Anti-shock on the first day of school

The "first day of school" is always a special milestone in every child's journey. Many people think that they only need to help children cope with "shock", but in reality, the people who need to prepare mentally are the parents.

Children attending preschool participate in many interesting and engaging activities.

DO NOT SUDDENLY TAKE CHILDREN TO A STRANGE ENVIRONMENT

Education managers say that to make the journey to school smooth and fun, both families and schools should have a "stepping stone" of preparation. The mistake is not telling the child anything, or lying to the child that "mom is going to the market", "mom is going for a while, I will come back to pick you up", and suddenly taking the child to school, leaving the child at school all day.

Ms. Pham Bao Hanh, Principal of Phu My Kindergarten, District 7, Ho Chi Minh City, said that when children go to school for the first time, the common psychology of many parents is to feel sorry for their children, see their children cry a lot, cry too, or continue to let their children stay at home.

At Phu My Kindergarten, there is a very good method: from the time the school has information about the students, the school divides the classes, the teachers create groups with the parents, send pictures of the teachers, pictures of the classroom for the parents to show the children and visualize the classroom. Before officially going to school, the children have a day to go to class to get acquainted. Before that, from Zalo groups, the children already know the teachers and the classroom space, so when they meet the teachers, the children will have a familiar feeling.

At the same time, teachers will also talk to parents so that parents can talk with their children, encourage them to come to class to have fun, learn many good things, make new friends, and not leave them in a strange environment. "Children are very afraid of being abandoned, you should never suddenly bring them into class and declare that they are going to school without preparing them mentally, they will easily be shocked," Ms. Hanh advised.

TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN MORE

Ms. Le Truc Lan Vy, a teacher at Bong Sen Kindergarten in Tan Phu District, Ho Chi Minh City, said that when a child is about to go to kindergarten, the first thing parents need to do is prepare themselves mentally, and trust the school and teachers. Many parents feel sorry for their children, and usually take good care of them at home, so they often think that if they send their children to school, they will not be taken care of as well as they are at home. Or many parents do not trust the teachers, afraid that they do not love their children.

"As for young children, they will definitely cry during the first days of school, parents should not worry too much. Before going to class, parents should talk to their children about interesting things at school, such as when they go to school, they will learn to draw, learn to sculpt, learn self-care skills and other necessary skills. Besides, children can participate in extracurricular activities, play with friends and teachers. At home, parents should talk more and encourage their children, gradually the children will be happy and feel secure going to class," said Ms. Lan Vy.

Ms. Nguyen Ho Bao Chau, a teacher at Vang Anh Kindergarten in District 5, Ho Chi Minh City, said that children who are going to school for the first time should be allowed to attend for half a day to gradually get used to the school, teachers, and friends. Teachers also create many activities for children to play outdoors and participate in activities with friends so that they feel that school is fun.

The class always has a Zalo group for parents to keep up with their children's activities in class. At home, parents should talk more with their children, ask about their children's activities at school, and calmly observe their children's progress every day.

Parents should give their children the ability to overcome challenges, so that no matter what difficulties arise in the future, they can overcome them.

Caring for your child is not about being critical or "watching" the teacher.

Ms. Nguyen Huynh Hai Yen, in charge of the Happy Home School project of Self Hiil (Inner Intelligence Academy), believes that parents' attention and support for their children during their first days at school, whether they are in preschool or elementary school, are necessary. But active attention and support does not mean being critical, "watching" the camera, and finding mistakes in the teacher's every little thing.

"I am also a parent, I used to be very worried, impatient, and stressed when my child first went to school. Parents are often more "shocked" than their children. To prevent "shock" for parents, parents should connect deeply with their children, asking them how they feel every day. If your child is worried, ask them what they are worried about, what they are sad about, why they are happy, so they can express their feelings. To help children integrate quickly into the classroom environment, parents need to equip their children with skills such as introducing themselves, listening to their ideas, expressing opinions, and asking for help when they need it...", Ms. Yen said.

According to Ms. Yen, the things you should not say to your child are threats like "going to school is terrible, if you are not good, the teacher will beat you", or "it's nothing, there's nothing to worry about when going to school". What you should do is listen, let your child express their true feelings, then find out with your child why they are worried, why they are insecure... and find solutions, promote their abilities, and help them overcome challenges.

Ms. Yen believes that parents cannot protect their children every single moment of their lives, so the most important thing is to accompany their children in a long-term, sustainable way. Parents should give their children the ability to overcome challenges, so that no matter what difficulties arise in the future, they can overcome them.

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