With a salary of 10 million/month, should I stay in Hanoi and marry a man with an income of 11 million?

On a financial management forum, a girl living and working in Hanoi asked: “My salary is 10 million/month. Every month when I receive my salary, it is only enough to pay for rent, food, and basic expenses, and I don’t dare to reward myself with anything. I like a peaceful life, not too crowded, so I want to go back to my hometown to live. My hometown has many industrial parks, I can get a job with a salary of 12 million/month and all living expenses in my hometown are cheaper. But the problem is that my boyfriend likes to live in a big city, likes a busy, bustling life even though his salary is only 11 million/month. I also don’t see any potential plans for the future to increase his income.”

The girl asked the community for advice: "Should I continue this 3-year relationship, or leave him and return to my hometown as I wish?"

Hundreds of people commented and gave the girl advice, many of whom were married and had experienced urban life with an income of more than 10 million VND/month, and some who had been hesitant between two choices like the girl above.

Most of the comments suggested that the girl should break up with her boyfriend and return to her hometown as she wished. The opinions explained that with that income level of both, if there is little chance of increasing income in the future, life in the capital will be quite difficult, especially after having children. "With that salary, how long do you think it will take to buy a house in Hanoi?" - one person asked.

An older woman shared that if she were in the girl's situation, she would return to her hometown. The woman said that in the past, she also faced a similar choice. In the end, she chose to stay in the city because her job in the countryside did not develop. Looking back now, she finds that life in the countryside is very good. Her friends in the countryside are all close to their parents, have houses, spend less, and earn the same, or even many times more than her in the city. "If you still have choices, you have the right to choose what you want, not what others want" - this mother boldly advised.

Another woman advised: “After 8 years of wandering and marrying far away, I advise you to return to your hometown. Being close to your mother means having everything.”

The girl was wondering whether to break up with her boyfriend, return to her hometown or stay in Hanoi with both of their incomes being around 10-11 million VND/month. Illustration: iStock

Many people have a very realistic perspective: Without a career, without money, you can't live. Without you, without love, I live a normal life.

“If you marry that person and your life becomes suffocating and unhappy, then you will end up in trouble! You will have children in the future, so it will be hard to live on that amount of money. In the countryside, 50 thousand is enough for a meal.”

“If you go back to your hometown and there is an industrial park, there will be many opportunities for high salaries and jobs. You should convince your boyfriend to come back to your hometown to see how it goes. If you live in Hanoi and your income is only enough to cover your living expenses, you don’t know when you will be able to buy an apartment to live in. For example, I studied in Hanoi for a few years, but after finishing my studies, I returned to my hometown to live, not intending to live in Hanoi. The cost of living in my hometown is not much lower than in Hanoi, but in return, I am used to living there so I feel comfortable. Living with my parents, I have more time to take care of them.”

Some people think that in this case, they should break up, not only because of income but also because the two people have different aspirations. “It is not necessarily good to convince others to follow your direction if they are not happy with it. Living in the city is not a good thing but the life that makes the other person happy and comfortable is their life. Going back to the countryside is not necessarily safe. It is difficult to convince the other person about this.”

Some people suggest the solution of “temporarily living apart to see how it goes”. “You should go back to your hometown and live there for half a year to see if you can adapt and be okay with that environment? Have a long-distance relationship for half a year to see if the love is strong enough for both sides to overcome and move towards each other?”

A few others find solutions so that the couple can still live in Hanoi. “If it were me, with this salary, I would do another job after my administrative work, that is, in the evening. I will save this money for 1-2 years and then do business or invest in something else, don’t be content.”

“In my opinion, if you two are determined to get ahead, you should stay in the city and try to increase your income. If you want a less harsh life, go back to the countryside.”

“If you are still young, there is no reason to force your boyfriend to go back to his hometown with you because right now he is working hard, maybe in 2-3 years he will have better results.”

Another person affirmed: “If this love is worth it, it certainly won’t make you hesitate to choose, but once it makes you choose between stopping or continuing, I think you have the answer, right? Stop, because continuing it will make you lose a lot of things: feelings, time, money... importantly, the opportunity for yourself to develop!”

What is your opinion on this case?

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/luong-10-trieu-thang-co-nen-o-lai-ha-noi-lay-nguoi-chong-thu-nhap-11-trieu-172240520101705076.htm