Weddings have long been one of the most important ceremonies in the cultural and spiritual life of Vietnamese people. Each wedding is not only the union of two individuals, but also an occasion for two families to unite and unite, an occasion for the community to share joy, express blessings and send good wishes for a new future.
However, in today's modern society, when lifestyles and consumer needs change, Vietnamese weddings are sometimes overwhelmed by foreign elements, causing many traditional cultural values to gradually be forgotten. How can Vietnamese weddings still retain their beautiful values without falling into waste or excessive luxury?
Over time, we see that in the past, weddings were one of the special things, a tradition of people, a cultural feature, the origin of the Vietnamese people, these are family and community relationships. Weddings are not only the day of the bride and groom, but also an event of both families, relatives and friends. From the time the two families met to discuss the wedding until the wedding ceremony, everything exudes the beauty of emotional connection.
On the wedding day, the image of the ancestral altar is indispensable, which is a place to express gratitude to ancestors and the deceased. The wedding ceremony, therefore, is not only a joyful event but also an opportunity for descendants to express their filial piety and respect for previous generations. Rituals such as the engagement ceremony, the bride-welcoming ceremony, and the ancestral ceremony are not only rituals, but also contain profound meanings about human morality, filial piety, and respect for one's roots.
In addition, traditional Vietnamese weddings also pay special attention to hospitality and community sentiment. Guests come to the wedding not only to attend the party, but also to share the joy and send blessings to the couple. Vietnamese people always attach importance to inviting guests, so that each attendee feels the respect and affection of the host family. A beautiful wedding does not necessarily have to be measured by the value of money or expensive gifts. The wedding can be simple but still full of meaning, as long as it contains the sincerity and affection of everyone for each other.
Simple, cozy weddings can take place at home, can be just small parties, hometown dishes but bring a feeling of closeness, intimacy. In such ceremonies, the atmosphere is filled with joy, love and connection of family and friends. We do not need to spend too much money on a "super grand" party, but instead, take advantage of the inherent values in tradition, such as ancestor worship, warm family meals, simple but meaningful blessings.
A beautiful wedding is when people feel love, care and sincerity, not when there are many luxurious dishes or expensive gifts. We can choose small, meaningful gifts such as a box of cakes, a bracelet or simply a sincere congratulations. Such gifts are not only economical but also make the recipient feel appreciated for their sincerity, instead of just items of material value.
In modern society, weddings are now not only an important event in a person's life but also an opportunity for families to show off their wealth, class and social status. However, weddings in Vietnam today are gradually becoming an expensive, competitive "competition", sometimes turning into an unnecessary waste, creating financial burdens not only for the bride and groom but also for both families.
In recent years, the trend of organizing "super grand" weddings has become increasingly popular in big cities like Hanoi , Ho Chi Minh City and developed areas. These weddings are not only held at high-end restaurants but also have a strong investment in every detail such as decoration, menu, banquet, and especially performances and art shows to impress guests. One of the major points of controversy is the cost of banquet and menu. Many families do not hesitate to spend hundreds of millions of dong on lavish parties, with expensive dishes, which are believed to be able to "impress" guests. However, the reality is that many dishes in these weddings are not necessarily eaten by guests, and may even be completely wasted. The elaborate wedding costumes, backdrops, and decorations also make many people surprised because of the level of "waste" that is too much compared to reality.
A major factor leading to wastefulness in weddings is social pressure. Many people, especially those living in urban areas, feel the need to have a “grand” wedding to show off their class and status. This is an integral part of modern consumer culture, where external appearances play an important role in building personal and family image.
In particular, weddings that "open" a married life are often associated with beautiful and brilliant images. Therefore, investing in details from costumes to wedding venues is indispensable, although it can cause financial consequences later.
It is easy to see that many couples and families may have to bear debt after the wedding. The cost of organizing a wedding can now reach hundreds of millions of VND, and for families with low incomes, organizing a grand wedding can be a huge financial burden. In addition, some families place great importance on inviting guests. The number of guests is becoming increasingly "huge", including not only close relatives but also friends, colleagues, and business partners. These additional expenses can put pressure on the family budget, losing the true meaning of the wedding - an event that connects emotions and builds married life.
The extravagance of weddings today is making many people question the true value of a wedding. Are we getting married to please others, or to build a solid foundation for a long-term family life? Clearly, a wedding does not have to be extravagant to be happy. A simple but sincere and emotional ceremony can bring more memorable memories than parties that only focus on appearances.
A beautiful wedding is when the couple feels happy, the two families can get along, and more importantly, when everyone feels the sincerity in every action and congratulation. Therefore, instead of chasing grand standards, we can consider saving and creating a wedding that is deeply personal, while reducing the financial pressure on both families.
Although weddings are an important occasion in life, the wastefulness in organizing weddings in Vietnam today needs to be re-examined. In order to avoid falling into the "trap" of consumption and following social norms, each couple and family needs to think carefully about the true meaning of this important day. A wedding does not need to be too grand, just sincere, cozy and suitable for financial capacity is enough to bring complete happiness.
In order for Vietnamese weddings to become a beautiful cultural feature of the nation, the most important thing is that we need to preserve and promote traditional values, while eliminating factors that distort the nature of the wedding ceremony. That is respect for family and community, filial piety to ancestors and hospitality to friends. Weddings are not an occasion to "show off" wealth but an opportunity to express feelings, connect relationships and start a new life with all the joy and hope.
Besides, organizing a wedding should always be considered an opportunity to learn and practice the virtues of modesty, thrift and sharing. A wedding does not necessarily have to have flashy performances, does not need to have thousands of guests. What is important is the sincerity, the enthusiasm of the newlyweds, and the affection of both families for each other.
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