08:47, 21/08/2023
The phenomenon of adoption is probably present in every society. There are many evidences published in the media showing us the extremely close relationships between parents and adopted children when parents spend a lot of time and affection on their adopted children.
We may ask why there is such a close personal relationship between adoptive parents and adopted children when there is no blood relationship? Obviously, biological factors and blood ties have no meaning in the relationship between adoptive parents and adopted children.
In fact, the relationship between biological parents and their children is a blood relationship, but if after a long time of not living together, that blood relationship will certainly fade socially, or even disappear completely.
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| "Godmother" Dao Thi Thanh An, Standing Deputy Secretary of Lak District Party Committee, visited and presented books and school supplies to her adopted daughter H'Nhip E Ung (Ya Tu hamlet, Buon Triet commune) to prepare for the new school year. Illustration photo: Thanh Huyen |
When an adopted child lives with his adoptive parents, through the process of personal socialization in the family environment, the child will obviously have feelings for the people in the new family that he comes into contact with and learns from every day. During the process of living with his adoptive parents, the child will often interact with his adoptive father. Regular, stable interactions create social relationships. The closeness and intimacy in that relationship is based on social connections, not on biological ones.
The event “Family Values Day and Exemplary Godmothers 2023” organized by the Dak Lak Provincial Women’s Union recently reminded us of the story of a young woman in Tahiti (the largest island in French Polynesia, located in the South Pacific ) who, after giving birth, did not have to raise her children but could choose when to become a mother. In Tahiti, after giving birth, “it is completely acceptable for the young woman’s children to be sent to her parents or close relatives to raise” and “… the girl can decide when to have a relationship with the children, there is no feeling that she is forced to become a mother because she has children”.
When someone becomes a “foster parent” of a child, it means that they are willing psychologically and socially. The relationship between parents and adopted children, although not a blood relationship, is a special social relationship. In fact, raising an adopted child is much “harder” than raising one’s own child. That also often makes the adopted child remember the merits of the foster parents. And society is also grateful because their “hard work” has helped the children have normal psychological and social conditions to grow up normally.
Truong Thi Hien
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