Wedding Celebration - Affection or Calculation?

If you consider attending a wedding and being forced to be congratulated again when getting married as an economic problem, it will inadvertently make your happy day less happy.

The online community is currently experiencing conflicting arguments surrounding the story of wedding gifts. Seven years ago, a person once gave 100,000 VND as a wedding gift, but recently when it was his turn to get married, he did not receive any attendance or congratulations from the other person. The story reached its climax when the two sides exchanged messages, leading to a demand for the money that had been previously given. The person who invited the wedding even asked to check the books to clarify the losses.

As a result, the invitee was forced to transfer the wedding gift money, even though the wedding had already taken place. The incident quickly attracted great attention from the online community, with a series of conflicting opinions: those who defended, those who criticized, each with their own reasons. The story once again rekindled the old debate: is wedding gifting a matter of sentiment or calculation?

Let’s put aside the question of who is right and who is wrong, because in this story, the boundary between right and wrong in love is not easy to distinguish. In fact, the matter of wedding gifts has long been sensitive, complicated and full of nuances. For many people, wedding gifts are not only a courtesy, but also a way to express blessings and preserve relationships. Therefore, many people carefully record each amount of money received, as a way to ensure that the “return” is fair and without omissions.

However, in the current context, many people view wedding gifts in a more pragmatic way: give and take. When you have celebrated someone else’s wedding, but when it’s your turn and you don’t receive a response, it’s hard to avoid feeling disappointed. Even, as in the story above, texting to ask for money back is no different than… collecting a debt.

There are still many questions being asked about wedding gifts: Is it necessary to invite people who have attended their weddings? How much is enough to not be considered "unruly"? In the current period of inflation, will weighing the envelope become a pressure? Even printing QR codes for money transfers on invitations has sparked many controversies about the tactfulness and true meaning of wedding invitations.

After all, the essence of wedding gifts comes from the desire to bless and share joy. It is important to understand that meaning correctly, before turning the envelope into a calculation of gains and losses. Everyone understands that the gift money can help cover some of the costs, but when the issue of more or less is emphasized, the people involved will feel pressured, and the envelope becomes a barrier to sincerity.

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Source: https://www.sggp.org.vn/mung-cuoi-nghia-tinh-hay-phep-tinh-post804664.html