1. Going out into society, everyone has their own job and position, but when returning to their family, each member is a piece of the "home" and is responsible for nurturing and taking care of that home. For nearly a year now, every day after work, Mr. Thai Hoang Linh (residing in Tan Tru commune, Tay Ninh province) takes the opportunity to go to his wife's parents' house to take care of their children with his wife before returning home. "Because my wife's parents' house is close to my workplace, we agreed that my wife and children will stay at my parents' house for a while so that every noon and afternoon, we have more time to spend with our children. On weekends, I will take my wife and children to my grandparents' house so that my grandparents can visit their grandchildren, and the whole family will have dinner with my grandparents," said Mr. Linh.
Mr. Thai Hoang Linh (residing in Tan Tru commune) always respects and creates conditions for the couple to reunite with their family, so that everyone has the opportunity to talk, understand and love each other (In the photo: Mr. Thai Hoang Linh and his wife (right cover) reunite with their family during Tet)
Mr. Linh and his wife live with his parents. To foster family affection, he spends time with the whole family because it is an opportunity to talk and understand each other.
Mr. Linh said: “Before, when we first fell in love, on holidays, I often took her out to play, but since we “lived under the same roof”, we chose to stay home and cook with our parents. Occasionally, my siblings also came back, and the whole family gathered together.” And Mr. Linh became the “bridge” between his wife and his family. Having a lot of time together, talking and understanding, the members of his family have a close and warm bond.
For Mr. Linh, caring and sharing all the housework together is the "glue" that binds the family together. That's why he never shies away from anything. The concept of "women's work" does not exist in his home. "The child is still young, so sometimes he cries, my wife has to work and take care of the child, which is already very hard, I have to take responsibility for my wife in other things" - Mr. Linh shared. That's why taking advantage of the time to go home to do laundry and clean the house so that his wife can rest has become a natural thing for Mr. Linh.
2. Family is a warm home, a place to return to after hard work and chaos and is always considered a peaceful place for everyone. To do that, every member of the family needs to feel happy, cared for and loved. Men want to always have someone waiting at home next to a hot meal, while women also want to be able to sit next to their loved one to eat dinner and receive care and sharing that is very ordinary but also extremely warm.
Having been active in the arts since he was young, Mr. Bien Huu Hung Dung - former Deputy Head of the Long An Cai Luong Art Troupe (now the Vam Co Cai Luong Art Troupe), often went on trips with the troupe to perform in remote areas, on holidays and Tet. Pitying his wife for having to work hard to take care of the family, whenever he had the chance, he would return home to spend time with his wife and children.
“In the past, when transportation was not developed, going to remote areas often required a long stay, but now with the conditions, I can arrange to return home right after the show. Even though I get home at 2-3 am, I still have time to take my children to school the next morning. Because of my job, I often have little time at home during holidays, so whenever I can be home, I try to take advantage of the time,” Mr. Dung shared.
After retiring, Mr. Bien Huu Hung Dung - former Deputy Head of the Long An Cai Luong Art Troupe (now the Vam Co Cai Luong Art Troupe), devoted almost all his time to his family (In the photo: Mr. Dung prepares a family meal)
Seeing his son's passion for art, Mr. Dung created conditions for him to develop his talent. When he had time, he taught his son more about Cai Luong, helping him understand and love traditional art. Not long after retiring, Mr. Dung devoted almost all his time to his family. Every day, he took his son to school, cooked and cleaned with his wife as a way to make up for the family's losses.
Mr. Dung said: “Usually other families will gather together on holidays and New Year’s Eve, but because of work, I am rarely at home on those occasions. Every New Year’s Eve, I have to finish the art program and fireworks display before I get home, and then I start the New Year’s Eve worship. Every year I am late, but my wife and children always wait. This year is different, I have fulfilled the responsibility assigned to me. This New Year’s Eve, my family will worship on time.” He smiled happily, his smile sparkling with joy.
3. Each person has a different situation, responsibilities to fulfill and a separate life to live. Just completing one's duties well, taking care of and cultivating happiness for the family, raising children and being filial to parents means that person has a brilliant and happy life. Because of that point of view, Mr. Dinh Huu Ai (residing in Thuan My commune) was voted as a "10-point man" at the unit where he works. He said that everything he does is to fulfill his responsibilities as a husband, a father, a son in the family, nothing big but it is those not-so-big things that bring joy and happiness to his home.
Every day, after work, he comes home to take care of the children, take them to extra classes so that his wife has some time to rest or do other work. Cooking and washing dishes is a very normal thing for him, because he knows that both he and his wife are tired after a day of work. When they come home, they share the housework together so that they have some time to rest and gather together warmly.
For Mr. Dinh Huu Ai (residing in Thuan My commune), caring for and looking after his children from the smallest things is the responsibility of a husband and father in the family (In the photo: Mr. Ai reminds his child to wear a helmet before getting on the bike to school)
“My wife is a farmer, the work is very hard so she really needs the support and sharing from her husband. Men are “strong and broad-shouldered”, doing some chores after work is just a way to relax the mind” - Mr. Ai said. On holidays or birthdays of family members, he often takes the whole family out to eat because he wants the whole family to really rest on those days. Every year, his family often takes a few short trips together as a way to bond with each other.
Not only does he share housework and take care of the children, Dinh Huu Ai also makes people love him because of his harmonious attitude, respect and love for his wife's family. After getting married, due to the conditions of taking care of both sets of parents and the convenience of work, he and his wife agreed to live with his wife's family. To him, that is completely normal, because "when it comes to family, it is the same everywhere, as long as everyone loves each other". It is this simple, straightforward way of thinking that helps him quickly adapt to the lifestyle of his wife's family.
He always considers his wife's parents as his own parents, does not hesitate to help with heavy work or take care of family anniversaries and parties with his wife. He always takes the initiative to share from farm work to daily activities. Thanks to that harmonious life, Mr. Ai is considered a model of a modern man, who knows how to love, share and put family happiness first. That also shows that the model of a "10-point man" is not far away but starts from sincerity, respect and understanding between people living under the same roof.
From the very ordinary stories of Mr. Linh, Mr. Dung or Mr. Ai, it can be seen that gender equality is not something far away but is the way each person behaves with loved ones in the family. When the man is willing to share, nurture and put the family first, the woman will have more opportunities to develop, be loved and be herself. A happy family is always built from the consensus of both sides, tolerance, respect and together care for sustainable values.
Happiness is not created by big things, but by small actions every day. It is men who know how to love and share that contribute to creating full, warm homes and are the foundation for a progressive, civilized society./.
Guilin
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