But actually, pretending to be happy or positive doesn't help.
We live in a world where it’s easy to fake things. There are girls who pretend to have the most amazing vacations when they’re really just trying to get by, there are guys who pretend they have money for designer shoes when they’re really in debt.
Instead of pretending to be happy or rich, do the best you can for yourself and save yourself from false values for the following reasons:
You are lying to yourself
A selfie with a positive caption gets you a lot of likes and admiration. Your seemingly perfect life is deceiving your followers, but if you know you’re not really in the best shape of your life, you’re deceiving yourself. So who’s the real fool?
You are adding to your burden.
There is a story that has been passed around on the internet: A teacher asked his students to go to the school's backyard and pick up anything that represented their troubles.
One child picked up a small pebble, another picked up a heavy rock, and then the teacher said they would have to carry it with them for the rest of the week.
The same thing happens when we put off dealing with a bad feeling, we end up just adding to that weight — which can sometimes feel heavier than anything physical.
Everything is going to explode
Imagine a bag that holds all your negative thoughts, or something you keep with you “just in case.” Imagine it continuing to fill until it threatens to burst.
You will lose the habit of looking for real value.
When you put up a wall painted with happiness whether at work or in relationships, everything around it eventually loses its value.
Have dinner with someone and take a candlelit photo to post on social media? Suddenly, the meaning and conversation seem less important as you’re more focused on checking for new comments or “likes.”
You will never escape the virtual maze
When your mind is addicted to validation from others, you don't want to face the truth. The more you live in a virtual world, the more you force yourself to focus on the positive... assumptions.
So, let yourself be sad when you are sad. Let yourself be angry when you are angry. Do it for yourself. True happiness will come after your true feelings.
The secret to finding yourself
To escape the unreasonable expectations of society and yourself, you need quality sleep.
“Exercise is important for sleep, not only because it tires you out — which puts your body into a state of relaxation — but because when you exercise, your body produces hormones that help you calm down,” says Bailey, a therapist in the US.
You don't need to do intense exercise to get a good night's sleep, almost any type of physical exercise will help your sleep to some extent.
A good night's sleep gives you a sense of freedom. If you can't sleep, it's not a character flaw or anything, it just means that your physical condition isn't really right for you to fall into a state of relaxation. It's a solvable problem, as long as you don't overthink it and don't force yourself.
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