Haunted by my mother-in-law calling to gossip too much, once for more than an hour she still wouldn't hang up.

Sometimes she calls in the middle of the night to chat because she can't sleep.

My daughter is getting married but the one who is afraid of her mother-in-law is me!

I have a daughter and a son, both of whom are married, which means I am both a mother-in-law and a mother-in-law.

I think that except in special cases, mothers who have both a daughter-in-law and a son-in-law usually know how to balance their behavior because they can easily put themselves in the other person's shoes to think.

My son got married first, and after getting married, the two of them asked for permission to live separately. The only thing that made me hesitate to agree was that I was afraid that the two of them wouldn't know how to balance their finances.

Renting or buying a house on installments is also a fixed amount to spend every month, if they are not careful, they will eventually run out of money.

Then my husband also said that in the past we were the same, when the children had their own families, they were already adults, even if they had to go hungry for a few months, it was still a lesson for them to grow up. Finally, I agreed to let my son and his wife live separately.

Reality proves that my daughter-in-law is very good at saving money, they don't lack anything, they know how to balance income and expenses, even asking for gifts for their parents at the slightest thing.

We are still healthy and still earning money, so why take the money from two children? Fortunately, we do not live close to each other, so perhaps that is why my daughter-in-law and I do not have daily conflicts, so the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is extremely peaceful.

My in-laws and I rarely interact with each other. Almost all year round, we don't talk to each other. During Tet, we wish each other a few wishes and then normally, we don't have anything to do with each other's lives.

If there is anything wrong with their spouses or children, the adults will handle it on the spot. There is no need to call the in-laws to tell on the children.

But when my daughter got married, for the first time in my life I realized that in-laws can have so much to say to each other.

My daughter's parents-in-law do not live in Hanoi . Only the two of them live here and do business together. They also rent a house like their siblings.

Their finances are not stable yet, so I often support them with this and that, but basically, their independent lives have nothing to do with us.

Even though she doesn't live near her son and daughter-in-law, I don't understand why the mother-in-law over there has so many problems with them, and whenever there's a problem, she calls me.

She wants her daughter-in-law to call her parents-in-law every day, but it's hard because both of them have special jobs. Sometimes they don't come home until 3am.

When I got home, I just lay down and fell asleep without knowing anything else. Just this incident, my mother-in-law called me to tell me that her daughter-in-law didn't call to ask about her mother-in-law.

Every time like that, I tactfully say that they won't call me anyway, they are so busy that why bother calling all the time, every day is the same, even if they call, they won't know what to say to each other.

But the mother-in-law did not agree. She started telling one story after another, telling about this daughter-in-law and that daughter-in-law to reinforce the idea that the daughter-in-law must call and ask about her mother-in-law every day. Each time like that, the phone call would last for several dozen minutes.

Then there were days when my mother-in-law called me not to tell me anything but just to tell me about everything in her family, occasionally asking about my husband and I's health and then continuing to talk about things that I couldn't remember.

One night, after 11pm, I suddenly felt my phone vibrate. I always pick up the phone in the middle of the night because I'm afraid something will happen, my family or relatives need me urgently, so even if it's an unknown number, I'll answer. Who would have thought it was my in-laws calling with a junk SIM card to talk about it because she couldn't sleep!

One day, my wife called me to gossip about her relatives, all of whom I didn't know, but she still talked enthusiastically.

I just left the phone there and did my work, occasionally saying "yes, yes" a few sentences, and the call lasted for 1 hour and 50 minutes. I had to ask permission to turn it off to charge the phone before she stopped, but she didn't forget to add "I'll call you back later".

Now I'm scared of my daughter's mother-in-law, every time I see her phone number I just feel dizzy.

It's not like I haven't mentioned this many times, but she doesn't take it to heart. If I don't pick up the phone, she'll use a junk SIM card, a strange number, or borrow a neighbor's phone to make a call.

Actually, my mother-in-law calling me so much is not a bad thing that makes me stressed, it's just that the frequency is too much that it makes me feel bothered.

I'd rather just go too far so I have a way to handle it, but everything is so moody that I really don't know what to do.

It's true that a daughter gets married, but the one who is afraid of her mother-in-law is me!

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