The mother said honestly: "I'm afraid if I don't give teachers an envelope on November 20th"

(Dan Tri) - Ms. Dan admitted that she really did not want to give teachers gifts on November 20 in envelopes, but she felt insecure and afraid...

Ms. Le Ngoc Dan has two children, one in primary school and one in preschool in Ho Chi Minh City.

Regarding the story of giving gifts in envelopes to teachers on Teachers' Day, November 20, Ms. Dan observed from relatives and friends that each person has a different way of thinking and choosing. However, most of the people Ms. Dan asked affirmed that "must give envelopes to teachers".

Ms. Dan’s colleague is a rare person who strongly opposes giving envelopes to teachers, especially on November 20. She said that giving envelopes to teachers on this occasion is disrespectful to the teaching profession. If anything, she only sends small gifts to teachers during Tet or at the end of the school year.

For over 10 years, her children have always been loved and taught wholeheartedly by their teachers. Therefore, this mother has never had to think or worry about giving gifts to teachers.

Parents in Ho Chi Minh City write congratulations to teachers on the occasion of November 20 (Photo: Hoai Nam).

Ms. Dan cautiously asked a friend who has a child the same age as hers. The friend replied: "No, I never give money or gifts to teachers."

This friend’s child studies at a bilingual school in Thu Duc City, Ho Chi Minh City. There, the school has a rule that parents are not allowed to give money or valuable gifts to teachers. Therefore, parents never have to worry about giving gifts to teachers on holidays and Tet.

Ms. Dan wishes her child's school had the same rule.

"Honestly, I don't want to give teachers gifts in envelopes, but since my child started school, I've been giving envelopes for many years.

I feel very psychologically heavy if I don't give gifts or envelopes, will the teachers take good care of my child? Will my child be discriminated against? Although deep down in my heart, I always thank the teachers for teaching and taking care of my child," said Ms. Le Ngoc Dan.

If given the choice, Ms. Dan affirms that she will not give teachers an envelope. Instead, she will choose a gift that is moderate, suitable for her finances and her heart.

"I'm sorry if this thought hurts teachers but it's my real concern," the mother expressed.

Before the holidays, like Ms. Dan, many parents are burdened with the thought of giving gifts to teachers. Many forums are filled with questions and concerns from many people about what gifts to give teachers, how much...

There are also worries, measurements, calculations about how much is enough, if I have few children, will I be at a disadvantage; or even the thought of not being able to give gifts to teachers?

Gifts now not only stop at gratitude and thanks with the spirit of "respecting teachers and valuing education" but can also carry the burden of anxiety, thoughts, and messages from the giver.

Because after the parents are the children. Parents have the legitimate desire that their children receive attention, care, and dedicated education, and also fear that their children will not be well cared for or will receive "special attention"...

As Ms. Dan thinks, parents' calculation and measurement of gifts for teachers can receive bad judgments and reviews.

Raising children for education now has many expenses and burdens. Just one additional expense is already a lot of pressure for many families. Along with that comes the insecurity and worry that children will not be taught well, will be treated unfairly if they do not "go" to be teachers like everyone else.

Not only on November 20th, throughout the year, any holiday, even one that has nothing to do with teachers, can become an excuse for parents to "care" about teachers. Giving gifts is not really about giving gifts, but sometimes it is to seek peace of mind with the hope that teachers will be gentler, more dedicated...

We have to face it, the fact that students and parents feel unsafe if they don't "take care" of teachers; parents use envelopes to reassure their children, hoping to get peace of mind in exchange for their children's safety at school is an extremely painful thing foreducation .

Ms. Nguyen Ngoc Phuong, a primary school teacher in Ho Chi Minh City, said that in the past, when she saw many people calculating and calculating about giving gifts to teachers, she felt very uncomfortable.

Many times, on social networks, Ms. Phuong has argued back and forth around the topic of asking each other how much to give teachers as gifts, little or much.

But now, Ms. Phuong shared, she feels more sympathetic to parents' feelings when she understands that behind those calculations and calculations may be the parents' difficulties, worries, and insecurities...

Ms. Phuong frankly said that she still receives gifts from parents and students, including envelopes. However, she is learning not to judge others and herself through gifts.

In the story of holiday gifts for teachers, Ms. Phuong said that parents and teachers should untie the knots in their hearts and not be too heavy-handed in giving and receiving gifts.

The greatest gift a teacher can give himself is responsibility and dedication to his work (Photo: Hoai Nam).

Parents need to boldly stop thinking that if they don't give gifts, their children won't be cared for. And teachers need to stop being demanding, don't put themselves in the position that others have to be grateful to them, have to give them gifts...

Teachers need to clearly define that teaching students is a responsibility to themselves, to the job they choose to make a living, to contribute.

At that time, whether parents give gifts to teachers or not, how to give gifts, or whether teachers accept gifts or not will no longer be issues to worry about or debate.

Source: https://dantri.com.vn/giao-duc/nguoi-me-noi-that-toi-lo-so-neu-khong-di-phong-bi-giao-vien-dip-2011-20241114164830702.htm