Old love suddenly appears, hot marriage turns into 'cold'

Falling in love, coming together and then having a happy married life amidst the chaos that still exists in many families today.

Marriage requires sincerity and tactful behavior from both sides - Illustration: QUANG DINH

However, that simple happiness will easily "cold" when the other half's ex suddenly appears.

Not "transparent" because of trade

I watched Minh sip his beer tiredly. Minh was approaching his forties, a business owner, with a wife and children, and a happy married life. However, the story began the day Minh received a call from H. - Minh's ex-lover. Minh and H. had known each other for eight years. Many people thought they would become husband and wife, but in the end, their relationship did not work out.

Two years later, Minh got married. Minh said that when he received H.'s call, his heart was pounding. H. was in a hospital. That afternoon, Minh only texted his wife that he was going to the hospital to visit a friend from college. After the meeting at the hospital, Minh and H. met a few more times, and each time they met with their school friends.

One day, Minh discovered that his wife had an "attitude" towards him. Minh's wife was a university lecturer. Although his wife did not nag or blame Minh for anything, she was still attentive to Minh and the children, but Minh felt that there was something different about his wife.

Every day, after finishing housework and taking care of the children, Minh's wife would go to the children's room to sleep. Minh tried to talk to his wife but did not understand why she was cold towards him. Later, Minh was shocked to discover that H. had posted a scene of the class reunion on Facebook and tagged Minh.

It was not difficult for Minh's wife to recognize who H. was and she also understood that her husband went to the hospital for cosmetic surgery to visit his ex-lover.

Minh explained to me that he only visited H. as a friend and that he was not transparent with his wife because he was afraid that she would think too much and force him to explain. Minh loved his wife and thought the matter was simple, so he did not "report" anything to her. Until now, no matter what Minh explained, his wife just mumbled and then... ignored him.

Unlike Minh's story, T. is a housewife, taking care of a small child and her husband has to work all day. One day, T.'s ex-lover from the Central region came to Ho Chi Minh City to look for a business opportunity and he came to T.'s house. T. continued her old love story and in the following days, T. also contacted and helped him with this and that through her relationships.

Although T. and her ex-lover were very aware of everything and only stopped at being old friends, the two only talked at T.'s house, not meeting outside, but the storm still came when T.'s child babbled to his father and mother or when there were guests visiting the house. T.'s husband did not say anything, checking the family camera, he immediately recognized that the guy was T.'s ex-lover. The storm happened when T.'s husband "rebelled" fiercely.

T. explained that she was afraid her husband would be sad, so she just socialized with an old friend and then stopped immediately. In fact, there was nothing between her and that person, but her husband still had a sullen look on his face. T. had to call her ex-lover to the house so they could both explain before her husband gradually calmed down.

The reality is that no matter how innocent things are, once an ex suddenly appears in a couple's relationship, there's no way the people involved won't feel uneasy.

Myriad thoughts

If Minh and T.'s story is that they don't want to tell their ex's story because they are worried about their partner, but the reality is that even if one half is clear with the other half, is it certain that the storm will go away? The writer's story is an example.

I work in the entertainment industry, so my frequent contact with many beautiful women always makes my wife "uncomfortable". Being aware of this, I always tell my wife everything directly so she doesn't worry.

But that time, my old friends texted me that C. was very sick and was being treated in the hospital. C. was my ex-lover, and I met my future wife after C. and I broke up.

Knowing C.'s situation and my wife's "temperament", I told her honestly that I would go to the hospital to visit C. and that I was willing to invite her to come with me. My wife refused to go because she wanted C. and I to have some private space. I appreciated this thought.

After visiting C., I came home and took the initiative to tell my wife everything. She just mumbled and said nothing, but I knew she was worried.

One day, C. recovered and was discharged from the hospital. C. called me and suggested that she come to my house to thank me. I asked her if she would be comfortable with this request. My wife did not agree.

After that, C. called my wife and I, thanking us for helping her and promising to quickly send back the money I had helped C. during the days she was in the hospital. After the call, my wife suddenly got upset because my help to C. was "too generous". I was surprised because I had already "declared" everything to my wife!?

The reality is that even if everything is innocent, once an old love suddenly appears in a couple's relationship, there is no way the people involved will not have their own thoughts. These thoughts will be hidden waves or erupt into a storm that threatens the existing happiness of a family, all depending on the attitude and handling of the people involved.

The key is to be honest with each other from the beginning and treat each other in a civilized manner, then old love stories and feelings will all become beautiful love stories.

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/tinh-cu-bong-nhien-xuat-hien-hon-nhan-dang-nong-thanh-cam-lanh-20241103100231724.htm