A series of innocent questions that make listeners allergic every Tet holiday
Báo Lao Động•06/02/2024
Every time Tet comes, besides the joy of family reunion, many people also face fear when asked questions like "when will you get married", "how much is your monthly salary"...
Many people are afraid of facing "inappropriate" questions every Tet holiday. Photo: Phan Anh"When are you getting married?" "When are you getting married", "Where is your lover and why haven't you introduced him/her?"... are the most "haunting" questions of young people every Tet holiday. After a year of hard work, Tet is a time to rest, meet, and visit. However, we should pay attention to other people's feelings, not delve too deeply into personal issues. No one wants to be gossiped about, become the subject of other people's "entertaining" stories during Tet. "How much is your monthly salary, is your Tet bonus high?" Besides the story of getting married, the issue of salary and bonus also makes many people want to avoid gathering during Tet. This is considered a sensitive issue for each individual, so no one wants to compare specific numbers with others. However, the issue of salary is always mentioned the most every Tet holiday. Most people do not feel comfortable when asked a lot about salary, bonus, and money for Tet greetings. "Recently, do you seem darker/fatter/gained weight?" Insensitive questions related to appearance are what women fear most during the New Year. Especially when asked in crowded places, this story will become an obsession that many people want to avoid. Each person's appearance can change every day, depending on many different factors. There are times when our skin and weight are not as desired, but that is not something that should be brought up for discussion or inquiry. "What will you do after studying that major? Is the salary high?" Questions related to future orientation and work are often difficult to answer, making many young people feel awkward. Of course, there will be people who have already determined their goals and are on the way to realizing them. But there are also young people who are in a period of experimentation, busy searching for their personal passion. Questions about the future are often difficult to answer. For people we trust, we can confide in and ask for advice. Or you can avoid it by politely thanking and changing the subject. These are common social questions during Tet, but they make many young people uncomfortable and unwilling to face them. Marriage, work and economic issues are sensitive issues, not everyone is willing to share. "When will you have a baby/ Will you have another child to have a son?" For newlywed couples, the question they receive the most every Tet is "when will you have a baby" or "when will you have another child to have a sister, a brother..." for long-time couples. Having children depends on each person's thoughts and feelings, as well as the family's financial situation. Therefore, many people feel pressured when faced with such questions.
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