A few words about tolerance

Social life is full of diverse events, actions, situations, and circumstances. Many good deeds occur. However, there are also many actions that displease those with whom one interacts or deals. In the face of such displeasure, in many cases, people have shown tolerance.

Some manifestations of tolerance

Generally, tolerance is understood as being forgiving towards those who have made mistakes. Living in a family, children sometimes make serious mistakes, and at other times their behavior is inappropriate. In such situations, parents offer advice to prevent such incidents from recurring.

In school, students interact with and learn from their teachers throughout the school year. There are times when they make mistakes. Many teachers, driven by their love for their profession and their affection for their students, overlook these mistakes. Sometimes the mistakes are directed at a classmate, and sometimes at the teacher themselves. Teachers offer reasonable and empathetic reminders instead of punishments. In some cases, this has proven effective in educating the students. However, some students may say or do things that displease the teacher. Or, due to limited academic ability, some students may not be able to complete the teacher's requirements and assignments. Some teachers have reacted negatively, expressing dissatisfaction. Instead of understanding the student's reasons, some teachers have used harsh words or displayed disapproval in class. Teachers' intolerance can sometimes leave an unpleasant impression on the teacher-student relationship, affecting the student's learning.

In society, many situations arise in the diverse relationships between people.

In some offices, leaders disseminate directives to their subordinates. During the implementation process, some employees fail to comply with the instructions given, causing resentment within the organization. When leaders discover this, they offer firm feedback to the employees, avoiding excessive harshness but ensuring the issue is not repeated.

There have also been cases where colleagues have been jealous of each other at work. The jealous person wrote a letter under false pretenses, slandering a colleague with harsh words. The leader sent someone to verify the letter, and it turned out to be false. This left an unforgettable impression on the person being slandered. Eventually, the imposter was revealed. The person being slandered gradually got over it, putting the matter aside to ease their burden. In traffic, someone unintentionally caused a car accident. A gentle, sincere apology left the affected person satisfied, preventing tension between the two parties.

In social interactions, there are countless instances where speakers use harsh, inappropriate language when speaking to others. The listener feels as if a knife is cutting into their flesh. They are deeply angered, feeling they cannot bear it. However, they eventually calm down and let it go. All they know is that afterward, they never want to see the person who uttered those rude and impolite words again.

Here's another real-life scenario: A relative hides behind a banana grove to eavesdrop on the illness of a relative, instead of helping to care for the sick. After the ordeal, when the relative recovers, they no longer want to bring up the past. Because eavesdropping is never a good thing!

Tolerance clearly stems from the inherent goodness in each person's heart, and people tolerate the unpleasant things others do to them to feel more at ease.

The difference from tolerance

Overlooking someone's mistakes is meant to help the offender reflect, correct, and change. However, sometimes the mistake will be repeated, causing even greater harm and impact to others. This leniency might lead to a similar situation later. Therefore, a balance must be struck between strictness in handling cases and tolerance in situations where possible. Strictness in handling cases prevents major mistakes from recurring, ensuring order within families, respect for hierarchy in schools, and discipline in society.

For each individual, forgiving those who have made mistakes, done bad things, or caused them pain helps to lessen their worries. Tolerance brings greater peace of mind and spirit, freeing up time for other activities that are more beneficial to one's spiritual life. This act of tolerance and generosity allows the individual to continue seeking inner peace.

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