Dos and don'ts when your child takes the 10th grade and high school graduation exams

There is still more than a month until students take the 10th grade exam and graduate from high school. According to psychologists and doctors, at this time, parents need to accompany students to help them overcome these important exams.

QUESTIONS PARENTS SHOULD LIMIT

Expert Tran Thi Que Chi, Deputy Director of the Institute ofEducational Sciences and Training (IES), said that there are questions that parents have been asking their children for a long time: "How far have you studied?", "How far have you studied for the exam?"... We think we are caring for our children, but in fact these questions can unintentionally convey the message of pressure on grades. Instead of asking like that, parents can ask: "Are you tired? If you are too tired, take a break and then study." This way of speaking can make children feel more understood, and they can easily talk to their parents and share the difficulties they are facing.

- Ảnh 1. — Parents accompany their children during exams in Ho Chi Minh City

Taking care of your child's physical and mental health during this period is very important. According to Ms. Chi, parents should not encourage their children to stay up all night studying, forgetting to eat and sleep, and think that this is "hardworking and good at studying". Not getting enough sleep has extremely serious effects on health, increasing the risk of depression in children.

In particular, Ms. Chi emphasized that parents should not compare their children with other students; should not have excessive expectations to increase pressure on their children; should not impose their emotions on their children, turning family meals into interrogation sessions with questions like how far they have studied, how far they have reviewed for exams, etc.

DO'S

According to Ms. Que Chi, during the time students are studying for exams, parents try to cook their children's favorite dishes and eat with them so that meals at home are a place for the family to gather and connect with happy stories. This is what Ms. Chi did to support her children physically and mentally, helping them pass the 10th grade exam and high school graduation exam.

One solution that Ms. Chi has tried and found effective is for parents and children to write a commitment together. Children commit to doing their best, but not at the expense of their health; commit to telling their parents, adults in the family or trusted relatives about the difficulties they are facing; and commit to always believing in themselves, that grades do not determine who they are. Parents also write a commitment: to always be proud of their children because they are their children, not because of their achievements; to always accompany, support and respect their children; and to always listen to their children with their hearts, not just their ears.

According to Ms. Chi, it is very important for parents to listen to their children with their hearts. Then, parents will know what difficulties their children are facing and work together to solve them. Listening with your heart will help you understand and accept your children with all their imperfections.

There are questions that every parent has been asking their children for a long time: "How are you studying?", "How are you reviewing for exams?"... We think we are caring for our children, but in fact these questions can unintentionally convey the message of pressure about grades.

Ms. Tran Thi Que Chi, Deputy Director of the Institute for Educational Sciences and Training (IES)

WAYS TO HELP YOUR CHILDREN OVERCOME EXAM PRESSURE

Dr. Phan Thi Lan Vien, Head of the Child Safety Project at the Center for Healthcare Innovation Research (CHIR), believes that exam pressure is just one of the pressures of adolescents - an age that is likened to "an unfinished project" where children themselves are also full of things they do not understand about themselves. Therefore, parents also face many challenges in the process of accompanying their children through this stage.

- Ảnh 2. — Parents have many ways to help their children overcome exam pressure.

Dr. Vien also has ways to help children overcome exam pressure. According to the doctor, parents should first observe and clarify what is really important to them: the results of the exam or the journey, the opportunity for their children to see the results?

"Clarifying this step is very important because it will guide parents' behaviors towards their children's studies and exams. This will reduce the expectations that parents unintentionally place on their children. Being consistent from within as parents will help nurture their children's trust in them, and at the same time help parents broaden their perspective to accept their children's differences during adolescence," said Dr. Vien.

At the same time, the female doctor advised parents to sincerely share their feelings and thoughts with their children, emphasizing that children need to try their best, no matter what the result is, parents still love them. In adolescence, children are more likely to share with friends than with parents, but when parents nurture a good connection with their children, they are more likely to share when under pressure. From there, parents can work with their children to find appropriate ways to overcome it.

"Ideally, the family maintains common activities together, which can be a meal, doing housework or anything else together. Parents can express their presence with their children by being present at their children's important events, sending them greetings, messages asking how they are doing, or whenever possible," Dr. Vien advised.

Physical and mental health care

According to Dr. Phan Thi Lan Vien, the stressful exam season can easily disrupt daily rhythms. Therefore, parents should remind their children to maintain the habit of exercising. This will help children release energy, and also help the body secrete dopamine, endorphins... which are hormones that help lift the spirit and make studying more effective.

Parents should remind and support their children to eat regularly and prepare nutritious food for them. Excessive anxiety and insufficient sleep can affect the physical condition, resistance and long-term memory of students. Therefore, parents need to help their children understand how to build a harmonious and suitable study plan.

Teacher's advice

There are only a few weeks left for the 2024-2025 school year to end. After the April 30 and May 1 holidays, the school has begun to accelerate review for final year students. Here are some things to share with final year students during this period.

From this week, teachers will enter the review phase. Therefore, students actively cooperate, proactively study and review to grasp, understand deeply, and apply knowledge and skills well. They arrange their time to study in class, study at home, study with friends... to achieve good results for the 2025 high school graduation exam.

This year is the first time the high school graduation exam is conducted according to the 2018 General Education Program, so if students are not careful, they can easily make mistakes. Therefore, students need to do the correct - complete - accurate requirements of teachers during the review process. Students also need to practice technical operations for the official exam. For example, fill in all information on the exam paper and multiple choice answer sheet. In the exam room, it is absolutely necessary to strictly follow the exam regulations.

In the remaining time of the final year of high school, students need to respect differences and maintain friendships. She was impressed by an idea in the essay that helped Pham Gia Nguyen, a 12th grade Physics 2 student at Hanoi - Amsterdam High School for the Gifted, who was recently admitted to Columbia University (USA) - a group of 8 leading universities in the US. Gia Nguyen wrote about imperfection, he realized that each person will have their own strengths and weaknesses. In life, you should not use other people's weaknesses to put them down, but use your strengths to lift others up.

Teachers and family are always with you at this time. When you are happy or when you are in trouble, please share with your teachers and family to help you ease your worries and help you continue your journey ahead.

Master Nguyen Vu Thu Trang (Vice Principal of Loc Phat High School, Bao Loc City, Lam Dong)

Source: https://thanhnien.vn/nhung-dieu-nen-va-khong-nen-lam-khi-con-thi-lop-10-tot-nghiep-thpt-18525050520152426.htm