Parents are crazy about showing off their achievements on social media, making children feel ashamed and afraid of being isolated by friends.

Should you show off your child's grades and certificates on social media?

Parents are still excited about the "festival" of showing off their year-end achievements on social networks, but few care about their children's feelings.

'I don't like my parents showing off their grades'

Nguyen Quang Vinh, a student at Truong Dinh High School ( Hanoi ), shared that his mother made friends with many parents in her class on social networking platforms such as Facebook and Zalo. Every year at the end of each semester, her mother would almost always know the achievements of her classmates through the posts of their parents.

“ If your friends' results are higher, your mother will nag and ask why your friends can do it but you can't? ”, Quang Vinh said, adding that he really tried his best but couldn't get better results.

The male student wishes there were no social networks, or that his parents would stop publicizing his achievements, so that he wouldn't be compared by his mother, wouldn't feel inferior about his abilities, and wouldn't be burdened by peer pressure.

Parents show off achievements on social networks. (Illustration photo)

Bui Pham Xuan Minh, a student at Phu Xuan Secondary School ( Thai Binh ), has also repeatedly expressed his dislike for his parents posting his grades on social media. Every time his mother attends a parent-teacher meeting, Xuan Minh sets a condition that he cannot post his report cards or certificates of merit to show off.

Once, because she was so proud of her son's academic results, his mother "forgot" Minh's request and posted his report card on Facebook. "At that time, I was very angry and did not talk to my mother for 2 weeks," Xuan Minh said. The student was not happy, even feeling like he was under great pressure from his parents' expectations to improve over the years.

Although he has good academic performance and is often at the top of his class, Minh feels embarrassed in front of his classmates every time his parents post his academic achievements online. "My classmates think I'm showing off and being proud of my achievements. I don't want to be isolated or the subject of gossip in class. I especially don't want my parents to compare my achievements to other classmates," the male student shared.

Everyone, every family shows off their achievements.

Ms. Bui Thi La (Hoang Mai, Hanoi) was happy and proud when last school year both of her children received certificates of merit as excellent students. She posted pictures of her children with the certificates on social media.

After posting, her post received hundreds of likes and countless congratulatory comments. Most of the comments were compliments on her children’s good behavior and on her parents’ ability to raise them. Reading and replying to the comments, the female parent felt even more proud of her two children.

After the closing ceremony, many parents excitedly showed off their children's certificates and report cards on social networks.

"I often post photos of my children's academic achievements on social media to show off to friends and relatives. Parents can only show off once a year, so when they look back, their children will know how hard they tried," Ms. La confided.

She is only worried that her child has no achievements or modest achievements, not worth showing off. If her child's academic achievements are really good, she is not afraid to show off.

According to this parent, previous generations carefully framed their children's certificates of merit and hung them in the middle of the house, cherishing them immensely. "So why don't parents today have the right to be proud of similar things?" she said.

Ms. Pham Thu Ha (Cau Giay, Hanoi) frankly admitted that she likes to show off her daughter's academic achievements. From the day her daughter was in grade 1 until now when she is in grade 9, every year she shows off her report card and the certificates of merit that her daughter has received.

“The achievements of our children are our parents’ reward, there is no reason to stop us from enjoying that happiness,” said Ms. Ha. According to her, every parent has the right to be proud of their children, especially when that child is obedient and studies well, it is the pride of the family.

According to Hanoi Police, recently parents have a habit of showing off their children’s report cards, certificates of merit or academic achievements on social networks. However, many people are concerned that these behaviors will lead to bad consequences.

Showing off your child's certificates online risks exposing their information and creating conditions for bad guys to attack them. Parents showing off their child's certificates and achievements on social media is considered an indirect act of assisting criminals.

According to criminology experts, certificates of merit and academic achievements of children often include their full names, grades, school information, and even other information related to teachers or families. This leads to the risk of unsafety for children as bad guys can easily take advantage of it to kidnap, extort, or abuse children.

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