To keep the home free of violence

Love and share to create a happy home.

The pain is still there

Recently, public opinion was shocked by the story of a mother in Quang Nam province who cruelly killed her two sons to collect insurance money. Heartbreaking. The ancients taught: "A fierce tiger does not eat its own cubs." However, that mother took the lives of her own children to get money.

I do not bring up stories from a foreign country to hedge and then recount the pain called domestic violence (DV) in Thai Nguyen. Because in reality, there are many reasons for family violence. It mainly happens in families with unequal lifestyles, members lack respect for each other, their egos are too big, no one is willing to give in and they talk to each other with their hands and feet, or stay silent as if they do not exist in the house.

In everyday life, in the family, anyone can become a perpetrator or a victim of violence. Violence occurs in many forms, mainly physical, mental, economic and sexual. The victims of violence are often dependent people, and occur in families with unequal living conditions.

Mr. Hoang Van Tho (in Hoang Van Thu ward, Thai Nguyen city) shared: Every time they are angry, his wife uses the cold war tactic. She doesn't talk all day, doesn't answer when asked, and has "bullet-shaped" eyes that annoy the whole family.

Mr. Tran Hung Cuong (in Quang Trung ward, Thai Nguyen city) complained: Everyone said I was lucky, getting married was like "a mouse falling into rice". But inside I was always miserable because every time I was unhappy, my wife complained about... other people's husbands.

The elders say: “Even dishes can sometimes collide, let alone a husband and wife relationship.” But there are families where “the rice is boiling but the fire won’t go down.” Husband and wife argue, can’t stand it anymore and start to fight. At least they get bruised on the face, at worst they end up in the hospital…

Until now, many Thai Nguyen people still remember the heartbreaking incident that happened in Son Phu commune (Dinh Hoa). Hoang Minh Tuan had the heart to kill his wife, then kill 5 relatives he met, causing 4 deaths and 1 person to be hospitalized.

Ms. Nguyen Thi Dung (in Thuong Dinh commune, Phu Binh) was praised by the people in the area for being gentle and kind. But in a moment, she became a murderer of her husband. That day, her husband threatened to kill her with a sword if she did not give him money to gamble. She had been resentful many times, then, as if "the last straw", she fiercely resisted. Snatching the sword from her husband's hand, she became angry like a mad person, then sat down on the ground, sobbing for her fate.

Members of the Son Ca Dance Club of Thai Nguyen province share experiences in preserving family happiness.

The whole society joins in

Building a family according to the standards of “prosperity, equality, progress, and happiness” is the goal that the whole society strives for. Especially in socio-economic development, Thai Nguyen always pays attention to directing the effective implementation of family work, taking the goal of building a prosperous, equal, progressive, happy, and civilized family as the orientation for sustainable family development.

Ms. Pham Tuyet Bao, Deputy Head of the Department of Cultural Management (Department of Culture, Sports and Tourism), said: Family is the root of society. The provincial authorities have nurtured that root to be green, blossoming and bearing fruit through family economic development movements; attaching importance to social security work, building cultural families, and establishing art and sports clubs. The activities attract a large number of people to participate, creating an exciting competitive atmosphere, while also allowing everyone to meet, exchange and share information, thereby promptly advising and encouraging each other to build a family home without violence.

Every year, the province's functional departments and agencies regularly organize specialized activities related to family work, such as thematic activities responding to the National Action Month on preventing and combating domestic violence; building and maintaining family happiness in the context of the 4.0 era; and implementing the Family Code of Conduct throughout the province.

Regarding the work of preventing and combating domestic violence, the province has nearly 1,500 trusted addresses in the community; nearly 1,000 groups for preventing domestic violence; 100% of communes, wards and towns in the province have established hotlines to receive information about domestic violence; 100% of commune, ward and town health stations have established temporary shelters for victims of domestic violence. However, for many years now, the trusted and temporary shelters in the province have not had victims come to stay temporarily.

That demonstrates the success of the involvement of relevant levels and sectors, directly the Department of Culture, Sports and Tourism. Visual propaganda activities using slogans, billboards, posters; through mass media and social networking applications have contributed to raising awareness of family work among the people. In particular, the movement "All people unite to build a cultural life" is increasingly going into depth. Along with that, the activities of grassroots mediation teams always promptly "cool down" unnecessary disputes.

Despite her busy work, Ms. Dang Thi Giang (in Pho Co ward, Song Cong city) always tries to spend time with her children every day.

Many families where husband and wife used to scold each other, after being analyzed by members of the mediation team, realized their mistakes and gave up completely so as not to push the family into a broken situation.

Ms. Nguyen Thi Thang (in An Chau residential group, Mo Che ward, Song Cong city) shared: In my family, everyone knows how to respect each other, so everything is harmonious.

Regarding the story of building a non-violent home, Mr. Ma Dinh Duoc (in Hoang Ha hamlet, Phu Dinh commune, Dinh Hoa) said simply: A house must have a roof, meaning that there must be order in the family. Children and grandchildren must speak politely to their elders. Grandparents and parents must treat their children and grandchildren with respect, and husband and wife must be equal.

“Ending violence, cultivating love”, aiming to build a prosperous, equal, progressive and happy Vietnamese family is the desire of everyone and the whole society. To make it come true, first of all, each member must respect and cherish the standard values ​​of the traditional family, not allowing social evils and pragmatic lifestyles to penetrate family life. Only then will domestic violence end, and love be cultivated.

(The names of some characters in the article have been changed)

Source: https://baothainguyen.vn/xa-hoi/202505/de-mai-am-khong-bao-luc-a0b0674/