These are 3 signs of a family that is falling into a deep hole, the warm appearance deceives everyone!

There are families that appear peaceful on the outside but are in turmoil on the inside.

Have you ever wondered why once happy families become cold, distant and even broken?

The answer may lie in the daily conversations between family members. The three sentences below may not sound so serious, but they are like hidden cracks that constantly erode the family foundation, pushing the family into decline. If you have heard someone in your family say such things, it is time to put everything aside and spend time with your family before it is too late.

“Stop bothering me, please leave me alone?”

Home is a refuge for the soul. But when the words “Please leave me alone?” are heard from within the family, it is no longer a warm home but a cold place.

I don't know if you realize this, many times children excitedly run to talk but their parents coldly say: "Parents are busy, don't bother anymore" . Or when parents need to rely on their children, they receive the answer: "I'm very busy! Leave me alone to work" . These sentences, sound normal but are like invisible knives stabbing straight into the closest person to us.

My cousin’s child was a very active and adorable boy. Every day after coming home from kindergarten, he liked to run to his mother and chatter away. But gradually he became quiet, less talkative and avoided his mother.

The mother was confused and didn't understand the reason, until one day, she accidentally heard her son whispering to the teddy bear: "Mom always says I'm annoying so I don't want to talk to her anymore" . Only then did she realize that every time her son came to her, she was busy with work or engrossed in her phone and ignored him: "Don't bother me anymore. Go out and let me work".

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American psychologist John M. Gottman once said: "Family happiness lies in mutual acceptance and response."

The phrase “Don’t bother me” may seem meaningless, but it makes the listener feel rejected, gradually cooling down family affection. Don’t let it become an invisible wall separating family members, but learn to listen and share, that is the first step to protecting the family.

“It's all your fault!”

There is no perfect family, but each family member needs tolerance and understanding. However, some people have a habit of blaming the closest people, always saying: "It's all your fault!" Over time, this kind of accusation not only does not solve the problem but also causes members to drift apart.

My friend's marriage - Tieu Dinh, was destroyed little by little by this sentence.

Every time the couple argued, she was always the one at fault. “The baby has a stomachache because you didn’t cook, so the whole family had to order food from outside”, “You spend lavishly so we can’t save”,… It was clearly a matter between the two of them, but it became Tieu Dinh’s fault alone.

At first, Tieu Dinh tried to explain but then gradually became discouraged. She said: “He only knows how to blame me, never looking back at himself. I feel like I have no value in this family.”

Writer La Rochefoucauld said: "True love is accepting each other's flaws, not trying to change the other person with accusations" . Family is a place to support each other, not a battlefield for each side to tear each other apart.

When “It’s all your fault!” becomes a constant in a family, love and respect are depleted. Problem solving is about communication, not accusations. Only when each person learns to say “We’re in this together” can a family become more cohesive.

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“This is fine, why try so hard?”

The decline of a family often stems from a loss of effort. When someone in the family always says: “This is enough, why bother trying?” , the family will gradually sink into stagnation, without the motivation to progress, life becomes mechanical and boring.

My neighbor, Uncle Giang, used to be a very hard-working person. When he was young, he worked hard and saved up to buy a house for his family. But that was all, he started to become complacent and content with the present after having a house.

His wife suggested renovating the house, but he waved his hand: "Just stay like this, this is good enough." His son wanted to study abroad, but he said: "Just study in the countryside, it's both economical and convenient." Years passed, and nothing in Uncle Giang's house changed, becoming dull and lifeless. Even his son complained: "The house has not changed at all, it's like a suffocating cage."

In fact, the status of a family often depends on the dreams and goals pursued by each member of it. A home is not only a place to contain life but also a starting point for hope.

Instead of being satisfied with “This is enough” , it is better to work hard, work with all your heart and create more value. Don’t let that sentence become a family’s tombstone, let’s work together to make the family more energetic and have a better future.

(Source: Baidu)

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