Culture of parties, weddings, engagements…

Wedding invitations, engagement parties, full-month parties, birthdays, longevity celebrations, meetings, farewell parties, etc. are occasions for the host to express their feelings to relatives, guests, relatives, and friends. It is an indispensable activity in the traditional life of people, especially when material life is increasingly improved. However, this is still a rather long story that requires multi-dimensional and comprehensive perspectives to make that happy day truly meaningful, emotional and comfortable from many sides.

My friend shared that last night, he attended a relative’s wedding party and felt so happy, comfortable and at ease… it had been a long time since he “got” to attend a wedding in the true sense of the word, not “tortured” like some other times. After chatting for a while, I realized what it means to “have fun” when attending an invitation party.

First of all, choose the right time to invite guests to the party. Lunchtime parties on working days (not weekdays) often create an awkward situation for the invitees. Attending a party means there is no time for a lunch break and they only dare to use a glass of water to congratulate the host due to work pressure in the early afternoon, so how can they be a little comfortable when attending the party. In particular, some hosts, in order to conveniently arrange their own schedule, invite guests at any convenient time. There are weddings in the countryside where people invite guests at 10am or 4pm, which is really hard to think about because that time is not a normal meal (?!). The most suitable time to invite guests is probably in the evening, after everyone has finished a day of burying their heads in work, otherwise they will fall into the situation of "having a good death anniversary, losing the day of plowing".

After the welcoming ceremony, the ceremony should also be brief and on time. For weddings and engagements, the ancestral ceremony and some procedures should usually be held for relatives of both families before the celebration party. Unfortunately, there are weddings that take more than an hour longer than the time stated on the invitation card for guests to enter the party. Adjusting the sound and music to a moderate level will make everyone feel comfortable. Attending a party is an opportunity to chat and greet each other while listening to soft music. Cultural exchanges should also be moderate and appropriate.

Normally, parties require toasting, but who should hold the glass to "clink"? Should this only be prioritized for the host and other necessary cases? Usually, superiors and elders invite and socialize to encourage their subordinates, which is reasonable. When drinking too much, there is a young but "confident" person who carries his glass to many tables, accidentally tapping the bottom of his glass on the mouth of the older person's glass (?), he should have held his glass lightly and clinked lower than the invited person's glass. There is a story about the person who raised his glass to invite, one hand twisted the shoulder of the invited person, the other hand accidentally tilted and spilled beer, wetting the guest's shirt, leading to a scene of laughter. The same goes for social handshakes, only the older person can extend his hand, and only the younger person can shake hands when he takes the initiative to extend his hand first, just like women are the ones who take the initiative to extend their hand first. Talking about this, we realize that behavior in crowded places is a whole culture of behavior that cannot be done carelessly or roughly.

The number of guests at the party should also be considered appropriately. In addition to the official invitation, an appropriate proportion should be reserved for sending wedding announcements, which means to respectfully announce the good news but not to invite to the party. Sometimes the party is too crowded, the weather is hot, the music is so loud that it hurts the chest, along with many ear-piercing noises, making the party unpleasant.

I see that people in the countryside now go to parties in a more civilized manner, sharing a bus to go together, saving money, ensuring traffic safety, and obeying the law.

Recalling the subsidy period, when material life was still lacking, the form of organizing the invitation party was simple but full of sincere feelings. The person invited by the host felt honored and happy, the host also felt comfortable and relieved when being welcomed in an atmosphere of sharing joy and happiness. Only then would the invitation party become meaningful and full of human affection.

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