The reason why a professor couple made their excellent son turn his back on them for more than 20 years

For the past 23 years, Mr. Hoang Lam Sam (80 years old) and his wife have been searching for their son who has not returned home for a long time. Many people wonder why the young man could let his old parents search for him in vain.

In the eyes of others, Tieu Hai (Mr. Sam's son) is a lucky and happy person. Hai's parents are both university professors. Hai's father teaches at a prestigious university in Nanjing (China), so he has both social prestige and a solid family background.

Knowing the hidden reason behind it shows that the son's decision to "disappear" was just the last straw after haunting childhood memories.

At the age of 80, a professor in China and his wife are still searching for their son who has disowned them for 23 years (Photo: Zhihu).

Strict "discipline"

"Tieu Hai, come here, kneel down", Mr. Hoang Lam Sam shouted. The father's cold shout made Hai scared, he trembled unconsciously and kept searching his mind to see if he had done anything wrong recently.

Tieu Hai slowly walked over. Immediately, Mr. Sam grabbed his son and dragged him outside, forcing him to kneel down. "Today, you have to kneel here so that the neighbors can see that I, Hoang Lam Sam, am a person who knows how to teach children!", the father said.

From a young age, Tieu Hai was subjected to extremely strict discipline from his father (Photo: Zhihu).

Not long ago, Tieu Hai accidentally broke a brick in his neighbor's house while playing with his friends. The neighbor complained to Mr. Sam - a man who was always proud to the point of arrogance - and became extremely angry.

Mr. Sam is a professor who cares a lot about his reputation. Thinking his son was too naughty, he punished him severely so that the neighbors could see.

Tieu Hai had to kneel there for hours, neighbors passing by kept pointing at Hai, making him extremely embarrassed.

Tieu Hai grew up in such a stricteducation .

By the time he was in middle school, his relationship with his father had seriously deteriorated.

That day, after dinner, Mr. Sam forced Tieu Hai to come to the dining table to check his homework as usual. When he saw some sloppy, hard-to-read sentences, Mr. Sam became impatient.

At this time, he turned to scold, but Tieu Hai answered with an indifferent look, making Mr. Sam think that his son was making him angry. Immediately, this professor father slapped his son twice in the face.

When his son suddenly left, Mr. Sam and his wife only received a farewell letter (Photo: Zhihu).

Handprints imprinted on his face, Tieu Hai glared at his father. The son slowly corrected his paper according to his father's wishes, but secretly thought that he would never call him dad again.

Farewell letter

The pressure of his father and the sympathy and coldness of his mother made Tieu Hai completely desperate and wanted to escape this family.

The climax was when he reached adolescence, when Tieu Hai grew rapidly, Mr. Sam immediately asked him to eat regularly and eat twice as much.

Every time Tieu Hai explained that he couldn't eat anymore, Mr. Sam would shout: "Eat another bowl. How can such a small portion make you big?"

Gradually, even mealtimes with his son became a struggle. After meals, Tieu Hai was forced to walk for 1-2 hours because Mr. Sam did not like "time-wasting behavior".

"I can't eat anymore!", Tieu Hai suppressed his nausea and put down the chopsticks in his hand. Seeing this, Hoang Lam Sam immediately asked his wife to serve Tieu Hai another bowl of rice as usual.

"I told you I can't eat anymore!", the son shouted. At this point, Mr. Sam objected: "You can't go against me, in this family, I am the law, I am heaven!".

Hearing that, Tieu Hai's face darkened, thinking more and more, only by completely escaping this family could he be free.

Because he placed too much hope in his son, Mr. Sam unintentionally caused his son to leave him (Photo: Zhihu).

After taking the college entrance exam, Xiao Hai’s score was enough to choose one of two prestigious universities, Peking University and Tsinghua University. However, because his father taught at Nanjing University, he insisted that his son apply to that school so that he could keep an eye on him.

Not only that, Mr. Sam also forced his son to pursue a girl he didn't like, directly interfering in all of his son's relationships. He often used his personal relationships to talk to Tieu Hai's teachers. It could be said that Tieu Hai's every action could not escape his reach.

One time, because he lent a classmate 70 yuan (about 240,000 VND), Xiao Hai’s father came to school. Mr. Sam made such a fuss that the student was expelled. After that, the classmate continuously avoided Xiao Hai.

In 1994, Xiao Hai graduated from university and found a way to get a job in Beijing, away from his father. Hearing the news, Mr. Sam reacted, but Xiao Hai quietly left.

Mr. Sam and his wife went to the dormitory, but Tieu Hai was not there, leaving only an empty room. A few months later, Tieu Hai sent his parents a letter. Before Mr. Sam could be happy after reading the letter, he realized that it was a letter from his son.

It has been 23 years since Tieu Hai lost all contact. Mr. Sam and his wife have been trying to find their son. Thanks to a program to find relatives, they were able to call Tieu Hai, but when he heard his mother's voice, he immediately disconnected and turned off his phone.

It is known that Tieu Hai currently lives in Beijing and is having a difficult job. The money he earns is only enough to cover his simple living expenses. Tieu Hai lives without a wife or children in a simple rented house. However, when asked if he wanted to find his parents, he flatly refused.

Source: https://dantri.com.vn/an-sinh/ly-do-vo-chong-giao-su-khien-con-trai-uu-tu-tu-mat-hon-20-nam-20240120113432025.htm