My mother-in-law nagged me when I couldn't have children and the surprising truth

My husband and I have been married for 4 years now and still don't have children. At first, we agreed on a "plan" to focus on our careers. However, after seeing many friends around me having difficulty conceiving, I started to worry and discussed with my husband about "letting go" earlier than expected.

Contrary to my worries, he seemed very calm. He said that we should just do what we planned, and not change it for the sake of others. Each family has its own circumstances, and we need to know what is most important to us at this time. Just because someone else can't have children doesn't mean we can't.

Hearing my husband speak so decisively, I did not dare to mention it further. Moreover, having children is a matter for both husband and wife, I alone cannot do it.

After more than two years of "planning", I think it's time for us to focus on having children. In addition to my wishes, my mother-in-law also often puts pressure on me. Because he is the only son in the family.

Even though we lived separately, my mother-in-law came to our house every day to see how we were doing. She also constantly bought food for both of us to nourish ourselves so that we could have grandchildren soon. At first, she hinted that her friend's child was pregnant and then gently advised us. Gradually, she spoke directly, especially to me, about the responsibility of having a successor, a direct grandson for the family line.

Mẹ chồng đay nghiến khi tôi không thể có con và sự thật bất ngờ - Ảnh 2. — I thought it was my fault that my husband and I didn't have children (Illustration: TD).

Actually, I don't mean to oppose my mother-in-law. For the past two years, we have tried very hard but still have not had a child. Because we have not achieved our wishes, my mother keeps pressuring me every day, making me really tired and severely stressed.

I suggested to my husband to go to the doctor to see if there was anything wrong between us that we couldn't have children. My husband didn't seem to like the idea of going to the hospital. He said there was nothing wrong with us, we would have it eventually, "haste makes waste". Mom said it was her problem, he told me not to worry.

But how could I not care? I was also anxious to have a child, and my mother-in-law was even more anxious. Moreover, she did not put as much pressure on my husband as I did. In fact, she always blamed me, saying that I must have had some problems, but her son was tall and healthy.

Seeing me asking to go to the doctor so many times, whining and crying, my husband finally agreed. However, he said he had to go to his friend's place for a check-up. And the result made me collapse. The reason we had difficulty conceiving was... because of me.

After returning from the examination, although my husband did not say anything, I still felt very sad and guilty towards him and his family. I really did not know what to do, and did not dare to tell this truth to my mother-in-law.

But of course, my mother-in-law later found out and insisted that we get a divorce. His family could not "destroy the lineage" because of me. I spent more than 3 months in tears, suffering from not being able to be a mother, and blaming myself.

However, I was very happy and grateful that my husband refused to divorce. No matter how much his mother pressured or yelled at him, he still did not change his mind. Therefore, every time I looked at my husband, I felt even more guilty.

In my utmost gratitude for my husband, I accidentally read the message my doctor friend sent to my husband. Accordingly, the doctor continuously expressed concern, saying: "Sir, this is not good. For the past few months, I have not eaten well, and have not slept well.

For years, you knew you were infertile and yet you told me to push the responsibility onto your wife. Please admit your mistake to your wife, I can't bear it, I can't keep this secret forever. When I see her, I feel so ashamed."

I was so shocked that I immediately dropped my phone, couldn't hold back my tears and screamed. My husband was startled and ran to me. When he saw the screen with that message, he was extremely panicked and quickly knelt down at my feet to beg for forgiveness. But how could I forgive him?

No one wants to not be able to have children, that is a sadness that is hard to describe in words that I have felt throughout this time. However, the reality is that even before we got married, he lied to me and played all kinds of tricks, like "plans", not rushing to have children, going to his friend's clinic...

Despite the many nights I spent wet on my pillow, in pain and blaming myself, despite my mother-in-law pressuring and even insulting me over and over again, he remained indifferent, absolutely refusing to admit the truth. He pushed all the responsibility onto his wife.

My husband is indeed a coward and selfish man. Yet all this time, I still feel grateful to him and feel guilty towards him...

Now, after angrily returning to my parents' house, I decided to file for divorce. I am divorcing not because we cannot have children, but because my husband is a liar.

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