The son took his parents in their 70s to the city to show his filial piety, but they just wanted to return to their hometown immediately. It was heartbreaking to witness one thing.

When it comes to taking care of one’s parents, many people think that letting them live next to their family is the right thing to do, especially those who come from the countryside. They think that bringing their parents to live in the city is one of the best ways to show filial piety to them.

I was born in 1974, at the age of 19 I went to the city to find a job. So I have been in the city for almost 30 years. I have always wanted to bring my parents in their 70s to the city because I think it is convenient for both sides.

When I brought my parents here for about 3 years, some things happened, I discovered that: life in the city is not the life my parents wanted, and in terms of filial piety, it is not the way they wanted.

City parents suddenly become homebodies

15 years ago, my wife and I worked hard to buy an old house. We wanted to welcome our parents to live here, so we bought a house with 4 bedrooms. My wife and I sleep in one room, the two children each sleep in one room, and the remaining room is for my grandparents.

Everything seemed to be settled. However, after that, my parents only came to stay with us for a few days. They have not come since then. My husband and I often asked them to come, but they always refused, saying that they were afraid of not being used to it and that they would have to stay home and take care of the chickens and vegetables.

Until 9 years later, my hometown was hit by a great flood, which washed away all the fields and crops. Furthermore, the house was near the foot of the mountain, so it collapsed. The storm passed and left behind a pile of rubble.

Honestly, although it was a natural disaster, it was an opportunity for me to invite my parents to live with me. Because of the situation, it was impossible to grow vegetables or raise chickens in the fields.

Even though my parents kept asking me to fix up their house in the countryside so they could live there, I always found ways to drag things out.

I always thought that my parents living in the city was a way for them to enjoy life: every day happily singing, playing chess, walking in the park, etc. My parents were famous in the countryside for being the people who went out the most in the neighborhood, never staying at home. Every time after eating, they often went to relatives' and neighbors' houses to play.

But when I brought my parents to the city, they changed completely, staying at home all day. Except for going to the market, they didn't leave the house all day.

I also advised the two of them to go out for a walk, go to the park to talk to the old people there or go to some senior clubs but the situation did not change.

Later, I discovered that my parents were used to the pace of life in the countryside and could not adapt to life in the city. For example, even though they had taken the bus many times, they still got on the wrong bus and got lost. Moreover, the elderly here had different hobbies than my parents, they liked dancing and playing chess, so my parents had no common topic to talk about.

In the city, I had a hundred diseases, but in the countryside my health was normal.

Apart from liking to stay at home, my parents are often sick when they are here. They don’t have pain but they feel uncomfortable, so every 2 months I take them to the doctor. Actually, I take care of them quite carefully, and feed them well. However, they don’t gain weight, but on the contrary, they are thinner than when they were in the countryside.

I always thought that because of old age, illnesses were inevitable.

In the third year, our building installed an elevator. During the construction, it was quite noisy and dusty everywhere, so I discussed with my wife to take this opportunity to renovate the house. My wife and I planned to move to my wife's parents' house for a while. My parents did not agree, so they said they wanted to go back to their hometown and wait until I renovate the house before picking them up. Hearing that, I readily agreed.

After my parents had been back in the countryside for a month, my husband and I went back to visit them. When we got home, I saw that they had added more soil to the backyard garden to plant vegetables, raise chickens and ducks. I was a little annoyed because my parents did not rest as I had told them to. When I saw their bright faces, I held back my anger. I had not seen that face when we lived in the city. Moreover, my parents were healthier and more optimistic.

So I want to advise everyone that when parents can still take care of themselves, let them live the life they want. Filial piety to parents is not about any specific action but about letting parents live comfortably.

Lapis Lazuli

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