Looking at the way the teacher and his wife lived, I realized that happiness and fulfillment are really easy to find.

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My teacher and his wife were soul mates. Both were born after 1970, and when they first met, they immediately fell in love and have been together for more than twenty years. They shared the same interests and passions, the wife was absorbed in painting, the husband was immersed in martial arts, practicing at home every day.

I once asked him why he chose to live without children. He calmly replied, just let things take their natural course. They always say that practicing in the mortal world is already difficult, if they did not have the ability, they would not dare to risk bringing a living being into this world .

When they were young, the couple traveled to many places in the country, even to difficult highlands without hesitation.

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Their two-room house has a bedroom with a bed and solid-colored curtains. The living room has only a yoga mat, a dining table, and a massive bookshelf.

They had no refrigerator, no television, only cooked for the day, and only bought enough food so they didn't need a refrigerator or microwave. There was only one sofa, which the teacher's wife made herself from fabric found at the market thanks to her fashion design skills.

What they like best is after work, sitting together in the tea room drinking tea and chatting.

When she was young, his wife was passionate about painting, so he left her at home to paint every day while he went to work. A few years later, his wife returned to work, working for a publishing house, illustrating textbooks for students . They always supported each other in their hobbies and passions.

I also asked them a very practical question, what will happen next?

He said that he and his wife practice boxing every day and are in very good health. "If we are really unwell, we will go to the doctor. If the illness cannot be cured, we will not try to live. Life is about the quality of each moment, not the number of days that pass. I do not fight with others."

Because I have known him for a long time, I also know some of his stories. He was born into a wealthy family, the eldest son, and learned everything very quickly from a young age. But his mother preferred his younger brother to be successful, and she almost lost contact with him after his father passed away.

A few years ago, she suddenly contacted him just to ask him to give up his inheritance of the house. The teacher and his wife did not care about these things, so they agreed. But a few years later, his mother was seriously ill and hospitalized. His younger brother rarely appeared, but his mother no longer had the face to ask the teacher to take care of her. Later, his wife advised the teacher that they should go take care of his mother, and he finally listened.

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His wife often encouraged him that one needs to learn to let go first, then to hold on.

When she was young, his wife was devoted to her mother-in-law. But her mother-in-law did not like her, always comparing her to her younger brother. His wife did not complain, just did what she needed to do. She did not calculate, nor argue, always calmly did what she thought was right, outside things or other people had very little effect on her.

His wife supported him in everything. She never talked about money, nor did she worry too much because she was always able to earn money at any time. She never encouraged him to work hard to earn money, not letting the pressures of life push him into the secular world. She was very clear about her partner's personality.

In this world, everyone bows their heads for profit, but the couple has tried their best to keep themselves from falling into this vortex. The harmony between husband and wife is part of following nature.

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In recent years, I have come to understand many things from the life of my teacher and his wife - two simple and ordinary people in society out there.

Choosing not to have children is just a formality, it does not define a person. Whatever the choice, he said being satisfied with your decision is the most important thing.

Keep your mind steady and protect your body (health), then you can protect the people you love.

The essence of simplicity is letting go. With an open and peaceful heart, it doesn't matter if the right person doesn't come, you are the right person to save your life.

May you be calm and gentle in the later part of your life.

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/nhin-cach-song-hai-vo-chong-nguoi-thay-giao-toi-moi-nhan-ra-hanh-phuc-va-du-day-that-su-de-tim-172240520112510779.htm