A series of seemingly innocent questions that annoy listeners every Tet holiday.
Báo Lao Động•06/02/2024
Every Lunar New Year, besides the joy of family reunions, many people also face the fear of being asked questions like "When are you getting married?", "How much is your monthly salary?"
Many people dread facing awkward or inappropriate questions during Tet (Lunar New Year). Photo: Phan Anh"When are you getting married?" "When are you getting married?", "Where's your boyfriend? Why don't you bring him home to introduce him?"... These are some of the most "haunting" questions young people ask during Tet (Lunar New Year). After a year of hard work, Tet is a time for rest, reunions, and visits. However, we should be mindful of other people's feelings and not delve too deeply into personal matters. No one wants to be the subject of gossip or become the topic of other people's "entertainment" during Tet. "How much is your monthly salary? Is your Tet bonus high?" Besides the topic of marriage, the issue of salary and bonuses also makes many people want to avoid gatherings during Tet. This is considered a sensitive issue for each individual, so no one wants to have to compare specific figures with others. Even so, salary is always the most frequently mentioned topic during Tet. Most people feel uncomfortable being asked too many questions about their salary, bonuses, and money spent on Tet greetings. "You seem darker/fatter/gained weight lately?" These insensitive questions about appearance are what women dread most during the Lunar New Year. Especially when asked in crowded places, this topic becomes a nightmare that many want to avoid. A person's appearance can change daily, depending on many factors. There are times when our skin and weight aren't ideal, but that's something that shouldn't be discussed or asked about. "What will you do after studying that major? Is the salary high?" Questions related to future career paths are often difficult to answer, making many young people feel awkward. Of course, some have already set goals and are working towards achieving them. But there are also young people who are experimenting, busy searching for their personal passions. Questions about the future are often difficult to answer. We can confide in and ask for advice from someone we trust. Alternatively, you can avoid the question by politely thanking them and changing the subject. These are common social questions during Tet (Lunar New Year), but they can make many young people uncomfortable and unwilling to confront them. Issues like marriage, work, and finances are sensitive topics, and not everyone is willing to share them. "When are you going to have a baby? / Are you planning to have another child to have a son?" For newlywed couples, the most frequent question they receive during Tet is "when are you going to have a baby?" or "when are you going to have another child so there's a sibling..." for long-married couples. Having children depends on each person's mindset and thoughts, as well as the family's financial situation. Therefore, many people feel pressured when faced with such questions.
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