Mother-in-law hospitalized due to traffic accident, I suddenly became a sinner just because I took my daughter shopping for clothes on her birthday

Don't turn adult conflicts into problems that affect children.

Life sometimes brings unexpected ironic situations, misunderstandings can arise from unexpected places.

In the family, each member has their own position and feelings, but sometimes unfortunate events make the distance between us become further apart, even causing serious misunderstandings.

However, when life has many problems and many things to solve, we should live in a way that makes it less difficult, do not turn small things into something too big and then bring it to make each other suffer. Especially, do not turn adult conflicts into problems that affect children.

The past three months have been a really tough time for my family, my mother-in-law got into a serious traffic accident. At first, the whole family was mentally prepared that she would not survive, but luckily, everything gradually turned out okay.

However, the treatment will last for several months depending on her health condition. At this time, the children's job is to take turns taking care of her. My husband is the eldest son, so he has taken on most of the responsibilities, and his brothers only have to support when my family cannot be present. My husband and I even take care of all the financial matters and do not let the brothers spend a single penny.

My mother-in-law is completely healthy now, except for her leg which is still in a cast so it's a bit difficult for her to move around, otherwise she can do everything.

A few days ago was my daughter's birthday, I told her that this year there was a lot of work at home so I would probably just take her shopping for a few new clothes and then I would take her to eat whatever she wanted. My daughter is a good girl, not demanding, so when I said that, she happily agreed right away. I also knew that my mother-in-law was in the hospital, and the housework was busy so I had no intention of organizing a bustling or noisy party. Although in fact if I held a small birthday party for her it would probably be wrong, but I would make it up to her later.

But somehow my sister-in-law accidentally saw my mother and I shopping and eating at the mall. And just that very normal thing from her mouth turned into my mother and me going out to celebrate because my grandmother had an accident.

It is true that my mother-in-law and I do not get along, but things go their way. First, I always fulfill my responsibilities as the eldest daughter-in-law, and even my mother-in-law who does not like me has to admit this. Second, no matter how much conflict there is between her and me, I never teach or incite my children to hate her. Yet my sister-in-law spreads such bad rumors about my mother and me.

Since I became a daughter-in-law, it’s not because I’m afraid of anyone, but because I love my husband, so I always try my best to maintain family harmony, always try to sacrifice and tell myself to sympathize with the times when people can’t control their emotions. But sometimes, my silence and patience are the root cause of even more serious conflicts.

Actually, I didn't want to take it to heart because my sister-in-law's words didn't reach anyone's ears. My husband understood his wife very well, and my mother-in-law's recent hospital stay was enough for her to know what kind of person I was. That's why when she said those unreasonable words, my mother-in-law just sternly told her daughter not to talk nonsense.

But I find it very annoying when there is so much work at home, if we don't support each other, we still have the energy to create more problems for each other. And then they drag my daughter into it. I should have just kept quiet and let it all end, but if I keep quiet, people will think I'm easy to bully!

So I texted my sister-in-law and told her straight out that if we don't like each other, then let's not bother with each other. I don't want anything to do with her, so she should leave me and my children alone. Don't let my temper flare up and we won't be able to look at each other anymore.

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