4 steps to improve... a lazy husband.

Clarify the division of labor and let him know which household chores he needs to take on. (Photo: ITN)

A 42-year-old woman shared that her husband is too lazy at home. Every day after work, the first thing he does is lie on the sofa and play with his phone.

She asked him to help with the housework, but he always refused, saying he was too tired from work. When he saw her angry, he would reluctantly do some chores. But this only lasted for about two days, after which he would revert to his old ways. She felt utterly helpless and like she was raising "a grown-up child."

His laziness wasn't limited to housework; it was evident in his life as well. On weekends, she planned day trips and wanted to go outdoors with him or go shopping. But he always found excuses to avoid it. He preferred sleeping at home and playing video games.

This left her utterly disappointed, feeling that they had less and less in common in their lives.

She tried to change him, persuading him to exercise more and participate in household chores, but to no avail.

His laziness seemed to have become a habit, deeply ingrained in his very being. This made her wonder if there was something wrong with their marriage. Was she really considering divorce because of his laziness?

However, every time she prepared to sign the divorce papers, she would think about the good times they had shared. She thought about how he drove her to work regardless of the weather; how he took meticulous care of her when she was sick, and encouraged her when she faced difficulties at work...

These memories made her hesitant. Suddenly, she realized that his laziness was a forgivable flaw.

She was racking her brain again, perhaps she needed to look at it from a different perspective. Laziness wasn't a matter of principle, but a habit that could be changed. Ideally, she should try to find ways to encourage her husband to participate in family life.

Without hesitation, she patiently communicated with him and tried to understand why he was so lazy. Finally, he confessed. He told her that he wasn't trying to be lazy, but simply didn't know where to begin.

It turned out he had lived with his parents since he was a child, and they handled all the household chores. He had never truly been independent. After hearing this, she understood that his laziness wasn't hopeless, but rather needed guidance and encouragement.

She decided to implement the following strategies:

Family planning

Understand his thinking, respect his opinions, and let him play a bigger role in the family. (Photo: ITN)

Create a detailed weekly household plan, clarifying the division of labor and letting him know which chores he needs to take on.

Cooperate

Encourage him to participate in household chores so he can experience the joy of family life. At the same time, encourage the children to participate in outdoor activities and exercise.

Patient guidance

When he does well, praise and encourage him; when he is lazy, remind him promptly, but avoid getting angry.

Improve communication skills

Understand his way of thinking, respect his opinions, and let him play a bigger role in the family.

After diligently following the steps mentioned above for some time, she noticed her husband gradually changing, albeit slowly. He was no longer lazy, began to be proactive in household chores, and even willing to participate in outdoor activities with her. Their relationship became more harmonious, and they found more and more common ground.

Currently, she no longer thinks about divorce. Because she understands that marriage requires management and the joint effort of both parties. As long as both people change and manage with both reason and heart, the marriage will become stronger and more enduring.

If your husband is as lazy as the story above, please don't give up easily. Try to understand him, guide him, and encourage him. When you do that, your life will get better and better.

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