Steering the family through the storm called "job loss"

Job loss and unemployment are a nightmare for many people, affecting their finances, spirit and life. Photo: Internet

When the job loss storm "swept" through...

Unemployment is difficult at any age, but especially at the age of 35-40, the difficulty multiplies many times when workers are older and have difficulty competing with younger workers to find new jobs. At this age, losing a job not only creates financial pressure, causing psychological barriers, but more seriously, it can also push family relationships to the brink of collapse. Research shows that 54% of people consider financial pressure and debt as legitimate reasons for divorce.

Having once intended to divorce when her husband lost his job for many months, Ms. HTN (An Tho commune, Tuy An district) recounted the pressures her family had experienced: “My husband works as an advertising designer. After the COVID-19 pandemic, when the economy was difficult, many stores in Ho Chi Minh City closed down and returned their premises, so my husband's work stagnated for a while, then he lost his job completely. Losing his job brought a feeling of impasse, not knowing when it would end. This uncertainty caused my small family to constantly fall into a spiral of stress. I began to feel frustrated because I had to shoulder the financial burden alone. When the pressure was too much, I called my husband's family, cried and asked for a divorce."

Job loss is a big storm, but don't let it sweep away your family happiness. No matter how difficult your finances or how unstable your emotions are, if you work together, your family can still stand firm against the storm.

Once the breadwinner of his family, in recent years, Mr. NVT (Hoa Hiep Bac Ward, Dong Hoa Town) has gone from having an unstable job to losing his job. At the age of 42, having to raise a child and pay off debt for building a house, Mr. T was shocked when he received notice that the construction company was cutting staff. "My company has been holding on for the past few years, and only had to cut staff when it could no longer hold on. I had predicted it, but I never thought finding a job would be so difficult," Mr. T confided. According to Mr. T, recruiting companies often limit age, which has become a barrier for him. However, he still keeps looking, cherishes every opportunity, and hopes to soon have a job to support his wife and children.

The truth is, when a source of income disappears, no matter how frugal you are, expenses from housing, children's education to basic living expenses still come regularly. The difference between income and expenses quickly creates fear, which can easily lead to arguments and resentment. In many families, when money runs out, instead of finding a solution together, husband and wife easily blame each other, causing many challenges to married life.

“Keeping the fire” in the family, overcoming challenges

Keeping the family together and overcoming the challenge of losing a job is a journey that requires patience, understanding and effort from all members.

On Dan Tri newspaper, career expert Neha Deskmuh shared: “Currently, the unemployment rate is increasing due to the demand for work as well as the aftershocks of the economic crisis. Many people have lost their jobs or have not found a job after graduating. They are very sad. However, nothing is permanent in this life, as long as you believe in yourself, you will realize that everything has its own solution. Unemployment is no exception to this rule…”.

The risk of losing your job does not exclude anyone, so instead of sitting around in fear, experts advise everyone to be proactive and ready to deal with it. Experts suggest that instead of being confused and panicking, stay calm and believe in yourself. Convince yourself that this situation is only temporary and will be resolved quickly, so there is no need to worry too much; relax and rest more because only when you are in a good spirit can you think about what to do and how to start over. In addition, everyone needs to analyze the actual situation; open up alternative solutions by thinking about other ways to make money; contact people you know to work with them to find information for new jobs; consider and choose a career that suits your interests; try to improve your weak skills; save money carefully...

Losing a job is a difficult experience, but it can also be an opportunity for growth and renewal. During this time, a spouse needs to show empathy, encouragement and support to the unemployed person to help them regain their confidence and face the reality in a more positive way. Instead of criticizing, avoid negative words and focus on support and finding solutions.

Unemployment can be a huge stressor, but by seeking support, reevaluating your goals, and developing new skills, you can each overcome the crisis of job loss and build a more successful career. As long as both spouses work together to overcome it, the family bond will become stronger and more sustainable.

Source: https://baophuyen.vn/hon-nhan-gia-dinh/202504/cheo-lai-gia-dinh-qua-con-song-gio-mang-ten-mat-viec-bd9234d/