I am the 'witness' of the dating app

We are expecting our first child - Photo: NGUYEN HUYNH NHAT BAO

I met my wife when I was 34. We dated for 2 years, got married and are having a baby. She is 11 years younger than me. We live more than 300 km apart. And we met on Tinder.

We ourselves always feel magical when we meet each other. There are too many coincidences that make us who we are today. You decide whether to try or not.

"Swiping on Tinder is so exciting"

Our purpose when joining Tinder is not to find a lover or any other relationship. My wife is on to sell cordyceps. I first created an account because I wanted to go to another space to see what people do there.

My "baggage" on Tinder simply has 3 things: One is an observant attitude, two is the point of view "when I trust myself, I can trust anyone", three is to not be cheated just don't be greedy and ignorant.

Back then, Tinder didn’t have many users, and I was in the countryside. After swiping for a while, there were no more users, so it didn’t take much time. I was interested in seeing how people set up their dating profiles, how they posted pictures, wrote notes.

On the first day, I had a match. It was exciting and interesting. However, the conversation was simply an interview with me about the person's purpose and Tinder experience. Most of the time, I only said a few sentences and that was it.

My wife was one of the first few people I swiped, completely randomly. She picked me on purpose. She said my profile looked real.

At that time, I posted a real photo of myself and wrote a sentence in the introduction: "What separates us if not fear, even fear of gentleness like holding a hand".

Then there were many coincidences: coincidence that I had to go to Saigon every weekend, coincidence that COVID-19 came. We made coffee dates, next time we made dinner dates, then coincidence that we both liked each other. And so it went on until today.

What do we expect in the virtual environment?

After we officially started dating, my wife deleted her Tinder account. I still kept it, scrolling through it every now and then but not swiping right anymore. I switched to observing Tinder by joining Tinder communities on Facebook.

Going there, I realized that there are too many cases of fraud, both funny and sad, on Tinder as well as other dating apps. From appealing to greed like "I found a security hole that can withdraw money from a large corporation", to pity like "I had to be hospitalized without a salary, I'm telling you that, not asking for money".

From professional, well-planned scams to those who are just scammers. Real photos, real people. What is not real is the wealth they show and their relationship status. Some are married, some have many lovers..

With all that crap, people say Tinder is full of shit. One person I swiped on Tinder wrote, “I’m here, you’re here, we both suck.”

I think Tinder is bad, but is it the same in real life?

What do we expect from a virtual environment? Will it be more "virtual" than real life by having no greed, anger, or ignorance? Will everyone be kind and honest with each other? If such an environment really existed, how much would you be willing to pay to participate?

There is also a saying on the internet that "the wind of each level meets the clouds of the same level". I understand that all the luck or misfortune I encounter has my own contribution.

Society is a place where all kinds of people interact with each other and people will treat you according to how they feel about you. Tinder and other dating apps are the same, except that there are more people looking for "the one".

Be honest with everyone and with yourself and you will meet more honest people.

Beware of your own greed, you will not be tempted.

Find out more information and news, you will be less infatuated.

When you are mature and confident enough, you may not use Tinder to find love anymore. It is just a place you browse to see a bit of human color. On the contrary, even if you do not use any application, it is easy to be disappointed and afraid of the human world .

May all lovers in the world find each other.

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/toi-chinh-la-nhan-chung-cua-app-hen-ho-20240319144615503.htm