12 things a mother-in-law should not do to her daughter-in-law

1. Don't try to be the "judge" all the time.

It is inevitable that a daughter-in-law will have arguments with her husband. Arguments between them can even lead to arguments and tension. However, the mother-in-law should let the daughter-in-law find a way to resolve the conflict with her "other half".

Because if the mother-in-law always tries to be the "judge" to resolve everything, it is likely to make the conflict between daughter-in-law and son even more tense.

2. Do not interfere with where the son and daughter-in-law live together.

Gone are the days when parents placed their children where they wanted them to be. Children have grown up, got married, and have the right to choose their own place of residence to facilitate their lives and work. As parents, you should understand that children are meant to be loved, not to be imposed upon. Just because you no longer live together does not mean your children will forget you.

Her early life as mother-in-law and her son's wife was not easy. Illustrative photo

3. Do not interfere with your daughter-in-law's child-rearing methods.

The most basic reason is that the daughter-in-law is the mother of the child, while the mother-in-law is not. As a mother-in-law, you may not agree with the way your daughter-in-law raises her child, but you need to understand that the young couple is the first and most important person responsible for raising their grandchild.

4. Don't be conservative and force your daughter-in-law to listen to you.

The mother-in-law should not control all the activities of the family, give opinions and force the daughter-in-law to obey completely. To make the final decision on the problems that arise in life, the mother-in-law should also listen to the opinions and wishes of the daughter-in-law.

Mothers-in-law should let their daughters-in-law follow their decisions voluntarily and comfortably instead of doing it with a coping mindset.

5. Do not interfere with your daughter-in-law's weight gain or loss.

This is probably a very delicate matter for every woman, even if she is your mother-in-law, you should not be too close to her to give blunt comments about your daughter-in-law's weight gain or loss. If possible, just talk gently about maintaining health, otherwise let your daughter-in-law feel comfortable.

6. Do not criticize your daughter-in-law to your son

In essence, a marriage is a relationship between your son and another girl and the mother-in-law has no role in it. Talking bad about your daughter-in-law to her husband will only damage their marriage. Instead of criticizing your daughter-in-law, your mother-in-law should find the good in her and nurture that good.

7. Do not pry into your daughter-in-law

Mothers often want to show concern for their sons' lives and become nosy towards their daughters-in-law. A mother's concern for her son is right but it should be expressed in a positive way.

Mothers-in-law should give advice and counsel to their daughters-in-law on things that are not to their liking instead of constantly scrutinizing every action and attitude of their daughters-in-law, finding mistakes to criticize and blame.

8. Do not interfere with your child's schooling.

It's the same with raising grandchildren. If your daughter-in-law wants your grandchild to go to a private school, you feel it's a waste; if your daughter-in-law wants to educate her child using the Jewish method, you want to educate her child using the traditional Eastern method...all of these things are not the mother-in-law's business, so interfering will only cause more conflict in the family.

9. Don't expect your son to "put his mother first"

Now your son has his own family and that will be his top priority. Maybe the mother will feel uncomfortable because she is no longer the number 1 woman in her son's life. However, you should learn to accept this reality.

A thoughtful mother-in-law helps create a harmonious family. Illustration photo

10. Do not interfere with how your daughter-in-law manages her expenses.

This is probably the issue that many mothers-in-law often get stuck on the most, partly because they feel sorry for the money their son earned. But that is something that both husband and wife will negotiate, the money is also earned by them, you interfering would be a bit too much.

11. Don't expect your daughter-in-law to visit often.

A meeting should only take place if both parties wish for it. A mother-in-law should not just expect her daughter-in-law to visit without making an effort to visit her daughter-in-law and her children.

12. Give advance notice if you want to visit your child.

Mothers-in-law should not suddenly appear at their son’s doorstep and assume that they will be welcomed. If a mother-in-law intends to visit you and your husband, she should inform you in advance, unless she happens to be passing by. This is especially important if your family is in a situation where it is not convenient to receive outsiders.

The Okinawan secret to longevity

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/12-dieu-me-chong-dung-lam-voi-con-dau-hon-nhan-cua-cac-con-se-ben-vung-hon-17224031511295575.htm