children's lives and careers.
However, a comfortable and beautiful life always requires a certain amount of money to maintain. Under the influence of great work pressure, they have to spend more time on work. They are also the group of people most likely to be eliminated by the company. They worry that their knowledge and skills can no longer keep up with the development of the times.
At this time, the meaning of marriage will be to help two people find goals and directions to work together, and at the same time relieve life's pressures in the process of sharing and accompanying each other.
When both husband and wife can care about family life, take care of elderly parents together and worry about children, the above problems will not affect their lives much.
Physical changes
When it comes to inspiring others, we often say, “It’s never too late to start.” However, this doesn’t apply in every situation.
Just as we can try to maintain our physical condition, we cannot expect the body of an old person to become younger and younger. The pressure of modern life is increasing. Many people suffer from common diseases in middle age when they were young. Physical changes will put great mental pressure on middle-aged people.
After middle-aged people realize these changes in themselves, more serious problems will occur as a result, accelerating their aging process. It can be said that this stage is the stage when people transition from middle age to old age. It takes them 10 years to accept the changes in their bodies and lives.
Some people can successfully escape this state while remaining relatively young mentally.
Unfulfilled dreams
I believe that many people have plans for their lives and have dreams and goals that they want to strive for hidden deep in their hearts. Unfortunately, their living conditions were not good in the past, so they had to hide these dreams in their hearts.
However, as they grow up, they need to face more pressure from the outside world . If a person enters middle age before being able to realize his dream, this problem will become his regret.
It can be said that middle-aged people are always surrounded by many different negative emotions. They have to learn to accept their aging, accept the pressure from the outside world and learn to live with unfulfilled dreams.
Fortunately, after successfully passing this stage, they can gain a deeper understanding of life. And try to use the remaining time to enhance the value of their lives.
Conflict between “relationships”
The so-called role conflict means that in society, each person has his own role, such as father, husband, leader, child… In the early stages of life, we have time to adapt to these role changes.
But when entering the 45 to 55 age group, parents get older, children face big exams like university entrance exams, difficult careers, the boundaries between many human roles begin to blur.
This condition can lead to feelings of burnout, destabilizing one's role as husband or wife, making matters worse.
When we are young, we rely on our physical strength and always think that the future will be better. Even if we stay up late, it seems that any physical injury can be endured, any health damage seems that it can be recovered later. As the years pass, one day, we suddenly realize that we can no longer run as hard as before. This experience is hard to describe in words.
The moment of "awakening", realizing the reality of life
We always live in dreams, full of expectations for the future, looking for miracles in life. But as we grow up and gain experience, we gradually realize that the real world is not full of miracles but consists of 99% normal.
Is life just a constant search for a sense of existence and the pursuit of meaning?
At 45, you are taking care of your aging parents, planning for your children’s future, and supporting your spouse. All of these things prove your existence and worth. Isn’t this what we seek in life?
As we grow older, we accumulate a lot of knowledge and experience. Although we may not be as enthusiastic and energetic as when we were younger, this “wealth” makes us unique in many different fields.
The dreams of youth may have been shattered but we have a deeper understanding of the world. What you pursue is to create miracles, not just hope for miracles to happen. Only by deeply understanding and perceiving the world can we truly increase our chances of success.
All in all, the age from 45 to 55 can be the unhappiest time but it is also the period of getting closer to reality and understanding the true meaning of life.
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