70-year-old couple raising 5-year-old daughter causes stir

(Dan Tri) - Having children completely naturally at an older age, Chinese couples are always the focus of public opinion about how to raise children.

Mr. Huang Weiping (74 years old) and his wife - Mrs. Tian Xinju (72 years old) - live in Shandong province, China. The elderly couple once caused a stir in the country's public opinion when they gave birth completely naturally when the mother was 67 years old. Up to now, their daughter is 5 years old.

At the age of 66, Ms. Tian suffered a stroke and had to take medication for a long time to improve her blood circulation. During the treatment, her menstrual cycle suddenly returned. A year later, she discovered that she was pregnant.

The couple had lost a son to alcoholism and had an adult daughter. So Mr. Huang and Ms. Tian decided to keep the child, after doctors confirmed that she was fit to have the baby.

However, the couple's eldest daughter strongly objected. When she learned that her parents had decided to have another child, she decided to cut off all contact with them.

When his daughter was born, Mr. Huang named her Tianci, meaning that she was a "gift from God" and a source of motivation for them to continue living positively to raise her.

"We are people who are always racing against time, trying to give our child as much love as possible in the remaining years," said Mr. Huang.

Mr. Huang and his wife receive more than 10,000 yuan in pensions each month (nearly 36 million VND). This amount is enough for them to raise Tianci. Mr. Huang maintains his health by exercising regularly and getting enough sleep. Meanwhile, Ms. Tian asserts that having a child has made her feel younger both physically and mentally.

They now regularly share their parenting journey on social media, attracting 1.2 million followers. They earn extra income by "live streaming" to interact with the online community.

A year ago, Ms. Tian suffered from severe leg pain and had to rest frequently. Mr. Huang took on all the housework, from cooking, taking care of his wife to raising their young children. Mr. Huang said that raising children at an old age is very difficult, but Tianci's smile is the source of strength that helps him continue to try every day.

With so much work on his plate, Mr. Huang decided to teach Tianci simple skills in cooking and cleaning early. Mr. Huang also focused on teaching his child how to face life with confidence.

74-year-old Mr. Huang with his 5-year-old daughter Tianci (Photo: SCMP).

Once, when Tianci was upset by hurtful comments from a classmate, he used his favorite canned peaches to explain: "This can of peaches hasn't changed, but some people say it's delicious, some say it's bad. Those are all personal opinions. If someone doesn't like you, that's their personal opinion, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you."

Mr. Huang now has a close relationship with the family of a nephew named Dachao. The nephew sympathizes with Mr. Huang and his wife raising a young child at an old age, so he often brings his young son to play with Tianci, and at the same time, he sees what he can do to help Mr. Huang and his wife.

The two families often organize meetings, eat and travel together. Mr. Dachao shared: "People should not judge my uncle's decision based on age or financial conditions alone. From my perspective, Uncle Huang and his wife have tried to create an ideal family life for Tianci in their own way."

The story of Mr. Huang and Mrs. Tian has sparked much debate on Chinese social media over the past few years. Many people think that Tianci is lucky to have grown up in such a loving family. In addition, the Huangs' sharing of their parenting methods shows that they are very responsible.

However, there are also many concerns about Tianci's future and development: "Mr. Huang and Mrs. Tian look like Tianci's grandparents. Growing up with such old parents, will Tianci develop normally and receive the upbringing appropriate to the times?

Then 10 years from now, when Mr. and Mrs. Huang have difficulty walking, who will care for her? At that time, Tianci will just be a teenager.

People Raised by Older Parents Often Develop 7 Distinctive Traits

Nowadays, having children after the age of 40 is becoming more and more common. According to American psychologist Brett A. Biller, having children when they are no longer young makes the generation gap between parents and children even larger.

Some studies also indicate the risk of children being slow to develop due to the biological genetic factors of the parents, when the child is born when the parents are old. These children also tend to be conservative in life.

People raised by older parents often have some prominent personality traits (Illustration: Leoai).

However, being raised by older parents also brings many benefits to children. The parents of these children often have a solid foundation, especially in terms of financial foundation. They also have a stable life, more stable emotions when raising children. These factors create positive things in children.

According to expert Brett A. Biller, people raised by older parents often have the following 7 characteristics:

- Early maturity: Thinking and acting more maturely than peers.

- Respect traditions: Be aware of preserving family values ​​and cultural traditions.

- High motivation to study: Often have good learning conditions created by parents, have higher concentration ability because they are less distracted by the impact of the way parents organize family life.

- Patience: Early practice of perseverance, especially if parents ask for help with issues related to technology.

- Comprehensive development: Parents create conditions for access to many extracurricular activities, increasing opportunities to develop skills.

- Sense of responsibility: Know how to be independent and take on household chores earlier.

- Strong emotional resilience and management: Early exposure to parental health challenges increases the ability to endure and overcome life's challenges.

What should parents who have children late pay attention to?

No matter what age you are, everyone wants to create a stable life for their children, but older parents also have to face changes due to age. Therefore, when having children late, parents have a few things to keep in mind:

When raising children when they are really old, parents need to prepare a long-term plan for themselves and their children (Illustration: Leoai).

- Build a support team and prepare a legal foundation: You need to consult a financial expert and a lawyer to have a specific plan and long-term roadmap for your child. A financial expert will help you plan appropriately for goals such as saving money for your child's college education, retirement - old-age care for your parents.

A lawyer will help you prepare a will, arrange a plan with specific commitments about who is responsible for raising and guardianship of the child, and support in managing assets until the child reaches adulthood, in case something unfortunate happens to you.

- Financial planning: Raising children at an older age can put you under greater financial pressure, as you have to take care of your old age and save money for raising children. At this time, you need to allocate money carefully, consider each item carefully, and build a financial strategy that suits your family's conditions.

- Think long-term: In addition to making long-term plans for their children, older parents also need to plan for their own care if they become seriously ill or are chronically ill. This plan is intended to reduce the burden on their children or the person receiving support or guardianship.

With a solid plan, having children at an older age will be less risky, and parents will also feel more secure and confident in their journey of raising children.

According to SCMP/Parade/Northwestern Mutual

Source: https://dantri.com.vn/giao-duc/cap-vo-chong-70-tuoi-nuoi-con-gai-5-tuoi-gay-xon-xao-20250427114547625.htm