Thinking like that, I never use flowery words with my family members. Once, when she heard me talking to my husband on the phone, a friend commented: "Why do you talk to your husband like you're talking to a stranger? It's so rude and unpleasant to listen to." I laughed: "Oh my, he knows my personality! If I talk to my husband sweetly and softly now, he might think I'm... crazy."
Just then, my friend also received a phone call from her husband. While arguing with me, she heard her husband's phone call and her tone changed dramatically: "Yes, it's me!... Oh, you're home? Why are you home so early today? Then please help me cook rice before going to practice! I'll be home a little late because I'm with my friends. When I get home, I'll cook food and wait for you and the baby... Oh, honey, remember to bring the bottle of red apple juice I left in the fridge, drink it after you practice! Remember, don't forget. Ok. Goodbye!".
I looked at my friend with wide eyes: "Why are you so polite to a husband and wife? It sounds like you're talking to lovers." My friend laughed: "We're used to talking to each other like that. If one of us speaks indifferently or acts coldly to the other, it will hurt. You should change too! We've gotten used to talking to each other so rudely that it will never be sweet. Like that, when we say sweet words to each other, it's embarrassing."
After that day, I kept thinking about my friend's advice. I realized that it had been a long time since then, even when my husband and I were at our most affectionate, I had never said "I love you", "I miss you" or anything like that. When we were in love, we often said "I love you" and "I miss you". But I don't know since when, I stopped using those loving words. Even my mother, when hearing the way I talked to my husband, criticized me many times: "Why are you so timid when talking to your husband? With the same sentence, choose your words carefully to make it more pleasing to the ear, isn't that better?"
Remembering my mother's and my friend's words, I see that I am really "a sharp knife in a fish sauce bowl" with my husband and children. It is true that I did not do it on purpose, but because I wanted to show my "authority" and show that I am the "roof of the house", I always spoke harshly and rudely with my husband and children. My husband and children would surely be very surprised if they saw me change my tone and words when talking to each other. But certainly, I will learn to speak gently, with complete subject and predicate like my friend and change according to my mother's advice. Because, words also make us feel happy.
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