8 biggest regrets in life, know early so you don't have to say 'if only' later

GĐXH - We only have about 4,000 Mondays to live. No matter how many or few Mondays you have, you should live a "non-wasteful" life.

1. Not knowing how to value time

When we are young, we easily think that the future is long and everything is waiting for us ahead. What we didn't do today will still be there tomorrow, so why rush?

But time passes faster than we think, the opportunity has passed, we can only sit there and regretfully say the two words "if only".

On lonely nights, looking back at my current life, those two words haunt my mind even more, accompanied by a sigh of disappointment.

Life is only once, don't do anything that you will regret. You should have gone to class and learned useful knowledge for yourself but you wasted your youth on endless games.

You should have strived and worked hard, but you chose comfort from the start.

You should be constantly improving your skills and perfecting yourself, but instead you indulge yourself in meaningless gatherings with friends...

The time you work hard is directly proportional to what you can harvest. If you are not willing to put in the effort, how can you have a good harvest?

The more ups and downs you experience in life, the more you will understand that everything good starts with appreciating every moment.

8 điều hối tiếc nhất đời người, biết sớm để sau này không phải nói 'giá như'- Ảnh 1. — Time flies faster than we think, the opportunity has passed, we can only sit there and regretfully say the two words "if only". Illustration photo

2. Live your life the way others want you to

Many people wish they had the courage to live a life true to themselves, not what others expected.

Whether explicitly stated or just applied unconsciously, many people often make important life choices in a direction that their parents/friends/lovers/colleagues expect and will be pleased with.

It's only then, 1 or 10 years from now, when you find out that the people around you are slowly leaving and you're not really doing what you wanted to do.

A panic attack may set in. After all, “Whose life am I living?”

3. Only know work and forget to relax

The average person spends 90,000 hours in their lifetime working. Are you working too hard or not doing the work that you want to do?

Research on self-determination theory shows that people who truly love their work tend to have a number of things: relatedness (they feel connected and have a sense of belonging at work), autonomy (they feel free to implement innovative ideas), mastery (they believe they are improving themselves), and purpose (their work aligns with what they believe is personally meaningful).

Most of those expressing this regret were men from the older generation, who spent more time working than doing what they loved.

4. Unable to show filial piety to parents

Don't wait until your parents pass away to show filial piety. By then it's too late, you can no longer hear their voice or see their loving face.

Human beings, being filial at the right time is the greatest cultivation. If you can't even take good care of your parents and don't respect them, then this life is just meaningless.

Parents are the ones who brought us into this world , taught us how to walk from our first steps, and babble with unclear meanings.

They give us the best, no matter what the circumstances are, they are always there for us, taking care of us like when we were kids.

Father is the sky, mother is the earth. Parents are our sky and earth, they are the people who stick with us all our lives. Without them, how can we live a happy life?

What they sacrifice is their whole life, but what they take away is nothing. Parents just want their children to have a happy and fulfilling life, ready to give the best.

Yet we often get angry with our parents because of their busyness, because of temporary misunderstandings... Only when they are gone, do we realize their importance in our hearts.

Many people take their parents' love for their children for granted, a free love that lasts a lifetime. They take what their parents give them for granted, and only when they lose it do they feel empty inside.

Treat your parents well while you still can, don't let later years bring you regrets about the past.

We've all been disappointed and we've all been hurt. Life is like that, perfection is just a fairy tale.

However, everyone has the opportunity to stop regretting or change so that they do not have to regret again.

When you make up for regrets in time and cherish what you have now, seize the moment, cherish your lover, and be filial to your parents, your life will be truly meaningful.

5. Not taking care of your health when you still have the chance

Most people don't think about their health - until something goes wrong. And at that point, we promise ourselves that if we get better, we'll treat our bodies better.

Most patients think that if they ate better, slept more, and paid more attention to their health and well-being, they might not have gotten sick. They wish they had prioritized self-care.

8 điều hối tiếc nhất đời người, biết sớm để sau này không phải nói 'giá như'- Ảnh 2. — Many people wish they had prioritized self-care more. Illustration photo

6. Not daring to express your feelings

According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the United States each year, affecting approximately 40 million adults, or 19% of the population.

While anxiety disorders develop from a complex set of risk factors (genetics, brain chemistry, personality, life events, etc.), there's something else at play, according to psychiatrist David Burns, called hidden emotional patterns.

Accordingly, people affected by this factor simply hide their emotions and avoid saying what they really feel or believe. These are all patients with severe panic disorder associated with extreme anxiety.

Burns says about 75% of anxiety patients who are brave enough to express their feelings find that their anxiety virtually disappears.

Maybe you're not one of the 40 million people who suffer from anxiety, but it still takes courage to express your feelings. How would your life change this year if you expressed your true feelings more often?

7. Forgetting loved ones

Many people often express sadness for not understanding, caring, and being there for the people who are important to them.

They wish they had the courage to say "I love you" and "I love you, Mom and Dad" more often.

At the end of their lives, many people often regret not spending more time with their children, parents, and not keeping in touch with friends and relatives.