After 3 failed attempts to flirt with a woman in her 40s, I now understand why men like young women.

I am Manh Dong, a typical city youth, so absorbed in building a career that I forgot about love. It was not until I was approaching my forties, with a good job position and a dream salary, that I seriously thought about finding a life partner.

Through matchmaking, I started to get to know "older" girls because I thought I was already a "40-year-old man", women of this age were suitable for me. From here, a series of funny and sad stories made me understand why my friends said that for women in their 40s, it is better to love a divorced man than a woman who has never been married.

Date 1: The Girl Who Has Too High Requirements

Kieu Linh is nearly 40 years old, a long-time friend of my best friend. She has a stable job but a rather monotonous life. On our first date, Kieu Linh dressed simply, if not somewhat shabby. She did not hesitate to share about her past relationships as well as express her distrust of men today.

Kieu Linh always emphasizes that she wants her husband to have an income of around 50 million VND, have a house and a car. Besides, he must be a family man, always be home before 8pm and be home on weekends.

After listening, I could only smile sadly. Although my income exceeded the figure Linh mentioned, the other "sky-high" requirements she set right on the first date made me shake my head in dismay. We did not have a second date because we knew it would not go anywhere.

Are older girls really hard to love and hard to please? (Illustration: Thriving Center of Psychology)

Date 2: The Domineering Girl

Unlike Kieu Linh, Mai Van attracted me from the first time we met because of her outstanding beauty. She is nearly 40 years old but her beautiful face still shows no signs of aging, and she dresses very fashionably. She has a job that brings in a good income.

However, Mai Van's arrogance and pickiness scared me. Throughout the conversation, she kept interrupting and imposing her opinion without any regard for my patience.

Even when she glanced at the shirt I was wearing that didn't seem to be neatly ironed, her eyes showed her displeasure. Kieu Linh also said coolly: " When you're dating your girlfriend, you should pay attention to your clothes so that they match."

Meeting Mai Van made me understand more about why many men are afraid of girls who get married late.

Date 3: The Self-Centered Girl

Ngoc Thanh is 35 years old, a teacher at an elementary school. Due to the nature of her profession, she always exudes a calm and gentle demeanor. Meeting Ngoc Thanh, I felt like I had found the right person. After our first date, we met regularly to have more time to get to know each other.

However, when I started to love her, I was somewhat afraid of her self-centered personality. Not only did she often make demands and show annoyance whenever I displeased her, Ngoc Thanh was also willing to make me leave my busy work to run to see her whenever she needed to confide in me about a difficult co-worker.

To please my lover, I learned how to cook the dishes Ngoc Thanh liked, but she criticized every dish and said it was not as delicious as what she cooked at home. The relationship did not last long because I felt that no matter how hard I tried, I could not meet Ngoc Thanh's demands and desires.

After those three dates, I suddenly understood why men are often reluctant to marry older women who have never been married. It is not because men only like young women, but because older women are really difficult to please. Many of them are single forever because when they are in a high position or realize their value, they always set very strict requirements for men and are not tolerant or compromising.

Therefore, when they first start to get to know each other, they lack perseverance and often lose interest because of the shortcomings of men, forgetting that marriage is a process of sharing and perfecting each other. Women labeled as "leftover women" have difficulty finding a partner not because men look down on them, but because few men catch their eye.

Although I really want to find a wife of similar age, after the above failures, I think I should aim for younger girls, perhaps the courtship will be easier and less complicated.

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/3-lan-tan-gai-u40-that-bai-toi-moi-hieu-vi-sao-dan-ong-thich-phu-nu-tre-172240701125644209.htm