The beautiful girl who worked as a housekeeper heard the question: "Why don't you become a sugar baby?"

Job "taking care of children during the day and father at night"

The situation of a female graduate working as an hourly maid was recently shared on a job forum and attracted the attention of many people.

The girl said she has been unemployed for 4 months now. She was tired of staying at home all day so she recently started working as an hourly housekeeper.

On the first day of her trial job, while she was cleaning the kitchen table, the landlady asked: "Why don't you choose to be a model or a sugar baby when you're tall, white, and pretty instead of working as a maid?"

Many young, beautiful girls are suspected when working as housekeepers (Illustration photo: HN).

The girl choked up, tried to finish the work and then "ran away" before receiving her 180,000 VND payment for the work. After the incident, she was determined to spread her CV (job application) to find a job.

The situation the girl encountered is not unique. Many people, especially girls, often encounter insinuating questions and doubtful looks like "she's so beautiful, why must she..." when going to work.

Working as a tutor and taking care of two young children for a wealthy family in Go Vap, Ho Chi Minh City, Ms. Le Ngoc Han (31 years old) also often encounters judgment and sarcasm from those around her.

Some people knew her job and smiled: "A beautiful tutor will soon become a boss", "Work without receiving a salary", "Take care of the children during the day and take care of the father at night"... When they found out that Han's landlord was a woman whose husband had passed away a long time ago, someone turned the tables: "The boss has just realized her true gender".

Participating in groups and forums about jobs and tutoring, Ms. Han saw more clearly the labeling, innuendo, sexualization of the profession as well as body shaming from many people.

Young, somewhat beautiful girls who work as tutors or housekeepers are often laughed at, mocked, and assumed to be just an excuse to approach... the homeowner.

The boss is the age of... the grandfather and asks to be his "adopted daughter"

After graduating, working as a PG (Promotion Girl - female marketing staff), often appearing in eye-catching dresses with the task of promoting, introducing products, selling promotional items or at events, Quynh Chau, 26 years old, in Ho Chi Minh City, has met many men who asked her to be a... "sugar baby".

There are many men who habitually tease, "You're beautiful, why do you have to work so hard?" There are also those who try to approach and offer... "Let me take care of you, I feel sorry for you."

Many girls have difficulty finding jobs because of their... beauty (Illustration: Shutterstock).

Chau once met an 80-year-old man, the same age as her grandfather, the former director of the company where she worked, who suggested that she become her "adopted child", "I'll take care of everything, no need to work hard"...

However, what shocked Chau the most was that when she indignantly shared her story, many people said she was "pretending to be naive", "men with money wouldn't rush in". Some people criticized her reaction because "the boss is in his 80s, if only people in their 40s or 50s watched, the girls wouldn't stand in line".

"Many people assume that we work as PGs to wait for the opportunity to "seduce" rich men. When looking for jobs in other positions, I also encountered the same seductive question: "You're as pretty as me, why do you have to work so hard?" Quynh Chau said.

According to Chau, youth and beauty are advantages when going to work but can also be disadvantages for many girls. Many people, not only men but also women, have the prejudice of "long legs, short brains", thinking that beautiful girls cannot work or are beautiful for decoration, implying that beautiful people have many ways to make money leisurely.

To Chau, that is a one-sided and insulting view, not based on assessment of ability and work but only on appearance to judge and label.

In a previous exchange program with students in Ho Chi Minh City, someone raised the question "are beautiful women good for pouring tea, for "bait" in contracts and exchanges?"

At that time, the most beautiful Miss Asia in 2009, Huong Giang, was not happy with this comparison. She replied: "Beautiful women are not for making tea or serving water."

Huong Giang does not deny that beautiful women have the advantage of being attractive and easily getting people’s attention no matter what they do. But what is much more difficult than attracting is convincing others that you can do it and can do it well.

When interacting, beautiful women or anyone only make an impression for 3-5 minutes, what matters next is the results and the value they bring to each other at work. To achieve that, both sides must start with respect.

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