Happy children always have 7 characteristics of their parents

If parents have the following 7 characteristics, their children will always be happy and have a successful life.

1. Parents should not "pour cold water" on their children for the sake of their reputation.

Parents who are too concerned with appearances often hurt their children the most.

Xiao Lan (China), a marketing employee for many years, had no plans to go home for the New Year. It turned out that every time she went home, her parents always compared her gifts with those of their neighbors.

Once, Tieu Lan bought her mother a skin care set. But when giving the gift, her mother's words were like a bucket of cold water thrown in her face: "Look at Ms. Duong, she gave her parents a bunch of lucky money this year. She has worked for so many years but has never shown any gratitude to her parents."

Needless to say, Tieu Lan felt ashamed. This had left a lasting wound in the young girl's heart. Tieu Lan recalled that throughout her adulthood, she had always lived in comparison with "other people's children".

A child who lives in denial and comparison can never have a sense of happiness.

Những đứa trẻ hạnh phúc bao giờ cha mẹ chúng cũng xuất hiện 7 đặc điểm - Ảnh 1. — The simplest way to love your child is to try to use "love language" that the child can understand to communicate. Illustration photo

2. Parents understand clearly: No one can replace their position in raising children!

In modern society, some parents pay little attention to their children because of their busy work. Some parents even vent their anger on their children because of social frustrations. They are indifferent to their children's daily needs.

There is really no love that can replace the love of parents. A child who lives with the love of parents for a long time will easily develop inferiority complex, close his heart, and even develop autism.

Meanwhile, children who have their parents’ care have better personalities. In a warm family, parents often pay attention to cultivating their children’s personalities and other aspects of their studies. Therefore, children are happier and more optimistic from a young age. Children also learn to care for and love others.

3. Emotionally stable parents

Emotionally unstable parents have one thing in common: when they are happy, they will be happy with their children. Once they are in a bad mood, their children will act out by hitting, scolding, or making fun of them.

Many people also believe that emotionally unstable parents are like ticking time bombs, leaving people feeling like homeless children, ready to receive anger.

Parents' emotions not only affect their children's happiness, but also affect their personality formation, behavior, and the development of their IQ and EQ. Children are also sensitive to changes in their parents' emotions. They can quickly observe their parents' words and expressions, and from there they will learn from their parents' actions.

So, be emotionally stable parents, so that your children can receive positive energy, positive orientation and optimism for future development.

Những đứa trẻ hạnh phúc bao giờ cha mẹ chúng cũng xuất hiện 7 đặc điểm - Ảnh 2. — Wise parents understand that it is important to create a balance between personal life and work, through flexible energy adjustment at each stage. Illustration photo

4. Parents never skip ceremonies

One person said: "Whenever the neighbors around have birthday parties, the thing my daughter says most often is: 'Mom, when can I have a birthday party?' At first, I never understood why children love birthdays so much. It was not until my colleague quietly arranged a birthday party for me that I realized that what children expect is not how many gifts they can receive, but the feeling of being valued in a crowd."

On my daughter's 9th birthday, my husband and I quietly arranged a party under the moonlight. Seeing such a grand party scene, my daughter jumped up and said: "I'm so happy, I'm the happiest person in the world ."

The meaning of a celebration is not about fancy food or fancy gifts. Sometimes, a trip near home, a simple family meal... is also very precious.

5. Parents are not too demanding, not too controlling

A study conducted by the University of London in the UK found that children whose parents control and interfere too much with their privacy when they are young will be less independent, have a stronger sense of dependence, and have a lower happiness index after they grow up.

Most parents hope that their children can follow the plans they have carefully arranged. In fact, "planning" for children is not really about letting them act according to parents' requests, but about having the awareness that "children are independent individuals". Only by respecting children can we maintain an equal relationship with them, live in harmony, and children's sense of happiness can become stronger.

Những đứa trẻ hạnh phúc bao giờ cha mẹ chúng cũng xuất hiện 7 đặc điểm - Ảnh 3. — If you want your children to be happy and develop well, be a "trustworthy" parent. Illustration photo

6. Parents let their children decide

Many parents do everything for their children, believing that it is "for their children", but you know, no one likes to be manipulated, including children. Every day you nag your child for doing homework slowly, not having the spirit of daring to think and dare to do, but you never stop to find out why.

On the path of learning and growing up of children, all parents should understand that "letting go is better than holding back". For example, when children do not want to be arranged, like to do things their own way, parents should let go, observe and trust. Accompany and guide instead of doing it for them. When there is strong independence, no matter where they go or what difficulties they encounter in the future, children will know how to resolve any crisis with composure.

7. Parents appreciate and encourage children from the heart

Always encourage and motivate children - treating children in this way can allow them to grow up in a comfortable and happy atmosphere, gain self-confidence and become better. Many parents are used to "suppressing" toeducate their children, they believe that in this way their children will be strong enough to adapt to all the changes in society.

However, the "oppressive" educational method is not suitable for all children, it only inhibits the child's psychology. Instead of forcing children, parents should spend time walking with their children, observing and thinking more from their perspective, looking at children more with appreciation and encouraging them with more words and actions. For children, the most important source of confidence in growing up is their parents!

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