Westerner decides to marry Vietnamese man because he loves multi-generational family

Originally planning to bring his wife and children back to England, Richard finally agreed to stay in Vietnam and live with his wife's family because he values ​​the culture of multi-generational families living together and wants his children to be close to their grandparents.

As a British man, Richard Peter (40 years old), did not know much about Vietnamese cuisine , culture, and people compared to other Asian countries. He also never thought that he would marry a Vietnamese girl and stay in this beautiful country, until he met Tran Thuy Hong Van (33 years old), the love of his life in Ho Chi Minh City. From ignoring each other to standing side by side Ms. Hong Van smiled when sharing about her Western husband who is living with her: "My husband is very lucky to be a Vietnamese son-in-law. He not only gets to enjoy delicious Vietnamese dishes, but also enjoys strange dishes prepared by Vietnamese chefs of Chinese origin. He praises every dish as delicious." The two first met at a party organized by a business in early 2014. After chatting and soon seeing many similarities, a few weeks later, Richard invited Hong Van to a private dinner. After the date, Richard felt very fond of the Vietnamese girl's personality, so he continued to text and "attack". However, Hong Van still only considered the two of them as friends, so she gently declined the second date. The two gradually stopped contacting each other, thinking that they would no longer have anything to do with each other. At the end of 2014, Richard had to return to England and did not know when he would return. The last person he wanted to say goodbye to was Hong Van. He proactively texted her to meet at the airport before takeoff. The short meeting lasted only 30 minutes, and the two only had time to share their future plans and say a sincere goodbye.

Richard Peter and Tran Thuy Hong Van thought they had missed each other and would never meet again.

Fate brought Richard to Vietnam again in 2016. The first person he wanted to meet when he returned to the S-shaped country was still Hong Van. "When we met again, I found him gentle, cute and decent, and he always remembered me like that, so I was moved and agreed to date him," the girl from Ho Chi Minh City shared. Hong Van said she lived in Tan Phu district, and Richard lived in District 2, about 20km apart, but he always diligently picked her up and dropped her off every time they went on a date. He liked to ride his motorbike, often standing at the end of the alley, not daring to go to her house for fear that his family would see him. Every time he came, the children in the neighborhood often gathered around and teased him as Mr. Bean, a character in a famous British comedy. He was happy to be called that. After dating for about 6 months, Richard had problems at work so he decided to quit his job and consider returning to England. Hong Van discussed with her lover the plan to open a juice shop together in District 2 while looking for a new job in Vietnam. She took care of everything from ingredients to staff selection, while Richard came up with menu ideas and ways to promote the shop. When everything was ready, Hong Van received news that she had been recruited as a flight attendant in a corporation, the position she had always dreamed of. The girl had to choose between staying in Ho Chi Minh City to help Richard manage the juice shop or breaking up with him and going to Hanoi to pursue her career.

To have a lasting love, both have sacrificed and helped each other during difficult times in life.

At this time, their love faced a big challenge. Hong Van lost sleep many nights, struggling to choose between the job she had been waiting for for many years or her boyfriend who she had only loved for a few months. In the end, she chose to stay by Richard's side during difficult times, unable to leave him alone in a strange land. "I also struggled mentally when I gave up my dream job. During the time we worked together, we had many arguments and disagreements. Sometimes I thought about breaking up, and Richard also thought about leaving the shop and returning to England. But then he humbled himself to make peace first because he appreciated what I had done and sacrificed to nurture our relationship," Hong Van said about the difficult time. Volunteering to live with her husband's family Luckily, the juice business was getting more and more favorable, and Richard soon found a job. In early 2017, Richard proposed to bring the whole family to Vietnam to hold an engagement ceremony with Hong Van. She agreed.

In early 2020, the couple got married. Different nationalities and cultures, the two needed effort and time to get along. “The most difficult problem was the language. At first, living together, there were many misunderstandings, but then each person had to patiently explain carefully so that the other person understood what they meant. Next was the difficulty in life perspective, Richard often spent money on traveling , eating out and enjoying life. I was far-sighted and wanted to save money, so I also had to try to find common ground to balance things out,” Hong Van shared about the difficulties when she first got married.

Richard loves Vietnamese culture. When he got married, he invited his family from England to perform all the Vietnamese rituals.

Every night before going to bed, Richard often shares with his wife about British culture. Of course, Hong Van also tells her husband about Vietnamese customs. One feature of Vietnamese culture that Richard likes the most is that grandparents and parents still live with their children and grandchildren. He feels that such families are very happy, and the elderly are no longer lonely. He also appreciates the Vietnamese culture of filial piety, and whenever his wife's family has something to do, he always participates wholeheartedly. At the end of 2020, Hong Van became pregnant. The couple discussed stopping all work in Vietnam to return to England to live. But after thinking it over, Hong Van still wanted to stay in Vietnam to be close to her mother. Because in the West, generations often do not live together, Richard wanted his children to be close to their grandparents, learn and understand Vietnamese culture, so he agreed with his wife's opinion. The two moved to his wife's parents' house, and he officially became a son-in-law.

Both husband and wife share the same desire to have their children learn Vietnamese culture and language.

Living with his wife's parents, Richard was very happy because for the first time he experienced the feeling of living with many generations, learning about the lifestyle of Vietnamese families. The Western son-in-law loves duck eggs, Hue beef noodles Living in his wife's homeland, Richard is happy because he can enjoy many delicious Vietnamese dishes that he has never known. His favorite is Hue beef noodles, then duck eggs, goat brains... Richard often follows his wife into the kitchen to learn how to cook Vietnamese food and make foreign dishes to invite his wife's parents. He likes to eat all Vietnamese dishes, never refusing. One time, the whole family took the Western son-in-law to eat goat hotpot. At the restaurant, they used a round black pot. When Hong Van held the plate of goat brains and goat marrow and put them in the hotpot, Richard was bewildered, saying that his wife was like a witch cooking a pot of magic water. Another time, Thuy Van bought mixed sweet soup for her husband to try. When she brought the bags of tea home, he asked in confusion: "What did you buy the bags of ornamental fish and coral for?"

Hong Van and her husband always share knowledge about culture and cuisine to understand each other better every day.

Seeing her husband so adorable, Hong Van immediately recorded the moments when he enjoyed Vietnamese food and posted them on the Tiktok channel "May Lai Tay", attracting the attention of many viewers. The clips show simple dishes such as kho quet, bitter melon with shrimp paste, sweet beef rolls... all of which make Richard extremely excited. He and his wife often explore dishes that foreigners consider strange such as porridge with sea worms, soft-boiled eggs soaked in fish sauce, braised squid... Hong Van also often shares the moments when her husband picks vegetables, takes care of children and cooks on the channel. "To have a happy family, the most important factors are honesty, patience, respect for each other, listening to each other to understand each other better. Two people need to sympathize, empathize and share common goals in life. When angry, we should think about what made us decide to live under the same roof with this person. We always only remember each other's good points", Hong Van revealed how to always keep the fire of love in her family.

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