In family life, sympathy, tolerance and sharing are needed to maintain happiness (illustrative photo).
Ms. Bich Thuy in Cai Rang district shared many memories of living with a hot-tempered husband like "Truong Phi". Ms. Thuy is a housewife, her husband Mr. Nam is a farmer. Mr. Nam is very diligent, loves his wife and children, and works hard all day in the fields, farming, and raising cows. But he is also a patriarch, if he is not satisfied with something, he will bully, break things, and sometimes throw away the dinner tray. When they first moved in together, Ms. Thuy was shocked, from anger to cold war... After many conflicts, Ms. Thuy thought that she could not let her happiness fade away because of unworthy things, so she tried to find ways to overcome her husband's shortcomings. Every time she saw Mr. Nam showing signs of "getting angry", Ms. Thuy knew to keep quiet or sweet talk to let the matter go. Feeling sorry for her husband's hardship, Ms. Thuy learned to cook many delicious dishes, then chose the right time to whisper and advise him.
The rain soaks in slowly, Mr. Nam gradually changed his way of speaking, not frowning but also caring and asking about his children's studies. Seeing their father like that, the children were less afraid, closer, the atmosphere in the house was happy. Now, whenever the family has something to do, the couple discusses it together, Mr. Nam respects his wife's opinion very much. Ms. Thuy shared: "Even the bowl in the waves makes noise, let alone communication between husband and wife. I think that as a member of the family, we should not compete, instead of arguing and criticizing, we should be lenient, give in to each other a little to show the other person our goodwill and then slowly resolve it. Whenever I have something upsetting, I often think of my husband's good points and sympathize and forgive him."
Mr. Thanh in Ninh Kieu district works as a driver, often going to the province for long periods. Ms. Ngoc - Mr. Thanh's wife, is jealous, so the couple often have conflicts. Ms. Ngoc works while taking care of and taking the children to school... so she is always overloaded, stressed, and nagging. To prevent her husband from going astray, Ms. Ngoc requires him to clearly inform her of his schedule when he goes out, and let her check his phone, wallet, letters... Whenever Mr. Thanh is upset and has an opinion, the two sides argue. When he can't control himself, Mr. Thanh goes out drinking, goes to his mother's house to sleep, and then gets angry with each other again. After each argument, there are injuries.
Seeing that the situation was not going well, Thanh's mother stepped in to advise. Listening to her mother's words and learning to be patient, Ngoc "gave in", practiced speaking softly, and promised not to control her husband too much like before. Through her husband's explanations, Ngoc understood that her husband's job outside was very hard and stressful, and that he gave most of his income to his wife to keep. He left early and came home late to make sure his wife and children had a better life. Thanh also knew how to listen, and had good intentions to meet his wife's wishes to drink less, care for her, and spend time with her family... Just like that, each person, for the common good, lowered their egos, and changed together. After a period of cooperation, they successfully rebuilt their family.
Mr. Hung and Ms. Thao in Phong Dien district have just celebrated their 15th wedding anniversary. Every time they talk about family matters, Mr. Hung often thanks his wife for being patient, giving in, and even tolerating her husband's bad habits. Mr. Hung is handsome, good at talking, and "flirtatious", so he cannot avoid being "fallen in love". When he goes out to socialize, Mr. Hung is very gallant, but when he comes home, he is inconsiderate and curt with his wife... There have been many times when the couple quarreled, Ms. Thao was very upset and even thought about divorce. But after considering, feeling sorry for her young children, Ms. Thao asked relatives to help her husband change his mind. As for Ms. Thao, instead of blaming and competing, she applied the "soft rope to tie tightly" tactic through actions such as taking care of her husband, decorating the house beautifully, and teaching her children to be obedient...
Faced with his wife's sacrifice, patience, and tolerance, Mr. Hung changed himself, gradually reducing his time with friends, coming home to eat, teaching his children, finding a maid to help ease his wife's burden... For Ms. Thao, respecting and being patient with her husband is not a loss, but on the contrary, she gains the trust and love of her husband's family. Both of them strive to fulfill their responsibilities, bringing laughter to their happy home.
It is easy to say that husband and wife should give in to each other, but not everyone can do it. Some people do not want to "give in" because they think that it will lose face and the other side will take advantage. In fact, giving in does not mean being weak, but depending on the situation and the event, knowing how to lower one's ego, one person is hot, one person is cold, behaving respectfully and skillfully to keep the peace inside and out. When necessary, be silent to listen, avoid digging, tormenting, comparing your spouse with others... Husband and wife who sincerely care, share, and respect each other's feelings will be an important catalyst for love to be more sustainable. And children who see their parents' harmonious behavior will also know how to love each other more...
Article and photos: KIEU CHINH
Source: https://baocantho.com.vn/cho-hon-nhan-them-ben-vung--a186999.html
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