'Angry sex' - from stress relief to abuse

Hanoi Ms. Tien, 25 years old, came to the Central Maternity Hospital for examination due to stress and obsession because every time she had a conflict with her lover, she had to resort to sex to vent her anger.

Talking to the doctor, she said that the two of them often argued, leading to anger and discomfort. At these times, she just wanted to have sex to resolve the issue, instead of talking. This made her feel good about her mood, even though the two of them could continue to argue. Over time, she felt stressed, haunted, and dependent on sex.

On August 120, Dr. Phan Chi Thanh, Department of Examination, Central Obstetrics Hospital, said that many people, like Tien, have to seek sex to resolve the anger in their bodies. The immediate benefit is that after sex, both feel relieved, calmed down and less angry.

"This is not a disease," Dr. Thanh said, adding that anger can also stimulate sex but should not be abused. Medically, this condition is called "angry sex", which often occurs when couples are in a state of stress or anger.

Anger and other intense emotions can cause changes such as increased heart rate or blood pressure, rapid blood circulation, increased testosterone levels. In particular, when we are afraid, angry or anxious, the body will produce a large amount of adrenaline - a hormone that causes strong emotions. "At this time, people tend to seek sex to release excess energy created by anger," the doctor said.

In addition, sex increases happy hormones in the brain such as oxytocin and dopamine, making us feel happy and relaxed after sex. Oxytocin alone has the ability to improve psychological stability, help you feel more connected and resolve anger. At this time, sex becomes a way to convey difficult emotions. Therefore, many couples choose sex to mend relationships or ease previous conflicts.

However, abusing relationships can lead to disorder, obsession, and even dependence. This is not the way to completely resolve disagreements, especially when the other person only sees it as a physiological need. Therefore, for Ms. Tien, the doctor advised her to confide in her partner to relieve psychological problems first, to avoid prolonged stress affecting her health.

Sharing the same opinion, Dr. Le Duy Thao, Department of Andrology, Hong Ngoc Hospital, said that having sex when angry can aggravate anxiety and stress. When the mood is not comfortable, it will lead to disappointment, difficulty in sublimation, and even disharmony in sex.

"If it happens repeatedly, it can lead to depression, stress, and fear of sex in women, and premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction in men," said Dr. Thao. Having sex when tired is also harmful to mental health and general physical condition. Having sex often out of anger also creates unhealthy habits, affecting quality of life and future happiness.

In addition, having sex while losing control can easily lead to violent behavior, even abuse due to lack of alertness. Couples easily ignore safe sex measures such as using condoms, leading to unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases.

Having sex when angry can aggravate anxiety, tension, even obsession and stress. Photo: Times live — Having sex when angry can aggravate anxiety, tension, even obsession and stress. Photo: *Times live*

Doctors advise that the most important factor when having sex is voluntary and consensual. In the case of having sex when angry, both partners must control their behavior so as not to hurt each other. "Note, this is not a method to resolve conflicts but only a mental medicine to help couples calm their anger," the doctor said. The best way is for both partners to talk together to solve the problem.

In addition, people who are undergoing medical treatment and have weak bodies should not have sex. Should not have sex during menstruation, it can easily cause congestion leading to menstrual disorders, menstrual cramps, amenorrhea and other gynecological diseases. In case of constant obsession and fear of sex, you should see a psychologist to avoid prolonged stress that affects the quality of life.

Thuy An

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