Gender equality does not necessarily mean that whatever men can do, they also create conditions for women to express themselves, nor does it mean that men have to share all the housework instead of their wives.
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| From her perspective, Ms. To Thuy Diem Quyen believes that gender equality does not mean that men need to take on all the housework for their wives. |
In recent years, the international community has highly appreciated our country’s efforts in achieving gender equality. It can be said that Vietnam is considered quite open about its views on gender equality. There are positive signs on this issue, most clearly demonstrated among young people.
Gen Z doesn’t even believe that the concept of “husband is king, wife is servant” ever existed. Young couples today know how to divide housework equally, and boys have beentaught by their mothers to help their wives.
My son often shows off to the family group the beautiful dishes he cooks and presents. I ask him, “Why do you always take over your wife’s territory?” He replies, “Between washing dishes and cooking, I choose cooking because I don’t like washing dishes.”
I am relieved that my children treat each other fairly and voluntarily, one of the signs of happiness. However, in other provinces, gender equality seems to have not progressed clearly.
Gender equality does not necessarily mean that whatever men can do, they also create conditions for women to demonstrate; nor does it mean that men need to share all the housework for their wives. I prefer the word "fair" because if the husband is too focused on his career, he needs to shoulder the work that is within the skill or strength of a man, as long as he does not leave it to women.
Policies to promote gender equality or as we have just seen "gender equity" can list a few suggestions. Specifically, equal wages for men and women; regulations for fathers to learn how to care for and raise children; female students should not be forced to wear ao dai to school but should wear trousers and shirts like men; women should be encouraged to participate in the technology field; girls should not be raised to sacrifice for their husbands and children, to have the responsibility to serve and take care of their husband's family but should only do it out of love...
In my opinion, the solid foundation for achieving national gender equality goals in the coming period is education. In which, men must respect women and children. Mothers teach their sons to share housework, to take care of themselves, not to demand care, and not to impose patriarchy. Secondly, the law is stricter and has enough legal protection for women. At the same time, girls are educated to say "no", to protect themselves, to seek protection and to defend their friends.
Fighting for women’s rights is necessary. However, educating girls to understand their legal and reasonable privileges will help them set limits for themselves. From there, they will not compromise with acts of violation or mental and physical violence. Protecting yourself is more important than waiting for support from the outside.
Many people ask me how women can survive and develop in the digital age? I think that always being aware that not developing is falling behind, so I never stop learning. We only need keywords to find quick solutions to any problem.
The birth of ChatGPT is a great advantage for learning but also a challenge because it will replace many human tasks. To survive and not be left behind, you must master technology, whether you are male or female.
There are many people who have the prejudice that women are not good at technology and that this is a field for men. However, many women who have achieved success in the field of technology are proof that this prejudice is not true. Women should not be afraid of changes in the world , especially technology. Be curious, explore and be interested in technology. That way, you will automatically turn challenges into opportunities.
In fact, I myself was once caught up in the whirlwind of life without having time to look back at myself. Before, I considered myself a fragile, vulnerable woman. Since childhood, I lived in a family with abundant material things, loved and pampered by everyone. However, I did not have the skills to identify the uncertainties, the things that could hurt me.
From personal experience, I believe that women need skills to find happiness for themselves, in which financial management is extremely important. Women should not sacrifice and rush to earn money just because they love their husband and children. Women should know how to love and cherish themselves, and know how to manage family finances so that they do not fall into a deadlock or disappointment. That is a wise woman.
Personally, I only realized it when I was over 40 and started to change myself. Women are like a guitar and the husband is the musician. If the guitar is in the hands of a good player, the sound will be good and vice versa.
I think that women’s lack of skills makes them not know how to measure their limits. If in families where the husband is a patriarchal, abusive person, the more resigned the woman is, the more disadvantaged she will be. At that time, it will be difficult for them to escape their own shadow as well as the deadlocks they are facing. Therefore, women should always equip themselves with skills. When we have skills, we will live better and know how to protect ourselves. Gender equality in the family sometimes starts from the awareness of the people involved.
Education expert To Thuy Diem Quyen is the founder and CEO of InnEdu, one of the 20 inspirational women of 2021 voted by Forbes Vietnam. She has worked in education for 30 years in three roles: teacher, trainer and owner of educational business InnEdu, specializing in STEAM. Expert Diem Quyen is also a lecturer in the Ministry of Education and Training 's innovation programs, and a judge in local and national innovative teacher competitions. She has trained and coached more than 60,000 educational leaders and teachers in more than 40 provinces and cities on STEAM-related skills, applying information technology in teaching, creative teaching methods and creating positive motivation for students. In 2014, she participated in the Global Education Forum in Spain and was also the first Vietnamese person to be recognized by Microsoft as an innovative education expert (Microsoft Innovative Educator Expert Fellow). In October 2020, InnEdu, which she founded, became Microsoft's first global training partner in Vietnam. |
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