Husband and wife argued because "taking the child to the exam is not letting the child grow up"

(Dan Tri) - Even within the family, Dung and her husband have different opinions on the matter of taking their child to the exam. She believes that parents need to be with their child at this moment, while her husband resolutely "let the child breathe".

On the first day of high school graduation exam procedures, without the pressure of exam time, Ms. Nguyen Ngoc Dung, in Thu Duc City, Ho Chi Minh City, let her son go to the exam site himself - also at the high school where his son has been studying for the past 3 years.

She believes that on the day of the exam, parents should take their children to avoid being late or to handle unfortunate situations. Parents can be with their children at that time, and children will also have more motivation when their parents are with them.

Parents wait in the rain for their children to take the high school graduation exam in previous years (Photo: Huu Khoa).

According to Dung's plan, she and her husband and their youngest daughter in 7th grade will pick up and drop off their child during exam days so that the whole family can be together at this important moment. Both her and her husband's jobs are quite flexible, so it is not too difficult to arrange.

However, when Ms. Dung expressed this intention, her husband rejected it. He said that the child could take the exam right at school like going to school every day, so parents did not need to pick him up and drop him off, which would affect his work and put unnecessary pressure on him.

Her husband also said that this season in Ho Chi Minh City, the rain is erratic, parents crowding in front of the school gate waiting for their children is very inconvenient, there is no encouragement but it can cause more stress for the children.

Ms. Dung “took a step back” and did not need the whole family to take her child, but the couple took turns picking up the child by session or day. Her husband still dismissed the idea: “Let the child take the exam by himself, let him breathe.”

Unable to find common ground, Ms. Dung finally arranged to take her child to the exam alone, feeling resentful.

Unlike the university entrance exam in the past, the high school graduation exam now no longer has the scene of candidates far from home "going to the capital to take the exam" but mostly takes place right at the place where the student lives or studies. The scene of parents taking their children to the exam has more or less "cooled down" compared to before and recently there has been an opinion that "taking children to the exam is not letting them grow up".

However, taking your child to the exam, even though the exam is right next to your house, right at the school like you go to school every day, is not simply a matter of distance or difficulty, but more importantly, it is the feelings of many parents. Many people want to be with their children, want to wait for their children outside the exam school to feel secure, to feel close to their children.

Ms. Nguyen Thi Hanh, in Con Cuong, Nghe An , said that in the coming days she will temporarily put aside her work to accompany her son Nguyen Gia Huy to take the high school graduation exam this year. His father is busy and cannot arrange it, otherwise he will follow his wife to take his son to the exam.

Ms. Hanh will pick up and drop off her child before and after each exam. When her child takes the exam, she will wait outside until the exam is over. The exam time is not long, traveling is also time-consuming, and waiting at home is also nervous and there is nothing to do.

Ms. Hanh will pick up and wait outside for her son to take the high school graduation exam this year (Photo: NVCC).

The mother said that it was hot so she took her child to the exam to feel secure. She wanted to be close to her child at this important moment, not because her child could not take the exam by himself. The child took the exam right at school, and had to go back and forth thousands of times a year. As for her child, she knew that he would rather go with friends, more comfortable and free, than with his parents.

Burst into tears because of the surprise of seeing dad at the school gate

Whether or not to take your child to the exam is a choice based on your circumstances and your point of view. Seeing parents braving the rain and sun outside the school gate may be emotional, but for children facing exams, that image can be an invisible pressure.

The recent issue of parents braving the sun and rain to take their children to exams has also led to many conflicting opinions between "accompanying their children" and "not letting their children grow up".

In fact, parents taking their children to exams can leave behind moments, memories, emotions, and connections for both parents and children.

On the contrary, many families may not be with their children at this moment, they let their children take the exam by themselves but the children still feel the trust and love from their parents.

More than 20 years have passed, but Ms. Tao Thanh Nga still remembers the image of her father waiting for her in front of the school gate (Photo: NVCC).

Every time she sees parents taking their children to exams, Ms. Tao Thanh Nga, in Thanh Hoa , remembers the scene more than 20 years ago when she took the 10th grade exam and went alone.

On the last day of the exam, just after leaving the school gate, she suddenly saw her father waiting across the street.

“I was filled with tears because I missed my father and was happy. I always remember the image of my father standing there, waiting for his daughter during the final exam. When I took the university entrance exam, my sister took me there.

For me, having a relative take me to the exam will be a bit more stressful than going by myself, but it's better to have a feeling of love, not being lonely, to feel secure and confident when doing the test...", Ms. Nga confided.

Ms. Thai Thi Kim Hanh, Vice Principal of Tran Thi Ly Primary School, Da Nang, said that whether or not to send children to take the exam, the viewpoint of "letting them grow up on their own" depends on each person and each family.

Each person will choose what they feel is right for them, outsiders cannot judge whether it is right or wrong.

A mother waits for her child in front of an exam site in Ho Chi Minh City (Photo: Hoai Nam).

In Ms. Hanh's memory, there was no story of her parents picking her up or worrying about her during exam days, but she still felt their love. She also never paid attention to whether other people had parents to pick them up or not, so she did not feel sorry for herself.

Ms. Hanh remembers that after finishing 9th grade, she went to collect her documents and do the paperwork to submit for the 10th grade exam. At that time, she was very happy and felt like she had “grown up”. With this experience, Ms. Hanh will continue to do the same with her child. If necessary, she will take her child to the exam site and then… she will go do her work.

“Honestly, I don’t understand why so many parents sit in the sun waiting for the whole exam. But I don’t judge right or wrong because maybe by doing that, they feel secure and satisfied. As for me, I don’t do that,” Ms. Hanh shared.

Source: https://dantri.com.vn/giao-duc/vo-chong-cai-nhau-vi-chuyen-dua-con-di-thi-la-khong-de-con-lon-20250625154037850.htm