Wanting to give my parents a lot of money, I was depressed when my wife announced this

In my opinion, Tet is the most important time of the year to show gratitude to our parents. Every year, my husband and I give both sets of parents at least 10 million VND in total to spend and shop.

Every year, around the 23rd of Tet, my wife gives money to both sets of grandparents. I take care of the peach and kumquat trees so that the whole family can celebrate Tet in the warmest and happiest atmosphere. These things have become a tradition, so the grandparents on both sides are looking forward to it.

Muốn biếu bố mẹ nhiều tiền, tôi chán nản khi nghe vợ tuyên bố điều này - 1 — Because of the Tet gift money, my wife and I had some unhappy days before Tet (Illustration: IT).

This year, my husband and I are facing financial difficulties. We invested a lot of money in our business, but unfortunately it failed, and there is no way to recover. A few months before Tet, I started to worry about money to spend and give to both sets of parents.

When I was still doing well, I didn't have to worry, because spending 10 million VND to give to my parents was normal. This year, my husband and I are in more need because all our capital has been invested in the business, not to mention the debt we have to shoulder.

My parents understand our situation, but I don’t want them to feel disappointed or inferior to their neighbors. No one wants a business failure, but I still want a full Tet for both my parents.

Before going back to my hometown, I discussed with my wife about giving gifts to my parents this year. My wife was not as enthusiastic as in previous years. Because my wife thought that this year, our economy was more tight, we should not give gifts to our parents or consider a reasonable amount. Later, when our economy is better, we will give more.

I do not agree with my wife's thinking. I think that we have not given our parents any money this year. If we reduce the amount of money during Tet, both my parents and my in-laws will be sad.

My wife absolutely did not want to give it because she had to pay off the debt. Perhaps because I was being too demanding, she declared that we only needed to give each of our parents-in-law a million dong, as a contribution to the Tet feast, and that the elders would have to take care of the household necessities themselves. When the economy was good, no matter how much we gave, we didn't need to calculate, but now things are different.

My wife's way of doing things is suitable for the family's financial situation, but I don't see it as right as a child.

I suggested that my wife borrow a few million from her siblings to equal the amount she gave her parents in previous years. My wife frankly said: "If you want to give to your paternal and maternal families, borrow it yourself. I'm tired of debt, and if I don't have money, I shouldn't be fussy. This year, I'll only give each family one million dong, a total of two million dong is too much."

I went home for Tet in a bad mood after my wife's announcement. Thinking about the money I gave my parents this year, I felt dissatisfied and depressed.

Because I want my children, no matter how difficult it is, to not let their parents work hard and worry for the 3 days of Tet. They are all old and do not have much time left to live, so every Tet holiday when they can gather and have fun is precious.

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