Depression and sharing, sympathy

With the development of information technology, people, especially young people, are gradually becoming more aware of learning about and taking care of their mental health. Since then, the story of depression has received more attention. But for parents, accompanying their children to overcome the disease is a challenging and arduous journey.

Does pressure still create diamonds?

Unlike physical problems, mental instability often has no specific signs, making it difficult for relatives and the patient to detect in time. Many people mistakenly think that negative emotions are the result of pressure from studying and working, so they do not pay too much attention. Only when the patient shows strange symptoms such as depression, prolonged insomnia, and inability to control emotions,... do the family realize and seek treatment.

Thinking that her daughter was strong, good at enduring pressure and solving problems, Ms. Xuan Phuong (50 years old, living in Hoc Mon district, Ho Chi Minh City) was not too surprised when her daughter seemed tired every day after work. Ngoc Trang (26 years old, Ms. Xuan Phuong's daughter) recently changed jobs because the previous company encountered difficulties and went bankrupt.

The change in work environment was the most plausible reason for her sadness and depression, so the mother and daughter did not pay much attention. It was not until Trang gradually became exhausted and had negative thoughts that they went to see a psychologist that they realized that Trang had fallen into a rather severe depression.

“Going to work is stressful because it is not suitable for the culture, environment and work of the new company. But staying at home is stressful because you do not earn money to take care of your family...”. Like that, for many weeks, Trang fell into a vicious cycle of unanswered worries, she gradually fell into crisis and lost faith in life.

Associate Professor, Dr. Nguyen Phuong Hoa shares about common signs when children have depression.

The process of developing depression does not happen overnight, but is the result of a long period of emotional repression. Ms. Do Giang (45 years old, living in Binh Thanh District, Ho Chi Minh City) and her daughter used to live in Russia. She said that at first, her daughter was very obedient and her academic performance was always excellent. But when she was in her second year of university, her daughter went back to Vietnam to visit and did not return to Russia, and at the same time cut off contact with her family.

Confused, she sought out all of her child's friends and teachers for information, and only then did she learn that her child had been suffering from depression for a long time. After taking her child to see a psychologist and listening to her story, she realized that the pressure she had put on her child all this time was the main reason why she had always been withdrawn and suppressed her emotions.

She said that she is a perfectionist, so in addition to good academic performance, she also wants her daughter to learn many things to live a standard life like an Asian woman. Her wishes have caused her daughter, who used to be a good and excellent student, to now not want to go to school, lose joy, energy and motivation to live.

“Thinking back to that time, I always blame myself for putting pressure on my child, making him no longer comfortable deciding his own life,” Ms. Do Giang shared.

Solid support

Psychologists say that depression is a multifactorial disease, formed from many complex reasons, so it often makes patients and their relatives confused.

Sharing about how to accompany and care for relatives with depression, Associate Professor, Dr. Nguyen Phuong Hoa, Director of the Institute of Psychology and Communication said: “The best thing parents can do is to love, share and sympathize. First of all, keep an open relationship in the family so that we can exchange and understand each other best, and at the same time pay attention to the children to recognize their distress messages. In addition, each person needs to maintain a healthy lifestyle to keep themselves positive, ready to help themselves and others.”

Talking about the increasing number of young people suffering from depression, many people think that this is unreasonable because society has developed. On the other hand, many parents also think that their children are weak and do not want to overcome difficulties, so they have mental problems.

However, it is important to understand that each era has its own difficulties. In the digital age, young people find it difficult to stay mentally stable when having to receive diverse and multi-dimensional information streams. Moreover, the rapid changes in society also partly make many people feel left behind, confused and gradually losing control.

Above all, besides actively learning and studying about depression, the most important thing is to maintain a positive and optimistic attitude towards the disease. In order not to be caught up in the emotional whirlwind of their children, parents should give their children their own space to be themselves, and at the same time pay attention to their changes and expressions. When there is sympathy and companionship from parents, all difficulties will be erased, leaving valuable lessons about family cohesion.

GRACE

Source: https://www.sggp.org.vn/tram-cam-va-su-chia-se-cam-thong-post797095.html