Does pressure still create diamonds?
Unlike physical problems, mental instability often has no specific symptoms, making it difficult for family members and the patient themselves to detect it in time. Many people mistakenly believe negative emotions are a consequence of academic or work pressure and therefore don't pay much attention to them. Only when the patient exhibits unusual symptoms such as lethargy, prolonged insomnia, or inability to control emotions, do families realize the problem and seek treatment.
Thinking her daughter was strong, good at handling pressure and solving problems, Ms. Xuan Phuong (50 years old, residing in Hoc Mon District, Ho Chi Minh City) wasn't too surprised when her daughter seemed tired every day after work. Ngoc Trang (26 years old, Ms. Xuan Phuong's daughter) had recently changed jobs because her previous company was facing difficulties and went bankrupt.
The change in work environment was the most plausible reason for Trang's sadness and depression, so the mother and daughter didn't pay much attention to it. It wasn't until Trang became increasingly exhausted and had negative thoughts that they took her to a psychologist and discovered she had fallen into a fairly severe stage of depression.
“Going to work was stressful because I didn't fit in with the culture, environment, and job of the new company. But staying home was stressful because I wasn't earning money to support my family…” For weeks, Trang was trapped in a vicious cycle of unanswered worries, gradually falling into a crisis and losing faith in life.
The development of depression doesn't happen overnight, but is the result of a long period of suppressed emotions. Ms. Do Giang (45 years old, residing in Binh Thanh District, Ho Chi Minh City) and her daughter used to live in Russia. She recounted that initially, her daughter was very obedient and always had excellent academic achievements. But when she was in her second year of university, her daughter returned to Vietnam for a visit and never came back to Russia, simultaneously cutting off contact with the family.
Confused, she contacted all of her child's friends and teachers to ask for information, and only then did she learn that her child had been suffering from depression for a long time. After taking her child to see a psychologist and listening to her story, she realized that the pressure she had placed on her child over the years was the main reason why her child had always withdrawn and suppressed their emotions.
She said that she is a perfectionist, so besides good academic achievements, she also wants her daughter to learn many things to live a virtuous life like an East Asian woman. Her expectations have caused her daughter, who was once a bright and excellent student, to now not want to go to school, losing her joy, energy, and motivation to live.
"Looking back on that time, I always blame myself for putting so much pressure on my child, making it difficult for her to make her own life decisions," Ms. Do Giang shared.
A solid foundation
Psychologists say that depression is a multifactorial illness, stemming from many complex reasons, which often leaves patients and their families bewildered.
Sharing her thoughts on how to support and care for loved ones suffering from depression, Associate Professor Dr. Nguyen Phuong Hoa, Director of the Institute of Psychology and Communication, said: “The best thing parents can do is to love, share, and empathize. First and foremost, maintain an open relationship within the family to facilitate communication and understanding, while also paying attention to the child to recognize their pleas for help. In addition, each person needs to maintain a healthy lifestyle to stay positive and ready to help themselves and others.”
Regarding the increasing number of young people suffering from depression, many people find this illogical given the current state of society. On the other hand, many parents believe that their children's mental health problems stem from their own weakness and unwillingness to overcome difficulties.
However, it's important to understand that each era has its own challenges. In the digital age, young people find it difficult to maintain composure when faced with diverse and multifaceted streams of information. Furthermore, the rapid changes in society also leave many feeling left behind, confused, and gradually losing control.
Above all, besides proactively learning about depression, it's crucial to maintain a positive and optimistic attitude towards the illness. To avoid being swept up in their child's emotional turmoil, parents should give their children space to be themselves, while also paying attention to their changes and expressions. With empathy and support from parents, difficulties will be overcome, leaving behind valuable lessons about family bonding.
Source: https://www.sggp.org.vn/tram-cam-va-su-chia-se-cam-thong-post797095.html
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