Make the division of labor clear and let him know what chores he needs to take on. (Photo: ITN).
A 42-year-old woman shared that her husband is too lazy at home. Every day after work, the first thing he does is lie on the sofa playing with his phone.
She asked him to help with the housework, but he always refused, saying that he was too tired from work. When he saw her angry, he would reluctantly do some housework. But this state only lasted for two days, after which he would return to his original state. She was really helpless and felt like she was raising “a grown child”.
His laziness is not only reflected in housework but also in life. On weekends, she plans a day trip and wants to go out with him or go shopping. But he always finds many reasons to avoid it. He prefers to sleep at home and play games.
This made her extremely disappointed, feeling that life between her and him had less and less in common.
She tried to change him, to persuade him to exercise more and participate in household chores, but to no avail.
His laziness seemed to have become a habit, ingrained in his bones. This made her wonder if there was a problem with their marriage. Did she really want to choose divorce because of his laziness?
However, every time she prepared to sign the divorce papers, she thought about the good times they had. She thought about how he took her to work regardless of the weather; how he also took good care of her when she was sick, and encouraged her when she had difficulties at work...
These memories made her hesitate. Suddenly she saw his laziness as a forgivable flaw.
She had a headache thinking again, maybe she needed to look at this from a different angle. Laziness is not a matter of principle but a habit that can be changed. It is best for her to try to find a way to make her husband consciously participate in family life.
Thinking is doing, she patiently communicated with him and understood why he was so lazy. Finally he confessed. He told her that he wasn't trying to be lazy, he just didn't know where to start.
It turned out that he had lived with his parents since he was a child and his parents had done all the housework. He had never really been independent. After hearing this, she understood that his laziness was not hopeless but needed guidance and encouragement.
She decided to implement the following strategies:
Family planning
Understand his thoughts, respect his opinions and let him play a bigger role in the family. (Photo: ITN).
Make a detailed weekly family plan, clarify the division of labor, and let him know what chores he needs to take on.
Cooperate
Encourage him to join in with the housework so that he can experience the joy of family life. Also encourage your children to join in outdoor activities and exercise.
Patiently guide
When he does well, praise and encourage him; when he is lazy, remind him promptly, but avoid getting angry.
Improve communication skills
Understand his thinking, respect his opinions and let him play a bigger role in the family.
After a period of trying to carry out the above steps, she noticed that her husband gradually changed, albeit very slowly. He was no longer lazy, started to take the initiative in housework, and was even willing to join her in outdoor activities. Their relationship became more harmonious and they increasingly had more in common.
Now she no longer thinks about divorce. Because she understands that marriage needs management and joint efforts from both sides. As long as both people change and manage with both reason and heart, the marriage will become stronger and stronger.
If your husband is lazy like the story above, please do not give up easily. Try to understand him, guide him, encourage him. When you do so, your life will become better and better.
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/4-buoc-cai-thien-chong-luoi-172240930094932234.htm
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