Should you show off your child's grades on social media?

As scheduled, a school year ends, which is also the time when social networks and Facebook are flooded with report cards and learning results of children posted by their parents. The story is not new, but it has caused a lot of controversy. Some people consider it normal, if their children are good, parents have the right to be proud, to show off. And that is also the motivation for others to look at, try harder, and learn from...

Many children feel pressured when their parents compare their scores. (Illustration photo)

But many people also think that this action is insensitive, even somewhat offensive, because parents unintentionally put pressure on other parents, students as well as their own children if they do not get the desired academic results.

Psychologist Vu Thu Ha said that there are many ways to praise. If we praise and focus on the children's efforts, they will always try. But if we praise and focus on the score, and that score is already the highest, it will be difficult to create further efforts.

Moreover, whether the children are in primary, secondary or high school, it is a different process of striving. We praise but it is not necessary to let too many people know about the children's scores, sometimes praising the scores will be too subjective.

Many people believe that posting students’ academic results on social media is not without positive effects. Children are proud to be praised by adults. Sharing their children’s successes helps motivate them, and is also a legitimate source of pride for parents.

Psychologist Vu Thu Ha.

Liking praise and encouragement is a common mentality of everyone. However, in reality, it is not like that. There are many children who feel pressured by their parents' actions on social networks. What children need is their parents' recognition of their efforts, not empty compliments on social networks.

According to psychologist Vu Thu Ha, a child’s success is related to grades but not everything. There are many children who have poor grades but still succeed later, because it is a very long process for children to try, conquer and be patient.

“There is nothing wrong with posting your child's work online, but what if our child is subjective? What if the parents are even satisfied with that? The parents are satisfied and only care about me being happy with my grades, but I don't need to pay attention to helping my child develop as a person, what about patience? That is also something that parents need to think about,” noted psychologist Vu Thu Ha.

Every parent has high expectations for their children. Therefore, when their children get good results, every parent is happy and wants to share their joy with many people. However, when looking at the "impressive" report cards of "other people's children", many parents immediately turn to criticize, scold their children, and then compare...

Children who are compared like that will be very hurt. “A child who is judged and compared will be very weak. The child will always think that he is inferior, does not achieve success and will withdraw into himself, sometimes leading to stress, even depression.

Instead of posting your child's report card on social media, parents should show their love, encourage, and talk to their children so they understand that their efforts have been recognized by their parents.

That is unfair, because not every child has success, not every child has good academic results when they are growing up. Therefore, the process of growing up, the child can get high scores, can get low scores, but if the child is compared, it is a shortcoming in childhood as well as in the process of growing up," said psychologist Vu Thu Ha.

Children have rights and we cannot use our parental rights to impose our will on our children. Social networks, as we all know, are places where information reaches everyone. Therefore, there will be many risks when parents post their children's information online. Not to mention, this makes it easy for bad guys to access children's personal information such as which school they attend, which class they attend, how many points they get, etc.

Every parent is happy and proud when their children achieve high results in their studies. But please consider carefully before posting information about your children's studies on social networks. Because the ultimate goal is to help children realize the true value of studying, that certificates and scores are just the outer shell, the value of their own abilities is what they need.

According to expert Vu Thu Ha, most children do not want to reveal their privacy to others and when their scores are revealed too often, it will affect the relationship between parents and their children. Children will not trust their parents and that will be a disadvantage for the maturity of each child.

Parents have every right to be proud of their children, but there are many ways to reward and encourage them. The important thing is that parents help their children realize their true abilities.

Showing off your child’s grades on social media may help parents relieve their own stress at the moment, but it can also cause psychological stress for many other people, even their own children. So, consider carefully, because the benefits are few and the harms are many.

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