Instead of 'building a fence' with their children's idols, what should parents do?

Parents should never confront their children's idols. Because as a natural psychological law, the more we forbid something, the more it becomes strangely attractive.

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Young people often idolize someone. Vietnamese young people are no exception.

And after two music game shows "Anh trai say hi" and "Anh trai vu ngan cong gai" with a sea of ​​people singing along with "anh trai" and "anh tai", a new picture of the dream becoming reality opened up - Vietnamese people "following" Vietnamese idols.

To add more perspectives on idols among young people, the following is a share from reader Thanh Ny sent to Tuoi Tre Online .

Young people are eager, adults "put up barriers", worried

Social networks have been bustling with "ticket hunting" for the past few concerts.

"More than 130,000 visitors flocked to Vinhomes Ocean Park 2-3 to enjoy the festival atmosphere, music and art space of the concert Anh trai qua ngan cong gai . The bustling commercial areas of Venice, K-Town, Little Hong Kong were brightly lit and operating at full capacity...".

After the second concert night, the program organizers also confirmed that there will be a third concert night in Ho Chi Minh City in March 2025.

This information quickly excited fans and young people.

And like many other "idol chasing" events, as excited and bustling as young people are, many parents present many conflicting pieces.

Some people criticize the extravagance of the money spent by ticket buyers. Others mock the naive emotions of young people who are crazy about their idols. Some even mock "idleness breeds mischief"...

Adults erecting barriers and placing signs prohibiting their children from "following idols" is the best solution for young people to spend less money on trivial things and waste less time on useless things?

Or will our harsh prohibitions hurt children and make them withdraw? Then the generation gap will grow larger, unable to be bridged, unable to be erased?

That is the moment when many fathers and mothers lament "whose child is it, not mine" and lament "I really lost my child".

Who is more worrisome if you don't idolize them?

Almost as a natural psychological rule, the more we forbid something, the more strangely attractive it becomes.

In fact, when a complete stranger from a far away place suddenly bursts into the home, dominating the eyes and concerns of the children, parents must feel disappointed and clearly feel insecure.

But stay calm.

Perhaps when children do not idolize anyone, that is the more worrying thing. Their souls will be pitifully empty.

Love, admiration, and affection for a person who is recognized and praised for his talent, personality, virtues, and lifestyle are natural.

We were once children, we spent our youth being crazy about this player, that singer, this talent. So why should we forbid our children from "following their idols"?

The best way to accompany your child is for each person to patiently pay attention and find out who your child idolizes, what qualities that person has that make your child admire them, and what positive values ​​they bring to the community?

Because there are deviant idols who once stirred up young people with their offensive behavior and are praised by a segment of young people, that is a worrying thing.

Social networks have often led many young hearts to put their love on the wrong idol, so parents need to be there for their children, using their life experience and sincerity to equip them with a "filter for idols".

It is necessary to draw clear boundaries with children when they spend time, money, and effort in the race to become a true fan of someone.

Share with your child how to regulate emotions and avoid being dragged into a trend of forming fan-security groups to mercilessly beat up and crush strangers.

Or if you have had your own terrible experience when your idol's image was broken, parents should sincerely share with their children, because everyone has a hidden dark side...

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/thay-vi-dung-hang-rao-voi-than-tuong-cua-con-cha-me-nen-lam-gi-202412181012204.htm