Haunted by mother-in-law calling to gossip too much, once for more than an hour she still wouldn't hang up

Sometimes she calls in the middle of the night to chat because she can't sleep.

My daughter is getting married but the one who is afraid of her mother-in-law is me!

I have a daughter and a son, both of them are married, which means I am both a mother-in-law and a wife.

I think that except in special cases, mothers who have both a daughter-in-law and a son-in-law usually know how to balance their behavior because it's easier for them to put themselves in the other person's shoes to think.

My son got married first, and after the wedding, they both asked for permission to live separately. The only thing that made me hesitate to agree was that I was afraid that they would not know how to balance their finances.

Renting or buying a house on installments is a fixed amount of money that must be spent every month. If they are not careful, they will eventually run out of money.

Then my husband also said that in the past we were the same, when the children had their own families, they were grown up, even if they had to go hungry for a few months, it was still a lesson for them to grow up. Finally, I agreed to let my son and his wife live separately.

Reality proves that my daughter-in-law is very good at saving money. They don't lack anything. They know how to balance their income and expenses, and even ask for gifts from their parents at the slightest thing.

We are still healthy and still earning money, so why take things from two children? Fortunately, we do not live close to each other, so perhaps that is why my daughter-in-law and I do not have daily conflicts, so the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is extremely peaceful.

My in-laws and I don't have much interaction with each other. We hardly talk to each other all year round. During Tet, we wish each other a few greetings and then normally, we don't have anything to do with each other's lives.

If there is anything wrong with their spouses or children, the adults will handle it on the spot. There is no need to call the in-laws to report the children.

But when my daughter got married, for the first time in my life I realized that in-laws can have so much to talk about.

My daughter's parents-in-law do not live in Hanoi . They are the only two of them here, doing business together and renting a house like her brother and sister.

Their finances are not stable yet, so I often help them with this and that, but basically, their independent lives have nothing to do with us.

Even though she doesn't live near her son and daughter-in-law, I don't know why the mother-in-law has so many problems with them. Whenever there is a problem, she calls me.

She wants her daughter-in-law to call her parents-in-law every day to ask about her, but it's hard because both of them have special jobs. Sometimes they don't get home until 3am.

When I got home, I just lay down and fell asleep without knowing anything else. Just this incident, my mother-in-law called me to tell me that her daughter-in-law did not call to ask about her mother-in-law.

Every time like that, I tactfully say that they won't call me anyway, they're so busy that why do they keep calling, every day is the same, even if they call, they won't know what to say to each other.

But the mother-in-law did not agree, she started telling one story after another, telling about this daughter-in-law and that daughter-in-law to reinforce the idea that the daughter-in-law must call and ask about her mother-in-law every day. Each time like that, the phone call would last for several dozen minutes.

Then there were days when my mother-in-law called me not to tell me anything but just to tell me about everything in her family, occasionally asking about my husband and I's health and then continuing to talk about things that I couldn't remember.

One night, after 11pm, I suddenly felt my phone vibrate. I always pick up calls in the middle of the night because I’m afraid something will happen, my family or relatives need me urgently, so even if it’s an unknown number, I’ll answer. Who would have thought it was my in-laws calling me with a junk SIM card to talk about it because they couldn’t sleep!

One day, my wife called me to gossip about her relatives, all of whom I didn't know, but she still talked enthusiastically.

I just left the phone there and did my work, occasionally saying "yes, yes" a few sentences, and the call lasted for 1 hour and 50 minutes. I had to ask permission to turn it off so I could charge my phone before she stopped, but she didn't forget to add "I'll call you back later".

Now I'm scared of my daughter's mother-in-law, every time I see her phone number I feel dizzy.

I have mentioned this many times but she doesn’t take it to heart. If I don’t pick up the phone, she will use a junk SIM card, an unknown number or borrow a neighbor’s phone to make the call.

Actually, the fact that my mother-in-law calls me so much is not a bad thing that makes me stressed, it's just that the frequency is too much that makes me feel bothered.

I'd rather just go too far so I have a way to handle it, but everything is so moody here that I really don't know what to do.

It's true that a daughter gets married, but the one who is afraid of her mother-in-law is me!

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