Husband and wife share the joys and sorrows when giving birth

Sharing the journey of taking care of a child is a great happiness for both husband and wife - Illustration: QUANG DINH

The postpartum period is the happiest but also the most vulnerable time for women. Women need to recover their health and get used to life with a new member. At this time, women really need the attention of their family, especially from their husband.

As a doctor, Mr. TNLP (48 years old, living in District 5, Ho Chi Minh City) said that when his wife gave birth, he was the one who was by her side the most and took the most thoughtful care of her.

Night watch for children instead of wife

Mr. P. said that in the first days after giving birth, apart from breastfeeding and expressing milk, his wife did not have to do anything else. According to Mr. P., a woman giving birth is like a "snake that has just shed its skin", weak in strength and spirit. If at this time she does not receive encouragement and care from her family, especially her husband, the woman will feel very sad and confused, and in many cases, she will even suffer from postpartum depression.

Understanding this, during the 5 days off according to the standard to take care of his wife giving birth, he took advantage of every moment to be with his wife and children.

When Mr. P.'s wife gave birth, he stayed at the hospital day and night to take care of her. When the baby was asleep, he took a nap. When the baby was awake, he brought the baby to his wife to breastfeed.

He changes diapers for the baby, buys food for his wife, encourages her, and becomes her greatest spiritual support. When the mother and child are home, he buys food, cooks, changes diapers, and hangs out clothes for the baby...

"A mother needs to have a good spirit and eat well to have enough milk to breastfeed her baby. Just take good care of your wife and your baby will follow suit" - Mr. P. believes.

There were many nights when his wife had to wake up to breastfeed the baby, Mr. P. told his wife to pump and store the milk. At night, his wife went to another room to sleep until morning. He took her place and slept with the baby. Whenever the baby cried for milk, he would warm the milk and feed it to the baby, change the baby's diaper...

Thanks to her husband's attentive care and good diet, Mr. P's wife recovered quickly, was in good spirits, and had plenty of milk to breastfeed her baby.

In response to the news that a National Assembly delegate proposed that the husband be given at least 10 days off when his wife gives birth, as someone who has taken care of his wife after giving birth, Mr. P. strongly supports this proposal and hopes that this proposal will soon become a regulation.

"Exclusive" bathing for children

Ms. HTL (32 years old, living in District 10) said she felt very happy when her husband always took care of her after giving birth. Later, her husband also always accompanied her on the journey of raising children.

Ms. L. said she met her husband when she was 31 years old through a matchmaker. Although he was quiet, she always felt warm when she was with him. They got married after a year of dating.

Since she gave birth, she considered herself a lucky and happy woman to have a husband like him. To her, he is a responsible man who loves his wife and children.

When she was in labor, he was worried and kept kissing her hand to comfort her. And when his daughter was born, he was really moved when he held her for the first time. Both his maternal and paternal grandmothers were there, but he still wanted to be the one to take care of his wife and child.

Having never taken care of a baby before, he was very clumsy at first, but because of his love for his wife and child, he asked the doctor, searched on Google, bought books on how to take care of children and read them...

Just about 2 weeks after Ms. L. gave birth, her husband became a real father. Both grandmothers praised him because they could not believe how skillful he was. In the first days at the hospital, the medical staff bathed the baby, but after returning home, he was the first person to bathe the baby and later he "monopolized" this job.

In the morning, he wakes up early to buy food and cook breakfast and lunch for his wife. In the afternoon, after work, he stops by to buy food for dinner, then cooks, bathes the children, plays with the children, and helps his wife with other housework. He is also very good at work and takes care of the family finances .

Ms. L. said that after giving birth, she felt like she had lost a lot of strength and spirit. Her whole body felt like it had just gone through a fierce battle. But seeing her husband loving their child and taking good care of his wife, she felt warm and happy.

When the baby slept, he gently massaged her shoulders, neck, legs and arms to help reduce fatigue and quickly restore her health. "My husband has been my greatest spiritual support, encouraging me to overcome this difficult period gently," Ms. L. shared.

Ms. NKB (28 years old, living in District 7) said that after giving birth by cesarean section, she felt exhausted. She had no desire to do anything. At that time, if her husband had not taken care of her and encouraged her, she might have fallen into depression.

She was also shocked when she first took care of a child. Before that, she did not know that taking care of a child was so difficult and laborious. "A woman who has given birth is tired enough just by breastfeeding and changing diapers. If her husband does not share the work and encourage her, the wife will be very tired...", Ms. B. commented.

Proposal that husbands will be given at least 10 days off when their wives give birth

When giving comments on the draft law at the 5th conference of specialized delegates on the draft Law on Social Insurance (amended), delegate To Ai Vang (Soc Trang) made a recommendation on maternity benefits for male workers.

Ms. Vang proposed to study increasing the number of days off to a minimum of 10 days for cases where the wife gives birth normally and higher, possibly double that for cases of twins or more, or caesarean section, to create conditions for the father to support the mother in the process of taking care of young children...

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/vo-chong-dong-cam-cong-kho-luc-sinh-con-20240406225438388.htm