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My teacher and his wife were soul mates. Both were born after 1970, and when they first met, they immediately fell in love and have been together for more than twenty years. They share the same interests and passions, the wife is absorbed in painting, the husband is immersed in martial arts, practicing boxing at home every day.
I once asked him why he chose to live a childless life. He calmly replied, just let things take their natural course. They always said that cultivating in the mortal world was already difficult, if they did not have enough ability, they would not dare to risk bringing a living being into this world .
When they were young, the couple traveled to many places in the country, even to difficult highlands without hesitation.
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Their two-room house has a bedroom with a bed and solid-colored curtains. The living room has only a yoga mat, a dining table, and a massive bookshelf.
They have no refrigerator, no television, only cook for that day, buy only enough food so no need for refrigerator or microwave. There is only one sofa, made by the teacher's wife from fabric found at the market thanks to her specialized skills in fashion design.
What they like best is to sit together in the tea room after work and chat.
When she was young, his wife was passionate about painting, so he left her at home to paint every day while he went to work. A few years later, his wife returned to work, working for a publishing house, illustrating textbooks for students . They always supported each other in their hobbies and passions.
I also asked them a very practical question, what will happen next?
He said that he and his wife practice boxing every day and are in very good health. "If we are really unwell, we will go to the doctor. If the illness cannot be cured, we will not try to live. Life is about the quality of each moment, not the number of days that pass. I do not fight with others."
Because I have known him for a long time, I also know some things about him. He was born into a wealthy family, the eldest son, and learned everything very quickly from a young age. But his mother preferred his successful younger brother, and she almost lost contact with him after his father passed away.
A few years ago, she suddenly contacted him just to ask him to give up his inheritance of the house. The teacher and his wife did not care about these things, so they agreed. But a few years later, his mother was seriously ill and hospitalized, his younger brother rarely appeared, but his mother did not have the face to ask the teacher to take care of her. Later, his wife advised the teacher that they should go take care of his mother, and he finally listened.
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His wife often encouraged him that one needs to learn to let go first, then to hold on.
When she was young, my wife was devoted to her mother-in-law. But my mother-in-law did not like her, always comparing her to her younger brother. My wife did not complain, just did what she needed to do. She did not calculate, nor argue, always calmly did what she thought was right, outside things or other people had very little effect on her.
His wife supported him in everything. She never talked about money, nor did she worry too much because she was always able to earn money at any time. She never encouraged him to work hard to earn money, not letting the pressures of life push him into the secular world. She was very clear about her partner's personality.
In this world, everyone bows their heads for profit, but the couple has tried their best to keep themselves from falling into this vortex. The harmony between husband and wife is part of following nature.
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In recent years, I have come to understand many things from the life of my teacher and his wife - two simple and ordinary people in society out there.
Choosing to be childless is just a formality, it does not define a person. Whatever the choice, he said being satisfied with your decision is the most important thing.
Keep your mind steady and protect your body (health) well, then you can protect the people you love.
The essence of simplicity is letting go. The heart is open and peaceful, even if the noble person does not come, it does not matter, you are the noble person who saves your life.
May you be calm and gentle in the later part of your life.
The wife set a trap to lure her husband into having an affair but it was unsuccessful, but she still decided to divorce him.Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/nhin-cach-song-hai-vo-chong-nguoi-thay-giao-toi-moi-nhan-ra-hanh-phuc-va-du-day-that-su-de-tim-172240520112510779.htm
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