Controversy over grandmother's arbitrary naming of grandchild, young couple quarrels over the word "Thi" on birth certificate

"It's 2024 and not many people like the word 'Thi' in their name anymore. It's best to let the person who owns their child name it," a netizen commented.

Recently, a post on the social network Threads about naming children and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law attracted the attention of the online community. Accordingly, the post owner said that because the couple had been infertile for 10 years, when the first child was born, the grandmother was so happy that she named the child herself without discussing it with her children.

Notably, the name the grandmother gave her grandchild also has the middle name “Thi”, which makes the relationship between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law become tense. Because nowadays, many parents no longer use the old way of naming their children, where boys are given the middle name “Van” and girls are given the middle name “Thi”. Instead, they want to give their children more beautiful, interesting and meaningful names.

Therefore, this post has become a topic of interest to many people. Some people think that the middle name “Thi” is not too bad, so the family should be happy. However, many people think that whoever has the child should be the one to name it.

The post is going viral on Threads because of the baby naming issue.

Why is the word "Thi" rejected?

Putting aside the issue of “other people’s” families, many people expressed sadness that the current generation no longer likes the word “Thi” in their daughters’ names. The practice of naming in this traditional way is also gradually disappearing, giving way to more unique, memorable names.

Many people think that adding the word “Thi” to a name now sounds outdated, feels heavy, and is afraid that the child will be teased later. However, some netizens have the opposite opinion, saying that the word “Thi” is a beautiful cultural feature in the way Vietnamese people name.

In addition to distinguishing between boys and girls, the word “Thi” also means the daughter of the family, conveying the message of always remembering one’s roots and origins. Many parents also said that they do not find adding the word “Thi” to the name outdated, but when read in full, it feels somewhat feminine and ethereal.

- “Not defending anyone, but I feel sad because the word “Thi” is considered outdated and not classy. Personally, I think it is good and has its own identity.”

- “The name with the middle name “Thi” is actually not too bad. If you read the full name, it still looks good. But it seems that young parents don’t like it anymore.”

- "I think the name with the word "Thi" sounds okay, no need to be so stubborn, just keep the peace for the family's happiness."

However, some people also think that this is a matter of personal opinion and preference, so it is difficult to impose or explain right or wrong. It is understandable that the wife does not like the word "Thi" that her mother-in-law named her child because she may have prepared other names that she wanted to give her child.

The key issue here is not actually the word "Thi".

In addition to discussing and arguing about the word “Thi” in the name, what many “daughters-in-law” have in common is the fact that grandparents compete to name their grandchildren. In fact, this is not an uncommon occurrence in many families. Some families even shared stories of the two sets of in-laws being angry with each other just because the paternal side liked this name, while the maternal side wanted another.

However, most netizens believe that the couple should have the right to decide who owns the child. In addition, in the above story, the grandmother's arbitrary naming without discussing it with the children was an inelegant and tactless way of doing things, and certainly anyone in this situation would feel sad. Because more than anyone else, the mother will always want the best, the most beautiful things and do them herself for her children.

In addition, many people also said that grandparents have the right to give opinions, suggestions or give names for reference. Not only that, looking at the naming issue more broadly, most people believe that the best married life should still be between just the two of them discussing and deciding together. The opinions of outsiders, whether parents-in-law or parents-in-law, should only be limited to contributions and references and not go into private life. That way, the family will be happy, joyful and avoid awkward situations.

- “The key issue here is not actually the word “Thi” but the fact that the grandmother arbitrarily decided on the name for her grandchild. The wife at that time will feel extremely hurt because firstly, she is not respected, secondly, her child is born but she does not have the right to decide for herself.”

- "I think simply, whoever names their child gets to name it, the mother-in-law's or anyone else's opinion is just for reference."

- “I'm tired of seeing grandparents fighting over names for their grandchildren, whether on the paternal or maternal side. And it's 2024, it's best to let whoever has the child name it.”

- “My point of view is that married life, the extended family should not interfere too deeply because love and duty can easily lead to discord. Marriage sometimes just disagreements because of a word or attitude of the husband's or wife's parents.”

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/tranh-cai-vu-ba-noi-tu-y-dat-ten-cho-chau-vo-chong-tre-luc-duc-vi-mot-chu-thi-trong-giay-khai-sinh-17224102606444635.htm