Mr. Nguyen Van Hung, 41 years old, in Binh Thanh district, Ho Chi Minh City, just blocked his wife's Facebook for a very unbelievable reason.
Right after the children's school year ended, his wife posted all of their report cards and certificates of merit on social media to show off.
His wife's "pretending to be modest" way of showing off made him very uncomfortable: "I don't understand why my child is so excellent, he doesn't study at all", "His father even shook his head in dismay, not understanding how a lazy child like him could be at the top of the class". While he didn't say that at all.
Mr. Hung in Ho Chi Minh City blocked his wife on Facebook because she showed off her child's grades on social media (Illustration photo: HN).
With the first grader, his wife showed off his excellent certificate and exclaimed: "Wow, this kid can really read, I can't believe it."
Meanwhile, his wife knows better than anyone that her parents tutored her day and night, practicing dozens of topics, while tutoring and scolding her with all kinds of threats, "If you don't get 10, you'll die with me."
Mr. Nguyen Van Hung said that he had previously discussed with his wife about not showing off their children’s grades online. His eldest daughter also expressed her discomfort when her mother showed off her grades online. At that time, his wife was upset but also replied: “If you don’t show off, then don’t say anything.”
However, his wife ignored that agreement, did not respect her husband and children's opinions, and was still absorbed in taking pictures of her children's report cards and certificates and posting them online.
Feeling disrespected and not wanting to see the annoying pictures of his children showing off their grades, Mr. Hung decided to block his wife's Facebook to express his point of view and attitude.
“Many people may say I am petty and nosy, but this is my opinion. When I see someone on Facebook showing off their child’s grades and certificates, I get very allergic,” the father said.
Not to the point of "blocking" relatives, but Ms. Le Hong Thai, in District 1, Ho Chi Minh City, shared that she is also very allergic to articles and message boards showing off her children on social networks.
The most annoying thing is when parents brag that "you are number 1" like you surpassed thousands of other good students to get this position, the school is full of "rookies" but you are still at the top.
Next is the style of showing off your child's grades in the "naturally intelligent" style, like he doesn't study at all, just plays, is very lazy, doesn't study for half an hour a day...
Meanwhile, in many cases, Ms. Thai knows children study day and night, "running around" from one extra class to another.
Ms. Thai frankly said that she and some close friends with similar views often post these bragging posts in the group and then... laugh.
In Ms. Thai's opinion, scores are a personal and private matter for children, and confidentiality is needed to respect children as well as to keep their information safe. If you really want to encourage your child, praise them directly, not "expose" them online. If parents want to show off, they should show off their own things and their achievements.
Showing off his child's grades while hoping "netizens will sympathize..."
With 3 children who all achieved good academic results, Ms. Dau Thanh Tam, in Tan Binh, Ho Chi Minh City, has been showing off her children continuously in the past few days after the school year's summary. From report cards, certificates, and other awards of her children, she has posted every single photo.
Knowing that many people are allergic to parents showing off their children's grades, Ms. Tam started by saying: "I have no money, no talent, nothing to show off except that my child is a good student, so I hope everyone will be happy to let me show off my child."
Ms. Tam knows that showing off her child’s grades online is not a good idea, and that many people “hate” her for it. But she admits that there is something very stimulating and exciting that makes her unable to stop showing off her child’s grades.
Parents showing off their children's scores can unintentionally form a child who associates his or her self-worth with scores (Illustration: HN).
According to Ms. Nguyen Thuy Uyen Phuong, founder of Faros Education, many people believe that showing off their children is a way to show their love and care for their children or to express their joy when their efforts in raising their children have now paid off.
Behind that, children for Vietnamese parents are still a kind of... asset. Successful children are like a guarantee that a person is a good parent, if the child is not successful, it means that they are inferior, not as good as this or that person.
A child's success is often attributed to grades because that is the most visible, the easiest to measure, and the most reassuring thing. Other things that are not so visible are difficult to measure.
Many behavioral psychology studies show that showing off children's scores also shows many other aspects such as parents wanting to assert themselves, having a social comparison mentality to see that they are not inferior, seeking recognition and maybe they are under pressure to achieve.
Parents showing off their children for fun can have many consequences such as children losing their privacy, having to bear the pressure of achievement, and seeing their self-worth tied to their scores. Parents can also fall into the "trap" of achievement, always demanding that their children achieve higher results...
Source: https://dantri.com.vn/giao-duc/chong-thang-tay-chan-facebook-vi-vo-say-me-khoe-diem-con-len-mang-20250601173934063.htm
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