My husband agreed to move out but made me feel like a maid.

When I decided to marry my husband, I thought about it for many days. He is a good person, responsible, loves me but is an only son. Many people opposed it, because they were afraid that I would marry an only son and later have to shoulder the responsibility of the family.

However, love made me forget everything. After getting married, I lived with my in-laws. Although both sides tried their best, the relationship was not happy. I was quite stubborn, and my mother-in-law often scrutinized the smallest details. I think the most miserable person was my husband because he had to stand in the middle to balance his wife and his mother.

Chồng đồng ý ra ở riêng nhưng khiến tôi cảm thấy như làm osin - Ảnh 1. — My husband changed his attitude and did not want to buy an apartment because his wife did not accept his request (Illustration: TH).

Many times, I wanted to move out to live but he wanted to take care of his parents. If the family had many children, it would be fine, but in my case, my parents expected a lot from my husband and daughter-in-law. Although my mother-in-law and I did not get along, my husband's family liked to be together and did not want the children to move out.

Buying a house was not a difficult task for my husband and I, but for many years we could not resolve it simply because my husband did not agree. I could not leave my husband because he did not want to live separately, so I had to accept it.

I don’t say I’m right in everything, but my mother-in-law is not necessarily perfect like other people. The emotional distance between us is very large, it’s hard to reconcile our views on life no matter how hard we try. Even though we live together, I try to limit contact with my mother-in-law to avoid unnecessary conflicts.

What I find most frustrating is that my mother-in-law does not respect the privacy of her son and daughter-in-law. Every time she hears her grandchild crying, she rushes to our room to ask questions and then sits there for hours. Every time I go to work, my mother-in-law comes into my room to rummage through my things. Even though she puts things away neatly, I still detect that bad habit.

In addition, my mother-in-law and I often quarreled because of disagreements. My mother spoiled her grandchild too much, making it impossible for her daughter-in-law to cultivate habits according to her own will. Those petty arguments led to a gap in thinking and feelings.

Last year, my husband and I received a large bonus thanks to the many contracts the company had. Combined with the bonus and our savings, we were able to buy an apartment near my husband's house.

Looking at the apartment from a close distance, my husband agreed to move out. However, he requested that the couple and their children only sleep in the apartment, and eat and live mainly at his grandparents' house. I had to go home to clean and cook like before. Because he did not want his parents to eat and drink alone when they were old.

I didn't want to do what he said. Because I wanted to live completely separately, visiting my in-laws on weekends was enough. If I had to go home every day to take care of everything, I would be no different from a maid.

My biological mother also objected when she heard about it and advised her daughter to stay calm. I asked my husband to stop thinking like that and not try to force others to live the way he wanted. Because I did not agree to take care of the housework for my in-laws even though we lived separately, my husband changed his attitude and wanted to reconsider buying a house.

I have not thought of any way to convince my husband. I myself am no longer able to bear the suffocating situation in the mother-in-law - daughter-in-law relationship.

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